[Katie]

Make whatever response you feel comfortable making. Anything personal or unduly complimentary makes me feel uncomfortable, so I try to communicate that. If I feel like the person is trying to honestly be friendly, I’ll be friendly right back. Do what feels right. You’ll never be able to communicate ‘cool-white-woman-who’s-not-ditzy-and-is-friendly’ simply by the way you respond to a hello. Stop agonizing and stop trying.

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Name : Katie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : mixed Korean and White, Religion : Atheist, Age : 23, City : Washington, State : DC, Country : United States, Occupation : retail, Education level : 4 Years of College, 

[Kate]

I usually just laugh-and shake my head, which sends the message thanks but no thanks. It’s not really flattering since I’ve seen toothless grandmas get ‘holla’d at’ too, but I’ve heard some funny lines (‘Why go home to a kittycat when you can play with a tiger?’ when I said i was going home to my husband)It’s generally playful, but, in my experience, sometimes you have to be ‘bitchy’ to someone who is seriously invading your space; ie: trying to follow you home. My dad’s wife was wondering why white men are ‘mutes’ here in the states, because in her part of Latin America men were very demonstrative, while the women walked by looking straight ahead. I use the past tense because I have noticed that in the past ten years or so Latino guys have really downscaled the verbal communications to women they don’t know.

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Name : Kate, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Hispanic/White, Religion : Atheist, Age : 32, City : Seattle, State : WA, Country : United States, Occupation : Retail, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class, 

[AmyM]

In my experience (and I have lived in a largely black urban area for many years) simply saying “thank you” “how ya’ doin” or smiling achieves the goal of treating the man like a human being while maintaining one’s own safety. The important caveat is to keep moving- if you slow down, that can be taken as a sign of interest! Also, as simple as it seems, how you wear your hair can make a big difference. I’ve noticed that long flowing hair attracts a lot of attention. Be Kind, for everyone is fighting a great battle." -Plato

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Name : AmyM, Gender : Female, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 42, City : Philadelphia, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

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