[Lori]

My husband and I have been married 20 years and have five kids. I have always been insecure that my vagina has become ‘stretched out’ by childbirth. I do the kegals and all, and my husband tells me he loves it. He says that once a woman is very aroused it doesn’t matter. I think he is telling me that because he knows it bothers me and he loves me. To men in similar circumstances: is it true?

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[Jennifer30858]

Your question is very good as well as important. I don´t have an answer for it, but there´s another thing I´ve been wondering about. Is it possible for the womans clitoris or other sensitive parts of her vagina to be damaged by childbirth?

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[Stewart]

Lori, if your husband was unhappy with you, he couldn’t hide it if he wanted to. Do you spend time wondering if sex would be better if your husband’s penis was bigger? I doubt it. Let’s say your vagina has stretched a bit, and you husband can tell. That’s the worst case, right?. Now consider all aspects of your sex life – the emotional bond, the many ways you can enjoy each other, all the different positions, the unique rhythms between you, the way you hold him in your arms – there’s so much to it. In this context, how much does your vagina’s tightness really matter? Instead of wondering about this, the next time you’re being intimate think of new ways to touch him. Let your insecurity fuel your imagination in finding new ways to communicate your love. If you’re concerned about his pleasure, order a book the two of you can read together that describes new ways of being intimate. I suspect he’s uncomfortable discussing this with you, because he has no desire to measure someone he loves. Men just don’t think about such things too much, we typically focus more on the whole experience. In case you’re worried that he’s not quite as jackrabbit-like as he used to be, this is more likely his entry into middle age than anything about you.

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[S-C]

Don’t worry about that. I dated a woman that had 4 children. There was no real difference down there that I could tell. Everything was fine. It just didn’t matter at all. 🙂

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[Steven P.]

It is true. For me, the important thing is having a partner with a very enthusiatic response to sex. I enjoy it when my partner is open to variations, and ‘shows off’. What she is showing (shape, size…) isn’t as important as attitude…

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[Danf]

A woman who gives birth vaginally may be more streched out than one who hasn’t .. .just like a woman who has breastfed has changes in her breasts. . .although I have never experienced ‘before’ and ‘after’ with the same woman, I can attest to a difference generally. Trust your husband. . .I’m sure that he still ‘enjoys’ you there. . .Knowing that I make love to the woman who bore my child takes it to another level and any slight looseness is inconsequential.

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[Jim30730]

A couple of thoughts for you. First,if you are a nurse you should know all about the elasticity of this area from your years of study? My wife and I have been married 24 years and have five children. I’d by lying if I said it was as ‘tight’ as it was the first time however it is still a very good ‘fit’ and I’d have to agree with your husband about a woman being aroused. Try to focus on some other aspect of your love making!

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[Jeff31175]

Personally, I enjoy a looser fit far more than one that is tight. The freedom of movement is a big plus, it gives me more control over the interaction, and it actually makes it last longer. A firm ‘grip’ is often too intense — I either don’t enjoy it at all, or I enjoy it so much it’s over far too soon.

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[John D]

There’s two ways to answer this. The first is the physical, which breaks down like this: (1) Your body is designed to recover from the effects of having and bearing children. (2) You’ve been doing exercises to specifically designed to increase the strength of the vaginal muscles. (3) The one person in all Known Space in the best position to judge thinks you feel great. So I wouldn’t worry about it. Then there’s the emotional side. Sex – particularly for people who’ve been together for a number of years – isn’t just a matter of friction and lubrication. Does my wife look and feel exactly like the young woman I married those 19 years and two children ago? Probably not, but I still find her tremendously exciting, and the screwing is just great, thank you. The fact I love her so much probably has a lot more to to do with it than the particular mechanics of it all.

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[dee25799]

if your doing kagals you should be fine. i have heard that woman in other contries can hold a pencil after child birth by doing kagals. ture or not i dont. know but my husband sure thinks so.

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[stephanie27792]

Although I’m younger and have only 1 child, my hujsband told me that I am tighter then girls he’s been with that have no kids. I too was worried about this after having my son. I would guess that just like any other muscle if you keep working it out it should stay tight!

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[Scott]

After two children, my wife definitely experienced some stretching. I don’t consider it a problem, and I don’t find sex any less enjoyable because of it. There is something on the market that will temporarily put you back the way you were. It’s called ‘China Shrink Cream,’ and it works very well. When my wife uses this cream, it’s like she was 17 again.

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[Kris, Alberta]

Where does your wife get that cream you were talking about?

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[Amanda31492]

Stop feeling bad!!!! Having children does not mean you are ‘looser’ or stretched out. Your body is able to strech and return to normal size…I asked my husband if he noticed any thing and he is honest, and answered that there is a slight difference, but nothing that changed the way it felt during intercourse. Don’t stress out about it, the more you think about it, the less you will enjoy sex. Your husband obviously loves you and still enjoys you.

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[J21159]

I have two kids with my wife. For a few months after birth there was a little stretching , but , before long she was back to normal again. It really doesn’t make that big of a difference either way.

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