[John]

Southern wives who dote on their husbands should not be such a surprise. My mother’s side of the family hails from South Carolina and they consider themselves the furthest thing from ‘feminists.’ They think such women are more likely to be Northerners and more secular than Southern women, who tend to be more religious and traditional. This kind of treatment stems more from deference and respect than it does from patronizing their men.

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Name : John, Gender : M, City : Jacksonville, State : FL, Country : United States, 

[Leslie R]

I am born and raised in a small town and trust me, there are those of us who don’t dote. My momma started out that way but after my daddy took off she raised me that I didn’t need a man to survive and that he can wait on his dang self! My first marriage didn’t work out for that very reason. He was too traditional. One night at dinner his dad told me to get him more tea! I told him I wasn’t his daughter or his wife and I didn’t do that for his son so I wasn’t doing it for him. With my current hubby I made sure he was secure enough in his manhood not to need that, and I also made it very clear of my equality point of view. There are still many young girls raised to be submissive, but hopefully as there are more of us who aren’t who have daughters of our own, someday we’ll be free of this.

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Name : Leslie R, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Methodist, Age : 28, City : Walnut Ridge, State : AR, Country : United States, Occupation : Business Owner, Education level : Technical School, Social class : Middle class, 

[Margaret]

I have not lived in the Deep South very long and am wondering if it is a ‘Southern thing’ for a wife to wait hand and foot on her husband. Many husbands act like they cannot do a thing for themselves. Age doesn’t seem to matter. To me, it almost demeans the husband, like he doesn’t have good enough sense to take care of himself!

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Name : Margaret, Gender : F, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 44, City : Albany, State : GA, Country : United States, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

[Wendy E]

We in the South are still traditionalists in many ways. My boyfriend and I have lived together for close to a year now. I get up at 5 am to make his breakfast and lunch and get his coffee. I then go wake him up and put the news on for him. Once he’s up and in the shower I get my kids’ breakfast ready. Then I get ready for work. When I get home I usually walk around the yard with him for about 30 minutes and then start dinner. Now I work a 40 hour week. He works as a superviser in construction and can work 25-50 hours a week. Do I mind taking on the extra work at home? No. He works in weather I wouldn’t dream of being in…hot and cold. His job is more physically demanding and mentally taxing. He has to be able to walk 2 stories high on pieces of wood an inch thick and 4 inches wide. He puts his life at risk when he works to provide for us. So I don’t mind doting on him, I love him. I know if I take care of him he’ll be there to provide for me tomorrow as well as be able to relax with on the weekends. So, please don’t look at all Southern women as doormats. We know what we’re doing.

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Name : Wendy E, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Wiccan, Age : 31, City : Huntsville, State : AL, Country : United States, Occupation : Office manager, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

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