[R.G.]

Are you as comfortable with light-skinned black people as you are with dark-skinned black people?

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Name : R.G., Gender : F, Race : Black/African American, Age : 27, City : Richmond, State : VA, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, 

[RobinW]

For me, skin color is not an issue. In fact, when I moved to the Detroit area 10 years ago and found that for many of my black friends it is, it really puzzled me. (Especially because there can be such a wide variation of skin tone within a family.) The black people I know care more about skin color than the white people I know, most of whom don’t care at all. I’m comfortable among people who are friendly and willing to talk with me, and uncomfortable among people who regard me with hostility. I think that’s true for most people. In my experience, if you want people to be relaxed around you, you should make an effort to be relaxed. (Relaxed, not rude.) Really listen to what they are saying. Pay attention to non-verbal cues regarding boundaries and comfort level. Treat them as equals. And have fun.

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Name : RobinW, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 46, City : Detroit, State : MI, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, 

[Mrs. Williams]

I am a very dark-complected black woman. I have always felt that the shade of my skin affected black people a whole lot more than any other race. I’m an attractive woman and so have had many black men say stupid things to me, like, ‘You’re pretty for a such a dark girl.’ For me, that’s the easiest way for a man to get a blow-off. I hate it. I wonder if being light is an automatic equal to being pretty to some black men. I hope that my son will not have this problem, and I try to make sure he knows that skin color is a poor sign of character and intelligence. I am very comfortable with people of all shades, but I do feel that a lot of black people are not.

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Name : Mrs. Williams, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 28, City : Athens, State : GA, Country : United States, Occupation : educator, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, 

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