[Mark-N]

How do women feel about the fact that men in general are physically stronger than women? Do you like being weaker, do you wish you were stronger, or is it something you never think about?
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Name : Mark-N, Gender : M, Age : 40, City : London, State : NA, Country : United Kingdom, 

[Jessica N.]

I hate to admit it, but I do sometimes wish women had the same physical strength as men (on average) for two reasons: 1) Men would no longer be able to call us the ‘weaker sex.’ 2) Women would feel less vulnerable in some cases of domestic violence, sexual assault, etc. Of course, I do in my heart believe women have remarkable strength of many kinds.

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Name : Jessica N., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 26, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, 

[Amy]

Yes! I certainly wish women were generally physically as strong as men, and as big. Aside from being safer in the world, I think it would change some of how our society is set up. I’m a fairly large, powerful woman: 5’8′ and 200 lbs. I also practice martial arts. After a Women’s Studies class I took in college, as an experiment, I stopped doing some of the inculturated submissive behaviors women are expected to do. These include “giving way” in the hall or on the sidewalk to men, dropping my eyes first after eye contact, allowing men to interrupt in a conversation, etc. All this was subconscious behavior I had learned from childhood on. The shock, anger and hostility I got from men was quite frankly shocking to me. I think the only way I got away with it was because I am a large and tough woman. I had guys body check me because they either didn’t care that I had right of way or were annoyed that I didn’t step out of the way. This was usually accompanied by snarled insults.

I think that if women were as strong/large as men that rape would be much less common. It’s easier to push around smaller, weaker people. I’m not bashing men in general. There are lots of caring, thoughtful men who are vehemently opposed to inequality. However, “force” is a pretty seductive power, and men (in general) are raised with the assumption and experience of superior force. Of course these are generalizations and there are exceptions, but it is very empowering to look straight into some threatening butthead’s eyes and know that I can whup his ass if he tries to back up his threats with force. I know that is not the case with most women … and that sucks.

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Name : Amy, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Buddhist, Age : 30, City : Milpitas, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Veterinary technician, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

[J.]

I think it’s wonderful that you have love like that but to ask, ‘What’s going on?’ I think you should know by now. the issues are really old. In this country, things are still black and white but your black friends may be wondering if you are in a colorless world. Is your marriage to this white man a self deception? have you assimilated yourself into white culture? Please don’t assume that a friend that would shy away from you was never really your friend. You could be very wrong. The issue is bigger than your friendship. If you’re really concerned about it, you’ll try to establish some kind of forum where you and your friends can talk. The black community has been hurt by racism and self hatred. We hate ourselves! Much of our affirmations of Black pride seem more like we’re trying to convince ourselves that we are worthy of pride. I think that you are in the perfect position to show your friends that you have not lost your sense of culture. Do you practice Kwanzaa with your husband? Do you participate in public events geared towards African-Americans? How much does your husband know and understand about your culture? I’m not talking about history, I’m talking about the idiosynchracies of ‘good hair’ and ‘bad hair’ for instance, why women lose their minds when they hear Luther Vandross, why you can’t eat everyone’s potato salad,the origins of ‘The Dozens’ and why a joke about ‘Yo Momma’ will always be funny. These are just examples, there is no handbook on black culture ( there could never be because we’ll always have cultures within cultures to contend with). Bottom line, do yor best to turn this situation around. Forge multicultural frienships with receptive people. You can’t go wrong if you continue to move in positive steps. The answer is never to withdraw, so please don’t. Keep fighting sister!!

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Name : J., Gender : F, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Baptist, Age : 24, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : Editorial Assistant, Education level : 4 Years of College, 

[Mya]

I really don’t mind the fact that men are physically stronger then women. But if men go around boasting about that, women can always kindly remind them of the fact that women are smarter. That should put them in their place!

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Name : Mya, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : European, Religion : Catholic, Age : 25, City : Mississauga, State : NY, Country : Canada, Social class : Lower middle class, 

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