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Is it normal for a 21-year-old woman to not have had her “first kiss” or gone out with a guy? I am such a person. Guys seem to avoid me. I don’t consider myself ugly. In fact, I’ve been told that I’m “pretty.” Are there certain types of girls/women guys stay away from? I’m quite petite, 5-2 and no more than 105 pounds. Do guys consider really petite girls a problem because they’re worried that we’re too delicate for them to handle?
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Name : Katherine26625, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Asian, Age : 21, City : Toronto, Ontario, State : NA, Country : Canada, Occupation : Student, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,My wife is 5’2″ (more or less) and around 105 pounds. I have never considered her petiteness a problem. I have noticed, though, that large differentials in size (height and weight) among couples are less common than they were, say, a generation ago, and sometimes I feel a bit ‘freakish’ in public (I’m 6’0′, around 250, proportionate) with my wife for this reason. You may have a Michael J. Fox in your future as opposed to a Michael Jordan.
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Name : Augustine23599, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 39, City : Columbia, State : SC, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Probably your looks are not what has discouraged men from asking you out, or giving you a kiss. Maybe you misinterpret the signals they give you, or maybe you don’t realize it when they are interested in you. Even if this hasn’t happened yet, it likely will soon. Sounds to me like you’re OK. Just keep living your life in ways that make you feel good about yourself.
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Name : Bill-B, Gender : M, City : Jacksonville, State : FL, Country : United States,Your ‘problem’ may relate to your heritage. I know many men who think Asian women are beautiful, and I’m one of them. I’ve never dated an Asian, though. The reason is that when I see an Asian woman I think is interesting, I always think she wouldn’t go out with because I’m white.
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Name : Mark A., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 32, City : Clinton Township, State : MI, Country : United States, Occupation : Paramedic, Education level : Technical School, Social class : Middle class,It could be that guys are intimidated. Do you know that feeling you get when you see a hottie of a guy and you start thinking, ‘No way would he talk to me’ or ‘He’s GOTTA have a girlfriend already’? Well, we guys think that way, too. Most guys consider themselves to be out of a pretty girl’s ‘league,’ and we usually start making assumptions (thinking she’s already taken, et al). Have patience, hun: My first kiss was a month before I turned 22!
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Name : Pike, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 25, City : Slidell, State : LA, Country : United States, Occupation : college student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College,Believe me, I’m certain that there is a guy out there who is dying inside because instead of noticing him, you’ve decided to bemoan your own loneliness. I am certain that if I knew you I would be crazy about you (you’ve just described yourself as the kind of girl I like). But because I’m so terrified of rejection, I’ve never asked a girl out in my entire life, and I’m 26 years old. I’m not saying you should jump at the chance to go out with any guy who approaches you, but maybe some guys are afraid of the way you might handle it if you had to turn them down.
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Name : Anonymous23686, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Jewish, Age : 26, City : Farmington Hills, State : MI, Country : United States, Occupation : Computers, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I don’t believe that your size has anything to do with your dateless status (and, no, at your age that isn’t very normal). After all there is a saying that goes ‘good things come in small packages’. There are possible two reasons you aren’t dating – 1) if you are ‘drop dead’ gorgeous, a lot of guys are intimidated by that and think that you have dates and boyfriends all over the place. As a result, they won’t ask you out for fear of being turned down. 2) If #1 isn’t the answer, it may be that you are projecting an attitude about yourself that suggests ‘back off’. We humans still retain some of our animal senses and that is one that men pick up pretty good. You might consider taking a long look in the mirror (or hiring a set of objective eyes) and see what your manner of dress, the way you wear your hair, the makeup, your body position and facial expression all say about you. If they don’t tell a guy that you’re interested and would like to get to know him better, they may be telling him ‘back off’. Also, what does your manner of speaking say about you? Do you sound like a sitcom or just someone who recently arrived here from another planet?
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Name : Pete S., Gender : M, Age : 51, City : Orlando, State : FL, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College,It doesn’t sound from your description of yourself that you are unattractive. Some guys like ‘big’ girls, some petite, it varies. No dates, huh? So, how many guys have you asked out? If it’s zero, why don’t you try it? Personally, I’d be incredibly flattered if a women ever asked me out on a date.
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Name : PW30322, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 33, City : Sydney, State : NA, Country : Australia, Occupation : I.T., Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Well I wouldn’t say normal… but there are plenty of guys who like petite women really on the grand scale of things you have nothing to worry about feel free to email me
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Name : Anthony, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Orthodox Christian, Age : 20, City : Austin, State : TX, Country : United States, Occupation : System Analyst, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,
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