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It’s obvious from J.’s response that we have some extremely uneducated people logging in. First of all, J, I know it’s perfectly fine to have your opinions. But at least have some decent reasons to back them up. Instead of exhibiting the same ignorance you displayed, I’ll stick to the facts because I’m simply better than ignorance. First, I despise the disrespect you seem to have toward black women (actually, toward all black people, as you also indicate later about black males). You have no firsthand knowledge about how a black woman is in bed, or how she acts in the presence of a coward. Thankfully, I’m confident that you never will. How many black male/white female couples do you personally associate with (not ‘know of,’ but associate with)? The answer is obvious. I’m sure that if you saw me with my woman, you’d think we were ‘an unholy pair representing the dregs of their respective races,’ as you stereotypically put it. Your profiling mind would be so confused if you actually got to know us. These ‘dregs’ are educated with 3.75 and 4.1 GPAs. Who’s unholy? I know it’s not holy to stereotype, so you certainly fit the description. The next time you see a black man with a white woman, think of me and my wife: Christians (yeah, we’re holy), madly in lov, and ready to raise our children together. P.S. My woman’s size is 34-26-34. That’s far from being a fat cow. Don’t worry, I’m not hoping you’re jealous. I’m just further pointing out how twisted your thinking is.
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Name : Tha-Real-Deal24732, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, City : P-town, State : IL, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College,J., you are definitely missing out on some serious tender, love and care in this world. Look a little closer to your God to find it. You seemed to have put labels and conditions on just about every living soul that God created. It’s very shameful. This is why many white people feel guilt. This, my sisters and brothers of the rainbow, is a perfect example of racism. Thank you, J., for giving us this learning experience. Many white people feel guilty because, I’m sorry to say, but this USED to be the general consensus toward people during the slavery era, and this man proves that this attitude still exists. I can almost see Jesus Christ now, he’s probably sobbing quietly because one of his children just crucified a whole race of his other children, and called His daugters fat cows. J., if you have any love in that heart of yours, the next time your friend shows his partner the back of his hand, be a real man and report him to the police for domestic violence. Men like that are in need of some serious lessons to be learned. You may need to go with him if you think this is an appropriate way to treat someone you love.
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Name : Dot, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : Native American/Caucasion, Religion : Humanist, Age : 33, City : Peru, State : ME, Country : United States, Occupation : Social Work/student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,T.E.: I couldn’t help but to wonder, first of all, why do you think that you can speak for me and how I feel about myself and my heritage? And secondly, who exactly are you proclaiming to be ‘my people’? Americans? I’m certainly not out to destroy anyone, but if someone is going to claim that I am, then I want to at least know who they think I am going to do it to. ALL mothers EVERYWHERE are ‘Mothers of a nation and a people’. The status of being a mother is not limited to any one country or any one ethnicity. The key is to bring all our nations, all our children, and all our people together to make a difference. You say that we are working on race relations by ‘throwing a man and woman of different races together and having children’…well all I have to say about that is people like you are certainly not throwing anyone together to do anything. In fact, (just looking at your response) I’m sure you’re one of the first to try and tear people in love apart in a jealous rage just because they are of different races. Love is love, and I know there are people out there who will dispute that people of different races can really love each other, but they can. I am sorry that those people who say they can’t have not had the opportunity to experience a true love that crosses all boundaries. My husband is black, and I am white. I am PROUD that I will some day have his children. Diversity will continue no matter what, because everyone is their own individual. Do not group me in with all people that look like me, because I am my own unique person and am unlike any other. Diversity exists everywhere, even among people of same ethnic groups, so your argument that there will be no diversity in 100 years if interracial marriages continue to come together and have children proves nothing to any of us who are truly in love and working to make a difference in this country.
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Name : Proud-to-Be-ME, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, City : Madison, State : WI, Country : United States,As a white male, I am all for interracial coupling. Bring it on, the more blacks mix the whiter they become which will eventually lead to an all white or perhaps slightly tan society.
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Name : Nick, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Presbyterian, Age : 23, City : Buffalo, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : Criminal Justice, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I come from Europe where color and nationality seem to matter less in relationships than here in the US. I am white and have dated many different women, some of color, and do not consider color an issue. In a relationship we are seeking someone to enjoy spending time with and hopefully love. Since finding someone who fits these criteria is hard enough, why introduce color as a reason to avoid someone who is otherwise ideal? Since moving to the US I have observed that mixed dating is sometimes perceived negatively, but for myself I think it is great to see people of different colors dating and marrying. With time mixed-relationships will allow us to live in a non-racial world where color ceases to be an issue and I would enjoy that.
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Name : Chris, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 45, City : Santa Clara, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Executive Management, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,To all of the so called ‘educated’ people who responded to the post by ‘JKrate’, please get a clue. That response was clearly using sarcasim to illustrate a point. If you stop reacting and think, you’ll see that the stereotypes used are for example the ones used to explain the appeal of white women to black men. As the rational mind can see, Stereotypes don’t really fit anybody.
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Name : Carter32394, Gender : M, City : Seattle, State : WA, Country : United States,I find it interesting that you call yourself a Christian given your apprent virulent attitude towards interracial couples. It’s also interesting that you classify all black women based on your friend’s account of his mate. It’s funny, a lot of people think the same think about ‘all’ white women: down for anything in bed and ready to take a hit from their men. Your friend has simply hit upon a weak, pathetic example of a woman who is representative of a group comprised of every race and ethnicity. (By the way, is your friend a ‘Christian’ too? With his physical abuse and chauvinist attitude?) Secondly, since it seems to you that the only white women who go for black men are fat, white-trash cows, you must not watch much television, see too many movies, or basically go out into the real world very much. But I forget, as a Christian, you wouldn’t be worldy and indulge in such activities, would you? Many successful black men habitually or exclusively date or marry white women, and give their attentions to the most beautiful and desired of the bunch. I have seen more examples of the ‘McDonalds Ad’ interracial couples than those representing the ‘dregs’; examples such as singer David Bowie and his beautiful wife Iman, who have been married for years, not to mention the many examples I have persoanlly witnessed. You, sir, need to deal with whatever personal issues you have going on before you venture into the public spouting your asinine rhetoric.
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Name : Dani B., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, City : Charlotte, State : NC, Country : United States, Social class : Middle class,This question seemed to draw out the extremes on both ends but I’m guessing my response may be more typical of how people REALLY feel. First, I grew up in New York City and enjoyed a diverse collection of classmates, co-workers and friends. By any rational standard I would never be labeled a racist by anyone who knows me. [I’m prefacing to try and give perspective and not to act as an excuse.] Most of me feels ‘Vive la difference’ Who you like is who you like. However part of me IS irritated when I see black men and white women together. I think there are various reasons for this. First, I believe, is the white-woman-as-the-pinnacle-of-beauty racism that is prevalent in our society. That may be ironic since I’m Anglo/Latin and married to an Asian woman! Secondly, I’m just as irritated that there are so few white men/black women couples–comparatively speaking–so it does sort of play into the idea of both the black men and white women looking for ‘trophies’ [though of different sorts]. Why? If all blacks and all whites were simply choosing partners of their preference, there should be equal numbers of both types of couples. Lastly and lately I’ve noticed that in six of the seven different interracial couples I know or know of personally, the guy is a bum: either abusing, cheating or otherwise taking advantage of the woman. This last point may not seem germane as that can happen in any couple configuration, but unfortunately it does tend to play into the stereotypes of these relationships. I would be interested in honest, intelligent comments.
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Name : Pedro, Gender : M, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Age : 33, City : Easton, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Telecommunications, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Why would I care if a white woman was dating a black man? It’s not my woman. I think that it is more of a conquest in black mens minds to secure white women. For some reason it seems to ‘do something’ for them. Well in any case, enjoy.
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Name : Chris32193, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 30, City : LA, State : CA, Country : United States, Education level : Technical School, Social class : Middle class,It almost sounds as if you are directing this question to a bunch of plantation-owning Southerners. If you think white males still hold white females on some kind of pedestal and regard them as superior to all other females, you are quite mistaken and sound like you have some gender/racial problems. I couldn’t care less who dates who, as long as there is love and respect in the relationship; beyond that, what is there to be concerned with? Last time I checked, males did not own females – and aren’t we all humans regardless of race or reproductive organ?
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Name : D31850, City : na, State : NY, Country : United States,This is a worn out subject. No one cares who dates whom. Have you thought about the other question how do black men feel about black women dating white men, Asian men dating black women, Black men dating Asian women. As a white man I could careless who dates whom.
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Name : Richard D. Lee, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, City : Atlanta, State : GA, Country : United States, Social class : Middle class,The biggest problem is genetic. Each time a white girl spawns with a black man, none of her offspring will ever again have blue or green eyes, blond hair. The liklihood is permanent change to the progeny gene pool: black hair, black eyes, darker skin, progressively more African look. The second problem is cultural alienation. In South Africa, many white women who initially were excited about dark children began to become distressed and depressed about none of their children being light eyed, that never ever again would any grandchildren appear white, that elusive European beauty was lost forever. No other race has the gorgeious variety of whites. I have also seen serious genetic abnormalities, dental problems caused by huge differences in jaw bone structure resulting in massive surgeries. There is also the problem of excessively long black cocks that damage the white woman’s cervex. Hence, in the porn films, the cock often cannot be fully inserted. If the cervex is damaged, loss of procreative power can ensue and surgery is more often required than is reported. Excessive enlargement of the vagina also requires surgery. I have seen gorgeous trim white mothers give birth to the most incredibly ugly, oversized daughters. The Euro looking mixed race child is not as common as ‘advertised’. Again, probably the biggest loss is the permanent loss of green and blue eyes to the gene pool, never to resurrect, the loss of probably the most beautiful genetic flower on earth. Other problems are the approximately 4 to 1 ratio of HIV among black men, the high ratio of sexual diseases, the high rate of abandonment of children among blacks. The rate of loyalty to children is so low among blacks that procreation among them is a virtual ‘death’ sentence for the child. Enjoy the videos & fantasies if you must, but the reality is a mere psychological reaction formation. Real love is harder to achieve. Don’t substitute neurotic behavior.
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Name : C-Stevens, City : Sacramento, State : CA, Country : United States,
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