[Kathy]

Hi. I’ve asked my husband on a few occasions to learn to square dance and partner me. He reluctantly agreed to attend some classes with me (one needs to learn the calls, so there’s a 6-month training period), at which there were both others learning to dance and assistants who already know how and are helping. After a few classes, he quit going. He complained that he didn’t want to learn with other beginners and he also was sure the experienced dancers were laughing at his attempts. I tried to explain that no one was laughing at him, except at his lame jokes — he’s always joking in company, and the other students were just as clueless as he was at the patterns. I likened his learning the calls to those he learned on the football field; he didn’t know where to run until someone told him where (coach) and he got help from his teammates, too. I figure he’s suffering from the common ailment of not wanting to appear foolish or incompetent. Does ANYONE have any suggestions that might help me help him overcome his reluctance to try again so we can have a mutual activity in our coming retirement? Thanks!

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Name : Kathy, City : Cypress, State : CA, Country : United States, 

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