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My boyfriend can’t understand why I don’t enjoy performing oral sex on him. When I try, it feels like I’m going to gag because he wants to jam his whole penis in my mouth. Is that a necessary part of the pleasure for men?
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Name : T., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Age : 29, City : Berkeley, State : CA, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,In a word, no. In fact, I generally find it somewhat distracting when a girl is so focused on trying to get it all in her mouth that she can’t relax and enjoy what she’d doing. What makes receiving oral sex pleasurable is when the girl is relaxed and into what she’s doing.
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Name : Greg-H21539, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Age : 23, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : law student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College,That is not a necessary part of the pleasure. He should lie back and let you be in charge of the sessions.
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Name : Rick29843, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, City : Springfield, State : OH, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,is oral/clitoral stimulation nessesary for you to be gratified? i’m guessing yes.
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Name : justin27072, City : chicago, State : IL, Country : United States,Your boyfriend may be thrusting his penis into your mouth unconsciously and not even realize he’s doing it. Have you asked him to try to be still, so you can be in control of how much you take into your mouth at one time? Explain that once you feel comfortable that he won’t shove it in your mouth and make you gag, you will relax and be able to get it in farther – but at your own pace and comfort level. Also, try having him sit on a chair or bed, and kneel in front of him. If your mouth is slightly above his penis, it will be harder for him to thrust it down your throat.
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Name : Jenny30919, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 31, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,I agree with the other posters: your boyfriend should relax and let you do what you feel comfortable doing. If he likes the feeling of having all of him in your mouth, but it makes you gag, try putting just the tip of his penis in your mouth and use your hand(s) to stroke the shaft. If you lubricate your hands, it’ll feel comparable to your mouth but be much more comfortable for you.
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Name : Freida, Gender : F, City : Minneapolis, State : MN, Country : United States,We used to call men pigs, your mate is a greedy one. By trying to ram it in he is asserting his control over your mouth. Try explaining that your mouth is NOT a vagina, it does NOT feel better when he is deeper and you feel like you will throw up on him if he does it because of your gag reflex. I have been told WAY to late in life that moving the skin of the penis over the shaft is what feels good. So while licking, tongue action are nice that if you just get a nice fit with your lips at a comfortable for you depth, add a little suction to hold the skin tight to your lips then slide it up and down gently by moving your head up and down your mate should be pleased. This is on my list of things no one ever explained to me, I spent years trying to empty my man like a straw going after the bottom of a milkshake. And I will mention, if he WON’T let you have the control you need to be comfortable – get another partner. This one is too insecure to deal with a balanced partnership and will want control in all things.
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Name : Dee W, Gender : F, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 49, City : Grand Rapids, State : MI, Country : United States, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,… if you want to get good at it, you’ve got to learn to throat it. This means it’s not only his whole penis in your mouth–it means you’re swallowing it all the way down. If you really want to learn how to give good head, it’s all about controlling your gag reflex. There’s lots of advice online about it. Mostly, ask him to be patient, hold your breath, and relax. After a few weeks, you’ll be deep-throating that knob like nobody’s business! On the other hand, if you’re going to be a priss and just lick the tip, let him know now. That way he won’t waste his time.
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Name : GordonR, City : Salt Lake City, State : UT, Country : United States,
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