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I love bringing my wife to orgasm through oral sex, and she’s told me she enjoys this a lot. Oddly enough, I find it difficult to ask her to do the same to me. Don’t get me wrong: she gives me oral sex, but she never goes all the way. Thus, mostly our oral sex remains just part of the foreplay. Any suggestions? How do I tell my partner discretely that I would like a real ‘oral’ orgasm? I don’t even want to ejaculate in her mouth, or to go very deep, but an occasional mouth-and-tongue thing sure would make my day every now and then.
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Name : Morten, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 35, City : Oslo, State : NA, Country : Norway, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Why find a discreet way to tell your wife you want more oral sex? Just tell her. She’s your wife, after all.
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Name : Lucy22464, Gender : F, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Age : 26, City : San Jose, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Engineer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I think he’s looking for a discreet way to tell his wife he wants to ejaculate in her mouth.
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Name : Justin27077, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, City : Chicago, State : IL, Country : United States, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,Justin, I understand the guy is looking for a discreet way to tell his wife that he wants to ejaculate in her mouth, but I still ask – why be discreet? They are husband and wife and should be able to discuss sexual desires. I think many people who are unfulfilled sexually do not talk to their partners openly about sex. How else are people’s partners supposed to know how to satisfy them?
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Name : Lucy22467, Gender : F, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Age : 26, City : San Jose, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Engineer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,If you have a good relationship, like my fincee and i do, Just ask she should not get mad. She may pull the ‘what i don’t please you’ attitude. Just say ‘yes you do’ and explain to her why it is important to do this.
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Name : Shifity, Gender : M, Age : 20, City : mobile, State : AL, Country : United States, Social class : Lower middle class,I can understand you wanting to be discreet, because many woman can be sensitive when it comes to things such as oral sex. My advice to you isn’t to be so blunt as to say ‘I want more oral sex’. The fact that she’s your wife should make it easier to discuss this subject with her, but please remember….some women are more sensitive than others. Personally, I feel that if she is comfortable enough to give you oral sex as part of foreplay, then it will be easier to discuss this with her, but you have to do it in a sly/sensitive way so the next time she is going down on you she won’t be thinking of you saying ‘I want more oral sex’…..Explain to her that you enjoy engaging in oral sex with her and performing oral sex on her. Tell her that what she does turns you on so much, that it only makes you want her to let you go all the way while she’s pleasing you.Tell her its something you are curious about. Also, she may feel insecure or like she hasn’t been pleasing you all along after this conversation……So before you even think about talking to her, try this….Show her that you love her body and appreciate her(you should be doing this anyway)…by doing something special for her, caressing her, listening to her….etc; Most women including myself enjoy this as much as sex itself….give her oral pleasure and while she is giving you oral sex as usual, show your enjoyment and whisper something that indicates you want her to go further(you’ll have to come up w/ that on your own :)If she still doesn’t catch on, refuses, or seems to ignore you or as a lot of women do, pretend not to hear you(great female tactic)…..then you should have the conversation (above) w/ her…..usually people are guided into doing things in the heat of the moment, so I would try pleasing her and doing as little talking about it as possible, first. Being the conversational creatures that some women (including myself) are, we tend to hang on your every word……and if we are in a bad mood, we might analyze it to the point of getting mad at little things……so be careful and most of all……relax!! Make her feel special (and nothing too out of the ordinary at first….she’ll think it was a ploy)……just enjoy eachother…..communication is important…physical as well as verbal….and the key to trying anything new is finding a comfort zone….
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Name : Banders, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 18, City : a. county, State : SC, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Lower middle class,I’m dealing with the same issue. I frequently want to, and do, give oral sex to my husband. However, I’m afraid to ask him to reciprocate. He does, but not as often as I’d like. My advice to you is to throw strong hints. When she does do it, let her know just how much you enjoy it. She may not even think she’s doing it properly or that you like it.
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Name : Marie22247, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 33, City : Rockville, State : MD, Country : United States, Occupation : retail mgmt., Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Make sure you have showered then, some night during EARLY foreplay try saying I would like have an ‘oral’ orgasm? I don’t need to ejaculate in your mouth, or to go very deep, could we try it? It would sure would make my day. Then make sure you have something appropriate to ‘catch’ with handy to reassure her. I assume any wife who hasn’t tried to do this for her mate is really uptight about sex being dirty so she won’t want you shoothing all over the sheets either. If it doesn’t work, talk about it with her, find out her feelings on the matter and see where it goes. Luck to you
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Name : Dee W, Gender : F, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 49, City : Grand Rapids, State : MI, Country : United States, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,
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