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Because you are a minor and he is a child molester. When you’re 60 and he is 63 it won’t matter. Right now you are young and prime jail bait .
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Name : Evil, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 28, City : Tucson, State : AZ, Country : United States, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,It depends on your maturity, their maturity and your ages. When you’re young, dating older guys is more of an issue, because a lot of things change in a matter of three years. Your parents are just trying to protect you. Try and understand that, but trust your own judgments as well.
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Name : Arwen, Gender : F, City : Piscataway, State : NJ, Country : United States, Occupation : Student,Probably because they think you’re more likely to have sex, and have it faster, with an older guy. I think there’s a general assumption that when girls date older men they’re more likely to be sexual, which probably has your parents a little freaked out. So, they’re probably trying to discourage you so you won’t find yourself in a bad situation with pregnancy or anything like that. As someone who has always dated older guys (generally 3-5 years older), I can say that there are benefits and problems. Older guys generally do want to initiate sexual relationships earlier than younger ones, but at 16 most any guy you date will probably be looking to advance the relationship relatively quickly. And someone who already has sexual experience might actually have a more respectful attitude than someone who is looking to lose their virginity. But wanting to get some, it’s human–specifically male–nature. The perks are that you generally get to be with someone who is more mature and interesting than some of the boys you may go to school with. Anyway, the important thing is that you take care of yourself and make sure he doesn’t have the upper hand just because he’s older. Make sure it’s a balanced relationship and he’s not too mature for you, and you should be fine.
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Name : Jess30776, City : St. Louis, State : MO, Country : United States,Because they love you! There is a huge difference between 16 and 19. A 19-year-old man may want sexual intimacy, which, at 16, you are not ready for, even if you feel you are. Also, at 19, he’d have no curfew, you will, and he might pressure you to stay out later than you’re supposed to. If he cares for you, he’ll be willing to abide by any rules your parents put down. If he starts encouraging you to disobey your folks, you’ll know he doesn’t have your best interest at heart.
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Name : Susan27485, Gender : F, Age : 37, City : Canoga Park, State : CA, Country : United States,Well, Katherine… first of all, your parents assume that an older man will pressure you into sex, and mommy and daddy never want to admit that their daughter could be a mature human being who may be ready for sex. (Whether he really will pressure you into sex doesn’t matter to them; at age 19, I was dating a man who was 28 and I was the one to initiate sex, but my parents worried non-stop about whether he was pushing *me*!) Also, isn’t the age of consent in Texas 18 years old? If you have sex with a 19 year-old, he’d be committing statutory rape. Talk about trauma for both of you. Also, since you say you are Baptist, and from Texas, I am going to guess that your family is relatively conservative and probably somewhat religious. That must factor into their feelings as well. I won’t try to preach to you about the decision you should make, but if you do decide to date older guys, at least try and listen to your trusted friends, if not trusted adults. They might see danger signs of a bad relationship (like a power imbalance) before you do. Good luck!
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Name : Stephanie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 23, City : Norman, State : OK, Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,The reason girls date older guys is that they become infatuated with that guy. Simply by being older and showing attention to the girl, the man gets a place in a younger girls heart. The reasons why older guys date younger girls is the same reason. They are easy manipulate. The only reason a man has for dating a younger girl is that, for some reason, he can’t find any woman his own age that wants him. I’ve told girls my age this before, and they become so infatuated that, they are blind to the truth.
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Name : Chaz, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Baptist, Age : 17, City : Baltimore, State : MD, Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : Less than High School Diploma, Social class : Middle class,trust me. he doesn’t love you. all he wants is a good fuck. wait two years.
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Name : JOHN29214, City : ROCKLAND CO., State : NY, Country : United States,Actually, if you read the Texas penal codes (Chapter 21.11, b), at sixteen she can consent to sex with someone within three years of her age, provided that person is of the opposite sex and is not a previous sex-offender. Calling some 19-year-old she is interested in a child molester is like calling someone with a turkey leg a murderer. Law is arbitrary by nature; I doubt that anyone wakes up on their 18th birthday with the magically infused wisdom of adulthood. In the meantime, trust your parents to have your best interests in heart and discuss compromises. If he’s worth dating, he’ll settle for being ‘just-friends’ until he wins your parents’ trust.
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Name : Kate26599, Gender : F, Age : 17, City : Denton, State : TX, Country : United States, Education level : 2 Years of College,Last I heard,the age of consent in TX was 17. She may be a minor, but she’s not ‘jail bait.’ So that is hardly a valid argument.
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Name : Marie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 36, City : Jeffersonville, State : IN, Country : United States, Social class : Upper middle class,Don’t know about your parents, but mine consider that older guy as trying to score with an inexperienced young lady he knows is under age for him. As you are below the age of consent at 16, any sex is seen by the world-at-large as statutory (by laws) rape. This does not seem to discourage certain Latino rappers presently ‘up on charges’ for dating girls as young as 13 and having ‘close encounters of the 4th Kind’. My advice to you: wait until you are 18 unless a brother or sister or parent is along.
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Name : Eric, Gender : M, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Religion : Catholic, Age : 54, City : Pasadena, State : TX, Country : United States, Occupation : Male Nurse, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
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