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To people who have dated someone of a different race, or who desire to: How has this influenced your decision to condone or not condone your children doing the same?
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Name : Mac, Gender : M, Race : Black/African American, Age : 48, City : College Station, State : TX, Country : United States, Occupation : single parent of teenage daughter,I have been dating an African-American male for three years. Marriage for us is definitely a topic of conversation, and so naturally we do a lot of talking about children. Of course, I think it is really a whole different ball game when discussing multiracial children, but the bottom line is that I would not encourage or discourage my children from dating someone other than their own ethnicity. For me, the experience has been both incredibly rewarding and painful (due to society’s views). Basically, if my daughter or son came to me with this issue, I would never discourage them, but help them understand the realities of their situation so they may deal with the inevitable resistance they may face from society.
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Name : Brenda, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : European-American, Religion : Catholic, Age : 23, City : Pittsburgh, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Intern, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I am an Italian-American woman who is engaged to a black man. My position on this question is sort of odd, but here it is: When I have children, who will be biracial, I will strongly encourage them to date only black men and women. I have met many people involved in interracial relationships, and 90 percent of them to me are not based in love but on stereotypes and the desire to rebel. I have seen many cases where white women who date black men consistently put down black women, and degrade black culture as a whole. I have seen others who are involved with a black partner because of certain stereotypes of physical and sexual characteristics. Due to my experiences with other interracial couples, I would encourage my children to date within the black community, simply because it is often hard to tell whether the white partner is truly in it for love, or whether it is one of these other reasons.
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Name : Joanna, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Religion : Christian, Age : 26, City : Commack, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : social work, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,My Eastern-European Jewish and German husband and I have a 5-month-old daughter and we’ve talked about it. He prefers that she dates someone biracial as she is, but I don’t really care who she dates. I suppose I’d prefer that she *married* someone biracial or of African descent.
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Name : JEW, Gender : F, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Yoruba/Ifa, Age : 25, City : Dallas, State : TX, Country : United States, Occupation : writer, teacher, tutor, Education level : 2 Years of College,I’ve dated in my race, and outside my race. Some relationships were good and some bad. But, I never went in having any preconceived notions or expectations. I go out with people who I am attracted to and whom I believe will treat me with respect. I hope someday that my children will do the same. I will not push them in any racial direction. I have noticed (as Joanne mentioned) that many white women who exclusively date black men, do put down black women and disparage the black race. I don’t understand this at all.
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Name : Sara, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Religion : Catholic, Age : 23, City : Charleston, State : WV, Country : United States, Occupation : Techncial Writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper class,It is not always easy to do what is right. But I will always try to help me kids do just that. If interracial dating is right for them that will be great. I hope that people give up the hate soon.
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Name : Terry, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, City : Athens, State : GA, Country : United States, Occupation : management,
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