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Of all the 30 years I’ve been on this planet, I have yet to see an Asian man with a black woman. Why do you see more black men and Asian women together, but not the other way around?
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Name : Tea J., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Native American/Black, Religion : Roman Catholic, Age : 23, City : Federal Way, State : WA, Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I’ve been on this earth 45 years, and when I was in high school, a girl in my graduating class had a black mother and a Chinese father. She was a brilliant piano player, and I believe she later became a doctor.
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Name : ED25433, Gender : F, Race : Black/African American, Age : 45, City : Kansas City, State : MO, Country : United States,I knew someone who was Japanese and dating a black woman. His parents were liberal. However, Japan is a First World nation, and this economic status influences its societal norms. Many modern and trendy Japanese are obsessed with Hip-Hop fashion and are moving into Harlem. However, sometimes the reason for Asian men not dating black women is that Asian mothers expect their sons to keep the family name and marry an Asian. Asian men are strictly expected to uphold family traditions. In Chinese society, the son must support the parents, and mixing of the races does not hold over well in countries with unstable governments such as Indonesia, Taiwan, the Philippines or various other homelands where the sons are expected to return to and visit family. In these countries, any minority, even if he/she is from another Asian country, is attacked, their homes and business looted or destroyed. It has happened to my friend’s family, who changed their names to appear native. Imperialism from other nations has caused residual racism among many of the poorer countries. Usually parents are not as strict with their daughters, as males are favored in most Asian societies.
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Name : Pat, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Asian, Religion : Bahai Faith, Age : 22, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower class,The reason why you see more black man w/ asian women is that black men find the asian persuasion (excuse the played out cliche), a tad bit more exotic. As for myself, I am the guy who you are wanting to see w/ a black woman. I’ve had a thing for black women since I was 19, I’m 24 now, and I still find black women very beautiful. I think the reason why you don’t see asian men w/ black women, is due to the repercussion suffered by the invidual by the parents and friends alike. I was taught to be a diverse person and not to limit myself to doing things, which includes having all types of people for friends. It’s just that people are afraid of taking risks because of what people in the public eye might think. I used to be concerned when I went out w/ my girlfriend at the time, because people thought that it was odd for myself, being a Mestizo Filipino, w/ a black woman. I looked past that and enjoyed the company of my girlfriend, regardless of color. Who knows, maybe it’ll be the other way around.
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Name : Chris32160, Gender : M, Race : Asian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 24, City : Los Angeles, State : CA, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I can´t make any generalisations, but I guess one of the reasons why Asian men don´t often date black women could be, that a black woman isn´t as submissive as an Asian man would wish her to be. Black men might find the submissiveness of an Asian woman attractive, but a black lady is quite a package for an Asian man to handle.
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Name : Elsa25339, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 17, City : Helsinki, State : NA, Country : Finland, Occupation : High School student,What U say is true for ANY race men with Asian women. The previous response is absolutely correct. But I have a somewhat crude, somewhat accurate additional response…. Asian Female have a world-renowned mystique about them – everyone wants them. Asian Males? No one gives a hoot…stereotypes and connotations are all negative
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Name : Ken Lim, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Asian, Age : 43, City : Cupertino, State : CA, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper class,I dated African-American and white women in college, but never a fellow Korean. In fact, I found Asian women too ‘ethnic’ for my tastes. Although my US friends still can’t believe it, I married a Korean woman. I still don’t know when the change in my preference occurred, but in the end, I know that although my parents never said anything to me about who I should marry, they’re probably somewhat pleased with my decision. My sister, on the other hand, married a white guy, who probably treats her and my parents better than any Korean man ever could have!
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Name : Ken, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Asian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 35, City : Seoul, State : NA, Country : Korea, Occupation : Public relations, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,It is because the two groups are from different spectrums, and black women in general are discouraged to date non-blacks (even if they can not find a black man as a suitor). There is also the attraction factor. Black women, for instance, are heavier and have ‘thicker’ bodies than Asian or white women. This body type is different than what most Asian men are used to because Asian women are very petite. Also, black women are generally taller or the same height as Asian men, and most women desire men that are taller than them. There are also factors of racism and cultural differences. An Asian man (like many non-blacks) may want to have sexual encounters with a black woman, but doesn’t want to settle down because it would go against his family’s wishes. Despite these reasons though, these types of relationships do exist in very small numbers — I am a perfect example. In Jamaica however, the coupling is so common nobody takes a second look. So I guess it’s partially a regional thing too.
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Name : Kristina, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 20, City : Washington, State : DC, Country : United States, Occupation : Transcriber, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,My fiance’s little brother is Filipino and is recently dating a black woman. His parents are not against this, are in fact very open to the idea. This Asian family does not want their sons dating other Filipinas, for reasons I have yet to find out. (I am white) So, yes, there are Asian men dating black women.
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Name : Crystal, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, City : Los Angeles, State : CA, Country : United States,I’ve seen it here in Maryland and I dated a Korean-White guy for a long time.
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Name : Pat Rice, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 21, City : College Park, State : MD, Country : United States, Occupation : teacher/ student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I’ve seen two Asian men/black women couples. One was a college-age couple I saw in Westwood, California. He dressed hip-hop, and she clearly adored him, a big smile on her face. The other was a couple with a baby I saw in a LA’s Chinatown; she was sassing him for walking ahead and ignoring her and their son — not as happy a scene but a couple nonetheless. I’m half Asian — my dad’s Chinese — and I find black women attractive (though I like the way all women look). But one inhibiting factor is intimidation, and I think this applies to all non-black men. Why would a black woman want to date a skinny-ass Asian boy, or a white boy with no rhythm, when she could date a strong black man (and yes, I acknowledge that’s a stereotype)? Most Asian guys probably don’t even think black women are a possibility. I believe this notion is fading, but if black women gave more of an impression of being open to Asian guys I know you’d see more of this combo.
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Name : J Chan, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Eurasian, Age : 30s, City : Fort Lauderdale, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Web Editor/Producer, Education level : 4 Years of College,
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