[Ashley23506]

What goes on in a male’s head when he sees a woman he wants or would like to be with?

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Name : Ashley23506, Gender : F, City : Iowa City, State : IA, Country : United States, 

[Cee Why]

Do you want the truth, or would you like me to make you feel good? OK, the truth: when a guy first sees a beautiful woman, it doesn’t matter whether he’s interested in a relationship with her – our first thoughts are SEX and imagining what she looks like naked. Then after mentally making love to her, we try to figure out what we need to do to get her naked. That may seem brutal, but it’s true. However, if a guy really loves you, sex does not matter; just being around you will make him happy.

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Name : Cee Why, Gender : M, Religion : Secular Humanist, Age : 30, City : Hamden, State : CT, Country : United States, Occupation : Realist, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

[N. Johnson]

My guess is that you are referring to a male seeing a woman with whom he is NOT already in a romantic relationship. There are various types of ‘want’ involved here. If the want happens to be simply a physical desire, there may be some imagination of the woman naked, and some scheming to figure out how to GET her naked. However, a man can also want to be with a woman as a companion, friend, lover, colleague, spouse, business associate, tennis partner…any number of roles. When this happens, the man thinks, ‘Wow! That woman is smart (is caring, works hard, is beautiful, would make a great mother, has a strong overhand serve, etc.). I would like to get to know her better and spend some time with her.’ There are men who see women primarily as bodies. There are also men who see beyond the bodies and see the woman’s heart, passions, dreams, etc.

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Name : N. Johnson, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 32, City : Scottsbluff, State : NE, Country : United States, Occupation : Business Owner, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, 

[Paul30479]

That’s a good question because I often wondered what women want men to think of them. Women often dress rather provocatively – whether intentionally or not. Yet they appear to be put-off when a man responds to their appearance. When a woman gets my attention (because of her looks), my first thoughts are – What is she selling? Is she selling her body (parts), her status, her clothes, etc. Every day I see many women selling their wares to all who are interested. A happy, well-adjusted woman does not have to ‘sell’ anything. She can dress well without appearing to be needy; e.g. cleavage, tight pants/shirts, short dresses, etc. So my question to you, Ashley, is – what do woman want men to think? Are women trying to sell their wares to men?

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Name : Paul30479, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Baptist, Age : 40, City : New Orleans, State : LA, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

[Juno]

When I see a woman I want? I agree with the other guy – I mentally undress her, imagine what she would be like in bed. Kind of crude, but it’s true.

But when I see a woman I want to be with, it’s a different story. Occasionally I’ll meet someone who seems genuinely interesting, and I’ll think ‘I should get to know her better.’ After that awkward meeting period, if she’s as interesting as I think she’d be, I’ll start thinking about what a relationship would be like, what her hair smells like, and whether she’d rest her head on my shoulder or chest when we’re holding each other. Truth be told, I start feeling a little frightened.

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[chris]

There is a real good picture that the Sigmun Freud drew ‘What’s on a man’s mind.’ So when we see a woman exclude our family, we want to see them naked. Now the question is ‘ Do all women imagine the same like us?’

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Name : chris, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Age : 23, City : houston, State : TX, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

[Tasha27429]

I’ve heard it said many, many times that if women dress provocatively, they deserve whatever treatment they get from men; it’s an argument that’s used both reasonably, with respect to ogling looks from strangers, and rather offensively, in trying to blame women for being raped… My two cents is that there is a grand assumption in saying that women are ‘trying to sell their wares to men’: that women dress the way they do for men, and that their actions and behaviors are tailored to mens’ reactions. I think this is only sometimes true in the case of clothing. From personal experience, women dress more for other women than they do for men, seeing as other women are often sharply tuned to clothing styles around them. And what a woman wears can depend on the style that was prominent in the household she grew up in, in the country she’s lived in, the size and shape of her body. What a woman believes is ‘comfortable and beautiful’ or ‘casual’ can vary wildly from female carpenters to ballet dancers, and what is considered showy in one person’s mind can appear conservative in another’s. I think it’s time to respect that womens’ dressing styles come from a variety of sources, most of them internal, and many others having nothing to do with men at all. If a man were to ask, ‘what does a woman think when she sees a man she’s attracted to?’, I don’t think we would be so quick to wonder if the man we’re talking about is dressing provocatively.

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Name : Tasha27429, Gender : F, Race : White/Caucasian, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

[Chris]

Interesting question. I’ve wondered about myself and why I have the reactions I do. For me, I tend to have a Madonna/Whore dichotomy. Typically a woman who is attracted to me falls into one of those categories on first sight. If it’s the former, I wonder what books she reads, what she thinks about, what she values, etc. If it’s the latter, I think about the filthy things I’d like to do to her. Yeah. I look at her body and evaluate it. I then think more about what I would like to do to her. Or have her do to me. I’m not sure this is entirely healthy seeing as how essentially no woman falls squarely into either category. I wonder if my mommy made me this way?

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Name : Chris, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 27, City : Salt Lake CIty, State : UT, Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

[Rhonda-P-Outlaw30000]

Most women I know like to look good, and I am one of them. The figure is still bangin’ and I am going to FLAUNT it as long as it lasts. No shame in my game. Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not exposing body parts by any means, but I wear my dresses, pants, even business suits, to show off my nice figure. I wear colors that compliment my brown skin, the hair and makeup are always nice. I get compliments, and I LOVE it. Nothing like a ‘Damn, you look good!!’ from a 20-something year old brotha! I eat that up!! Having said that, there is a way to pay a woman a compliment, and acting crass and uncouth is not the way to do it. Far too many men don’t know HOW to compliment a woman. There is a way to do everything, with taste, class and style. Most women like to be looked at and appreciated for their attractiveness…what they do NOT like is men who behave like rutting dogs. Fortunately, I rarely encounter men like that. For the most part they are always decent when they speak to me. I’m not ‘selling’ anything. I like to look good. And it just so happens that some men think the same. By the way, I greatly appreciate an attractive, sexy, well dressed man. And if I’m so inclined, I’ll tell him how fine he is. The reaction I get? A big old, grin, a smile and a ‘Thank you, sista’. There is nothing wrong with women being sexy, same thing for men. Loosen up and lighten up, for Pete’s sake.

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[Jesse Chapman]

‘Be with’ is a very general term. If you’re talking sexually, then everyone else who has responded pretty much has it right. If you’re talking as-in a relationship sense, then it’s a little more complicated (for me, at least). The first thoughts that come to my mind are those that would advance our friendship/knowledge of each other. I imagine the female as a puzzle needing to be solved. Some don’t want to be with anyone and some do. You quickly have to figure that out in order to make the appropriate moves. It’s really dependent on the person and my objectives.

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Name : Jesse Chapman, City : Palm Coast, State : FL, Country : United States, 

[Jane]

You know, women do the same thing too. It is not a crudely male feature, but just naturally human. When an individual sees another individual to whom the former is attracted, the first thought is SEX. I am a female college student, and I have a tendency to get crushes on my professors. Well, my #1 escape route from the classroom when I am less than thrilled with the lesson is to imagine going up to the hot instructor after everybody has left, kiss his lips, and take it from there. I do it elsewhere, too (I mean, the mental action, hee hee). Women do it as much as men, but they are slower to admit. Also, men ‘sell’ their goods as much as women do. I keep hearing about how women dress nice to look good for the males…. well, whether or not this applies to all women, I can assure you that this applies to many men. Doesn’t a man start dressing a little neater when and begins to pay more attention to his hair when his heart acquires an object of attention? Does not he go to the gym and works hours on those pecs for a mere compliment from a nice-looking lady? I acknowledge that I am overgeneralizing. What I am trying to express is that men try to impress the opposite just as much as women do. (Sure, not all men do– just as it is true that not all women dress nice just for a guy, right?)

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Name : Jane, Gender : F, Age : 20, City : L.A., State : CA, Country : United States, 

[emma25382]

uh.. women don’t dress solely for men.

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[Joe]

When I see a woman I ‘want’, it’s usually because they got my attention by dressing or acting provactively. So I have no problem mentally undressing them. Now, as far as ‘would like to be’ with a woman, that’s usually when women dressed consevatively but femine, and the way they carry themselves. And I would like to get to know them instead of objectifying them. It’s more complicated than that, but that’s basically it.

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[Ron29640]

What goes on? Hmm, usually…. 1. Sheer terror… 2. Insecurity… 3. False confidence… 4. Peer pressure… 5. Brain fart or other form of stupidity… 6. Request for Divine Intervention.

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[Rob]

I can only speak for myself. I wonder if she is taken, will she be focused only on what I look like or earn for money, does it matter that I live at home. That about sums it up for me.

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