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Definitely. I have several female friends who I have no interest in romantically, and I have no doubt that they feel the same way. Many men may not be able to have female friends, but there are a lot of men who can as well.
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Name : Ben, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 25, City : Morgantown, State : WV, Country : United States, Occupation : salesperson, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,Yes. I have had more male friends than female ones. If you know a guy who can be your friend without being a jerk, of course you can be just friends. Why couldn’t you?
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Name : Linda H, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 32, City : Anchorage, State : AK, Country : United States, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I believe women and men can be friends. I know firsthand. My best friend is male. I love him very much. He and I have slept together (sleeping) but never had sex. He is gorgeous, very masculine, and women love him. He is my confidant and holder of many of my deepest secrets. I wouldn’t change this for anything.
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Name : MJ, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Age : 35, City : Dale City, State : VA, Country : United States, Occupation : engineer, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,My freshman year of high school I would have thought it was impossible. I was romantically or sexually interested in all my female friends. Now I have very deep, personal relationships with three women, one of whom I dated for two years and who is now one of my best friends, one who is like another sister, and one whom I can talk to for hours on end about anything in general. I find all of them to be absolutely gorgeous. However, obviously with the latter two I’ve never considered anything romantic or sexual with them.
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Name : James, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Acknowledgement of a non-specific higher power, Age : 17, City : Denver, State : CO, Country : United States, Occupation : Baskin Robbins scoop peon, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Middle class,I was in the military and worked around many men. Many of the guys I worked with treated me as a kid sister and looked out for me. But I was married and my husband believed it was impossible to be just friends. He forbade me to talk to any guy – ever. To make a long story short, his attitude drove me away. If there is trust and love, there can be such a thing as just friends.
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Name : Amanda31483, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 24, City : Bradenton, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Stay-at-home mom, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Lower middle class,Billy Crystal’s dialogue on this in ‘When Harry Met Sally’ offers a great explanation on why it’s not possible. That said. I think it IS possible for men and women to be just friends, but the likelihood of that is far less than that of same-gender friends. I guess it depends on what your meaning of ‘just friends’ is. If you mean it to be that neither party has any attraction or wishes for something more than friendship, the possibilities of a platonic relationship go even further down. In my experience and speaking with friends, men are generally always on the lookout for possible partners, sexual or otherwise. Given the opportunity, I believe a lot of male friends would readily switch to more than that. I suppose this happens because men and women often become friends because one side started the relationship with the intent of something more, made a bad turn and ended in the friend category (credit Chris Rock with that one). They may have moved beyond those initial feelings, but there’s usually some remnant of it; perhaps moreso because they know them so well. By no means is this absolute, but I think straight male/female ‘friendships’ are much rarer than people think or believe.
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Name : Pedro, Gender : M, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Age : 33, City : Easton, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Telecommunications, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,It is very possible for men and women to be just friends – as long as each knows the intentions of the other. Just be honest and straight up with them.
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Name : Z. Michael, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Pentecostal, Age : 19, City : Springfield, State : MA, Country : United States, Occupation : Producer,It is very possible for males and females to just be friends. But I also think there is some sort of attraction there, either one-sided or mutual. The attraction is natural, though, because something obviously brings them to each other, and usually that thing broadens the interest in the other.
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Name : Lauren, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Native Hawaiian, Religion : Christian, Age : 19, City : Edmond, State : OK, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Middle class,Men are generally sex-driven, and women are relationship-driven. Given the constructs of a friendship, it is much easier for things to go into a romantic realm if that’s what one or both parties desire. In fact, it is my belief that romantic relationships are only different from friendships in that they involve sex, and a long-term committment. I think the only true way men and women can be friends is if both are involved in their own romantic relationships that they are satisfied in, or if they do not find each other sexually attractive.
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Name : Kristina26249, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 21, City : Washington, State : DC, Country : United States, Occupation : Transcriber, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I’ve had many non intimate girl friends, especially in college, but recently, I came across this website that explained male/female relationships very clearly. I assure you, this website is worth checking out. http://www.intellectualwhores.com/masterladder.html Basically, this website describes how men and women size each other up and how their perceptions affect their relationships.
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Name : J-K, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Asian, Age : 20, City : rochester, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,A man can have a dog for a friend, a man can even have whiskey for a friend. But when a man has a woman for a friend, he winds up drunk and kissing his dog!
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Name : Mike McGrinder, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Bokonist, Age : 43, City : Davie, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Machinist, Education level : Technical School, Social class : Middle class,Absolutely! I work in a very male-dominated industry. I am usually the only female on the crew. I just happen to be a ‘tom-boy.’ The majority of my friends over the years have been male. It is true that one here and there admits having feelings, but all have enough respect for our friendship to talk to me about it. I have also lost some of my male friends to these feelings when they were not recipricated by me. I am truly ‘one of the boys’ and feel like I have 50 brothers who look out for me. However, this has not been good for my love life.
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Name : Lisa, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 29, City : Orlando, State : FL, Country : United States, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
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