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here is my suggestion… ok maybe what u consider now is in fact NOT masturbation.. but did u ever to think to try actuall masturbation? there’s nothing wrong with it.. maybe u should ‘rub’ urself on ur skin for 5 mins, and then u will have an orgasm.. if u’ve never had one.. u WILL know when u do. it’s a great feeling, and it helps with ‘letting out’ sexual frustrations. u should try it.. get back to me
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Name : i-can-help, City : philly, State : PA, Country : United States,Nothing is wrong with you, I sort of do the same thing. When I’m showering I just feel along my hips, pretending it’s the guy that I like who’s touching me. I’m also a virgin, so I can undertsand where you’re coming at.
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Name : Hope, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Islamic, Religion : Muslim, Age : 19, City : Ceres, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Student (studying for nerosurgery), Education level : Over 4 Years of College,hey i’m 19 i’m a college student, and i’m still a virgin. That’s not a big deal, and like u, i have equally had the opportunity, but decided no for a while. Infact, i’m into what u were sayin aboutthe net too! I dont think it’s weird, u just dont feel like doin that yet, big deal. The world wont end, nuthin’s wrong with u. it’s normal to touch urself, guys do it all the time, women just dont tlak about it. They do it, just dont talk about it. Take it easy, and relax…
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Name : lindsey22724, City : houston, State : TX, Country : United States,I think enjoyment of sex is something that comes to different people at different times in their lives, but I disagree with the poster who said that ‘most women don’t enjoy sex.’ Don’t get that in your head. Enjoyment of sex comes and goes – I am a 26-year-old, fairly liberal straight female in a strong, loving relationship of almost two years. As much as I love my boyfriend, and as much as I have come to enjoy sex, there are times when it doesn’t feel good to me. You have to be honest about that and not feel bad about yourself. Sometimes it feels good, sometimes it doesn’t, no biggie. If you can be honest with yourself and any partner you may have, then that’s better.
I always thought I was weird, because I started doing what you describe as ‘rubbing’ when I was 11, after looking at a sex book that talked about masturbation. I tried it a couple of times over my clothes, but nothing ‘happened’ at first. I kept trying as I grew up, and slowly moved to different stages – touching myself in different ways, over my clothes, then under, then with a vibrator. I’m not sure when I had my first orgasm. It surely was not during sexual intercourse, but rather by myself. I didn’t even have sex until I was 20, and it was with someone I had loved for a couple of years. I have always credited my experimentation with what I consider to be a healthy and enjoyable sex life now. It helped me to be familiar with my own body, comfortable with it, and to know what felt good. When you trust another person, and love another person, AND you have that comfort and familiarity with yourself, it makes it easier to discuss it together in the context of the bedroom.
You are still young, and you have a lot of time to learn your body – don’t tell yourself you are weird. I think that for women, pleasure in sex is learned/acquired (by oneself at first), not automatic; because we live in a world where sex is taboo, young women don’t get an opportunity to learn about it, or they feel ‘bad’ for doing so. I don’t think a sex partner can necessarily teach you about what feels good for your particular body – that is something to learn on your own, and later invite someone in.
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Name : Deb M., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 26, City : Chicago, State : IL, Country : United States, Occupation : Law Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper class,‘Most women don’t really like sex and often only do it for their man’s sake’ If by ‘most women’ you mean *you* don’t really like sex, I’m sorry to hear that. Get some therapy. Enjoying sex is the greatest thing on earth. You – literally – don’t know what you’re missing. I really hope you get the chance to find out! ‘Most girls regret having sex – I know I did’ Do you mean you regret starting too young? Or is this an ongoing thing? If the former, I can understand that, but surely you can get over it. If it’s the latter – see above.
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Name : Ken, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Secular Humanist, Age : 36, City : Washington, State : DC, Country : United States, Occupation : IT, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,When I was about 10 or 11 I began doing what you are describing. I am not a virgin, but like you I do not really enjoy having anything inside my vagina. I am a tiny woman (only 4’10’) and even an average guy feels uncomfortable. My partner and I have come to the agreement that if he helps me reach an orgasm before intercourse, then I will proceed to help him by allowing him to penetrate me, and even then he has to be gentle. The inside of a womans vagina(in my experience) doesnt recieve a lot of stimulation during sex. There really is no pleasure inside, it is mostly clitoral. If you overcome your hesitation to touch yourself, you may find that it is very pleasurable.
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Name : TaLeah Fennell, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Mixed, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 16, City : Tenino, State : WA, Country : United States, Occupation : College Student, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Lower middle class,
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