[Lynn]

I am a virgin and have never performed or received any kind of oral sex. I have never been touched and have never touched a member of the opposite sex. It’s not that I don’t have the chance. I’ve had several boyfriends, many who are sexually active, but I’m just not incredibly interested when it comes to performing sexual acts. I read porn on the net. Personally, the pictures are sort of silly, but there are stories that I find very arousing. After reading, I don’t ‘masturbate’ per se, but lie on my stomach with my clothes on and rub myself for about five minutes or until I get bored. Afterward I calmly get up and go about my day. When asked if I masturbate, I say no because I don’t really think of it as the real deal. Is it? I find myself ‘rubbing’ usually once a day, but I don’t touch myself or penetrate myself because I find it slightly gross and perhaps painful (I have never had anything inside my vagina). What is wrong with me? Does anyone else do bizarre things like this? Am I weird because I don’t care about having sex? Why is this? Could it be because for the most part I am considered a ‘good’ girl and have set a standard for myself? Please help; maybe I haven’t scared too many people.

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Name : Lynn, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 18, City : Nashville, State : TN, Country : United States, 

[Rick29807]

You’re pretty young to be worying about such things. I think you fall well within the normal range of sexuality. You might try experimenting with a vibrator on your clitoris when you decide you want to have an orgasm.

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Name : Rick29807, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, City : Springfield, State : OH, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

[Carl]

I think that you are definitely experiencing sexual feelings, but have either a self-imposed mental impediment or a natural physical indifference to sex. Some people have stronger libidos than others: you must not have raging hormones. There is absolutley nothing wrong with you or what you do. Every human has their own uniquely tailored approach to sex. Hopefully one day you will experience all that sex has to offer, but in the meantime you are wise to regard sex on your own terms, and not those of anyone else.

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Name : Carl, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 24, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : Trader, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

[T27540]

Rubbing yourself is masturbation because a woman can have an orgasm ‘merely’ from clitoral stimulation, and you don’t necessarily need anything penetrating the vagina. Also, if you’re not comfortable with the thought of touching yourself directly or penetrating yourself now, that doesn’t mean you won’t engage in sex in a relationship. I don’t think what you are doing is particularly weird or bizarre. Obviously you can and do get sexually aroused, and it seems to me that the reason you have not yet had sex – regardless of the boyfriends’ former level of sexual activity – may simply be that you have yet to get whisked off your feet by a truly passionate relationship that sets all your hormones seething.

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Name : T27540, Gender : F, Religion : Atheist, Age : 32, City : Munich, State : NA, Country : Germany, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class, 

[lisa]

go ahead and do it! there is nothing wrong with masturbation, no matter what women may say they all do it. it’s not immoral or disgusting or whatever some may say. its a totally natural and safe way to have a little fun and release

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Name : lisa, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 22, City : fresno, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : college student, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

[Stewart27718]

Your letter didn’t scare me at all. You seem like an absolutely normal young woman. You’re having some sexual feelings, but haven’t found anyone with whom you’d like to share it. It is perfectly fine if you wait until you’re sure you want to have sex with someone. In fact, that’s a whole lot better than deciding to do it just to go along with your boyfriend’s wishes. So, I think you are a pretty wise person. You are much more ‘with it’ than I was at your age. Reading porn stories can make you feel like everyone’s normal but you. All the characters are carefree and uninhibited, they have no worries about disease and no feelings of guilt. They’re just having fun. Well, trust me, these folks don’t exist in the real world. So it’s OK to let yourself feel aroused by the stories, but that’s as far as it goes. YOU are the normal person, NOT the characters in these stories. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. You’re not weird. I don’t know whether your rubbing is masterbation, or not. It really doesn’t matter. The next time someone asks if you masterbate, and it makes you feel uncomfortable, just look at them incredulously and say, ‘Why would you ask such a question? I certainly DON’T want to know if YOU masterbate!’

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[Chaz]

Lynn, I have known women who cheerfully cast off their virginity at 14 and women who were still fearful virgins at 22 … and they all seemed pretty normal to me in the end. I don’t know the technical definition, but I think you are masturbating. I also think masturbation is pretty normal for both sexes in most cultures, and it doesn’t make you a bad girl. In fact, ‘practicing’ now might make you more responsive and satisfied when you have sex with a partner. You are not bizarre or abnormal … though perhaps a late bloomer? Chaz

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[Cori B.]

I became sexually aware at a very young age, and wondered the same thing at around age 12. Like you, I do not find pleasure in stimulating myself manually, nor do I like to penetrate myself. When I masturabate–usually once or twice a week since I am married–I use friction. I’ve perfected the process so much that it usually only takes one or two minutes to find ‘relief’. I used to feel a great amount of guilt and shame, but after my friends discovered the pleasures of masturabation–much later than I may I add–I believe that this is normal. One friend uses the pulsing jets of her shower head on her clit, another uses a hand held back massager. Only one friend I know uses penetration to masturbate.

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Name : Cori B., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Italian-White, Religion : Spiritual Transition, Age : 21, City : Bellevue, State : NE, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class, 

[lorilei]

you don’t say where you rub yourself, but whatever. if you really think parts of your body are weird or that touching other people is silly (tho to be fair, 99% of porn is not reality & so you’ve got a point), then you might want to explore what you touched on as potentially part of your problem: that you are a ‘good girl’ & maybe even the part your religion has played in your feelings. i think you are possibly being stunted by these things. i don’t mean that you should be some sexually active adventuress, you are not ready for sex, that is clear; just that they can develop into a problem for you if they go unchecked. you should get some material, books, etc, that discuss female sexuality & your body, etc… your body should never be a source of shame & sexuality is part of every living thing on this earth & it is not inherently bad. relax!

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[SamSlick28288]

Let me hit you with some truth,it may hurt but it will help you,I hope.You said you are a Christian yet you read porn and perform sexual acts upon yourself.These things don’t go together,you can’t truly be a Christian and do those things.I say truly because many people call themselves ‘Christians’ simply because they go to church or are a good person.To be a Christian is to be Christ-like,that’s what the word means.Clearly these things are not Christ-like.I would encourage you to get into a Christ-loving,Bible-believing church and get the discipleship you need. Don’t worry about not being interested in sex, God loves you and has a plan for your life,and a Godly husband in store for you.Save yourself for your husband,I know that sounds old-fashioned nowadays but you’ll be thankful you did.Draw close to God and He’ll draw close to you.You had a response from an athiest,don’t seek/take advice/counsel from the ungodly,they’ll lead you down the wrong path.Take your leading from God.

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[Pookie]

There’s nothing wrong with you. Try to be comfortable with yourself the way you are. I think of it like drinking coffee. Lots of people love coffee. Lots of people love different varieties of coffee. Personally I can’t stand it. Same with sex and masturbation. It may seem like the rest of the world is having sex, but that doesn’t mean that you have to also. Take it easy; you have the rest of your life to evolve into the person you want to be. Maybe you could search for Christian websites to get info on this subject also.

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Name : Pookie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 28, City : Bristol, State : IN, Country : United States, Occupation : court reporter, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

[Kris, Alberta]

First, there is nothing wrong with you. Most women don’t really like sex and often only do it for their man’s sake. I think it is really good that you have set such high standards. I don’t think enough people do. Most girls regret having sex – I know I did. The other thing is that yes, you are masturbating – you don’t have to insert anything for masturbating. Masturbation is bringing self-pleasure, and if you are doing it every day, you must be enjoying it somewhat. But remember that all girls do it and it doesn’t make you a bad person. I would bet that even your mother does it. For some reason parents say it is bad because they think that if you are enjoying masturbation you will go and have sex.

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Name : Kris, Alberta, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 21, City : Edmonton, State : NA, Country : Canada, Occupation : na, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Lower middle class, 

[Beth23378]

A couple of things: since you are 21 and don’t know what all woman think, I don’t think you can say that most women don’t really like sex. Most women I know enjoy sex a lot. The impression I got when I read this was that you got burned in a relationship and it has affected how you see men and sex. Sex is good. Second thing: All girls don’t masturbate. Many do, but not all. There’s nothing wrong with helping yourself out sometimes.

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[Irit]

There is absolutely, definitely nothing wrong with you. So you haven’t found the right person yet. So what? I lost my virginity at the ripe age of 25, and I know I wasn’t ready for it earlier. So I certainly don’t regret not having sex sooner. Regarding the ‘rubbing’ – I started masturbating at age 21 (late bloomer that I am), and it took me a while to find the technique that was right for me. I don’t insert anything into my vagina, but use manual stimulation on my clitoris. I believe most women masturbate this way. And by the way, I’m a Good Girl too. That doesn’t mean I don’t have sexual urges; rather, it means I’m kind and do not hurt others. And that’s the most important thing.

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[Jill]

speakin of that, any place you know of with good, free porn stories?

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