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To women: How bad does it hurt when having sex for the first time?
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Name : Helen-D, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, City : Dallas, State : TX, Country : United States,I can tell you about my first time. It did hurt. You know why? I was 19 and nervous as everything. Hence, no lubrication and very tight muscles. It was not a pleasant experience for me. Of course, hindsight being 20/20, I realized if I had been relaxed and comfortable with the situation, it might have gone smoother. That is the emotional side of it. As for the physical side………each woman and man are different from the next (body wise) Let me put it like this…NOT ALL SCREW DRIVERS ARE MADE TO FIT ALL SCREWS….understand? If you are going to be with someone…be comfortable with your situation mentally and physically…..everything will be fine.
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Name : Tammy H., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Baptist, Age : 32, City : Hammond, State : LA, Country : United States, Occupation : Homemaker, Education level : 2 Years of College,It hurt me a lot the first few times. I didn’t know at the time that this was perfectly normal, and I thought there was something wrong with me. If you are experiencing pain, ask him to stretch you out by gradually inserting a few fingers. Make sure you’re sexually aroused enough before you begin so that you’re well-lubricated (lots of foreplay helps). And relax – it might not be great at first, but it gets much better!
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Name : Rhiannon29977, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 29, City : Minneapolis, State : MN, Country : United States,In my case it hurt considerably. I think it also depends on the man and how sensitive he is to the situation. If you are talking about an immature male who is more concerned about his needs than your comfort, it probably hurts more. Make sure you are with someone you love and who truly loves you the first time.
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Name : D-Romero, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Age : 33, City : Metairie, State : LA, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College,When I had sex the first time, at 16, it hurt so piercingly that I tried to crawl up the wall behind me. A friend of mine, also 16, bled so badly she had to stop. But I’ve had other friends say they had no problem at all with it. My understanding is that a lot of it depends on your age (the older you are, the easier it is) and the width of your hips.
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Name : Phoebe, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 20, City : Miami Beach, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Journalist, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,The answer to this will be different for every woman. For me, it hurt very much. I was terrified and (when I think about it now) not ready for it. I thought I was going to pass out from the pain. A lot of it had to do with the fact that I was very young and didn’t know my body well enough, and my partner wasn’t any wiser. Enjoyment of your first sexual experience heavily rests on attitude, emotional maturity and the relationship of the people involved.
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Name : Andrea-G, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : West Indian/South American, Religion : Wiccan, Age : 24, City : Toronto, Ontario, State : NA, Country : Canada, Occupation : Public Relations, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I just had to answer since everyone else said that their first experience was very painful. Mine was not at all. I was only 16 at the time, and it was a bit awkward, but definitely not painful. I didn’t experience any bleeding or pain. I think the key is to experiment with your body ahead of time, get to know yourself. And if you are so nervous that you are tensing all of your muscles, maybe that is your body’s way of telling you that you aren’t ready, either at all or with this guy.
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Name : Kathy26659, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 24, City : Los Angeles, State : CA, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Just to give a different view, it didnt hurt at all for me. I think it was probably because I was relaxed and had done everything but sex with my partner so the actual sex wasnt a very big step. I had already come, so lube wasnt a problem, and we hadnt planned for it to be the ‘big night’ so I knew I could change my mind and not have it be a big deal. I did, however, bleed more than I thought I would, I was glad I had a pad with me.
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Name : Samantha29428, City : Seattle, State : WA, Country : United States, Occupation : student,I agree with the other posters who said that it depends on experience/age, sensitivity, and individual construction. For me, i’d say it was uncomfortable, but not as horrificly painful as some of the women here have described! Yikes! I found it helpful to be on top. That way, I could control the rate, depth, and speed of penetration. _________________
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Name : Jennifer R., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Humanist, Age : 29, City : Saint Paul, State : MN, Country : United States, Occupation : Writer/Student, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,My first time was just like the above. It hurt alot. My friend at that time had just experinced the same thing.. pain. My boyfriend and I had discussed having sex and I had brought up the potential pain factor. This ended up being so helpful as we were both aware. being open with each other and communication is the key. If you can talk about it, then you might want to reconisder what level your realtionship is on. If you communicate honestly, then sex isn’t the best choice now. He would only slide it in a little at a time and then i would tell him to wait, i would breath and try to relax some more then he would continue to slide. once it was pretty much pushed all the way in, sliding it back and for still hurt a little but then felt good. He did make the mistake of sliding it out then attempting to enter again. No no no, we had to start all over. The rule was once it was in, it stayed in. Although I did not have an orgasm he did. The worst was over. Being stretched with fingers is a good idea. Also dildos are a great way to control things your self. You can practice him entering and existing at your own pace. Eventually you will be at the point where you do not have to worry about stopping or the little shooting pains.
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Name : Beth23211, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Methodist, Age : 18, City : Columbus, State : OH, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Upper middle class,It doesn’t have to hurt the first time. Break your hymen yourself, or have your boyfriend break it for you using his fingers. Yes, it’ll hurt, but then it will guarantee that your first time won’t be painful.
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Name : antics, Gender : M, Race : Asian, Age : 25, City : Mountain View, State : CA, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,
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