[Kathy]

Last year I married a wonderful, warm, emotional, sensual Italian male who has been in this country 11 years. Sex is the best I’ve ever had – as long as it’s his idea. Luckily, he gets the idea fairly often. But if I try to start something, chances are 80 to 90 percent he will not be able to maintain an erection. Is this a cultural difference, or just my husband? Are all Italian males uncomfortable with sexual expectations that come from the woman?

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Name : Kathy, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 46, City : Cincinnati, State : OH, Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class, 

[R-Martin30341]

I do not believe it is a question of race, rather a state of being. You can have people who are unable to maintain erections of all races. I think perhaps in this case it may just be a choice, that maybe he is more into sex if it is his idea. I know that with different girlfriends I’ve had, the sex seemed better if it was their idea, not mine. But then again, I love sex, so I’m happy getting it any time I can. It could be that he is one of the many people who are more interested in their own sexuality than others’. I’m not trying to take anything away from him, but people are just different.

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Name : R-Martin30341, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 26, City : Jacksonville, State : IL, Country : United States, Occupation : press operator, Education level : Technical School, Social class : Lower middle class, 

[Christian32028]

it’s your husband. Erections for men are individual as their personality. Did it ever occur to you that he may not be ‘in the mood’?

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Name : Christian32028, City : Somewhere in Italy.., State : NA, Country : Italy, 

[Ciccio]

I think that the problem is your hubby… I am italian and I love when a woman initiate and is kinda agressive, besides, I am horny all the times anyways.

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Name : Ciccio, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 39, City : Hayward, State : CA, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

[Mike Urciolo]

Italians (men and women) are extremely traditional. Although they don’t have a real problem with their wives working, they still expect the women to raise the children and have the husband’s meal on the table when they get home. Generations of families live in the same house or block, and moving 10 miles away is equivalent to moving to the new world. Children tend to live at home until they get married. Now – what follows is my opinion based on conversations with Italians – certainly not scientific, but most kids who stay at home do not contribute to the rent or utility bills, and Mom gets up early to make their breakfast and iron their clothes. It’s even worse in Sicily, where unemployment is over 40% – a man who a real job skill would never consider living Sicily, even if it was just moving to Southern Italy, because he couldn’t conceive of leaving ‘home.’ And it would break his parents’ hearts if he did. I believe Italians live in a family-social environment that existed in the United States back in the 1940’s and 1950’s. I’ve lived in Washington DC, Hawaii, New York, Atlanta, Chicago, New Jersey and Milwaukee. Over the past 8 years, I’ve lived in Panama, Germany and Italy. What I have learned is that a hometown is no more than a starting point in a conversation.

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Name : Mike Urciolo, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 56, City : Naples, State : NA, Country : Italy, Occupation : Communications Tech, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

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