[Randi S.]

Part 1: Muslims remain pure until marriage. Because sex is a natural part of humanity, and the development/drive of it is achieved around the puberty years, I am curious to know how males handle the mental torture of abstinence.

Part 2: Due to the increase of Western culture’s influence in other cultures, as well as increased immigration into the United States, has abstaining from sex before marriage begun to become a thing of the past? Honest answers only

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[Joanne]

Coming from a Muslim country and having a few Muslim friends myself, I came to know that not all of them are pure on the day of marriage. In fact, the strong restriction not only didn’t manage to stop people from wanting it more, but it also causes a lot of illegal abortions. Worse still, each year hundreds of abandoned babies were found dead or alive in public toilets and Dumpsters. When the mother was successfully detected, the majority were underage. Cases like rape are not surprising, despite how ‘purely’ maintained a country is. As abortion is illegal and sex before marriage is not allowed, I guess the only solution for them is to turn to their own solution.

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[Hayat R.]

Muslims deal with the ‘torture of abstinence’ the same way they deal with the rules mandating prayer five times a day, fasting from dawn till dusk for a 30 days, eating only blessed meat, avoiding pork, liquor, drugs and the like. We are taught to be disciplined. The Muslim philosophy is that this life is simply a test and our purpose is to pass the test as best as we can. Due to that, we try to follow the many rules imposed on us by God. Of course, not everyone follows these rules. It is becoming increasingly common for men and women alike to indulge in pre-marital relations, but it is not acceptable in Islamic societies, nor it is advocated. There will always be those who break the rules; who do not have the fortitude or desire to follow. Some rise to the occasion, others fall. A sad truth though is that many Muslims living in Western societies where sexual relations of all sorts are celebrated do participate in the free-for-all. Often it is more acceptable for men to ‘sow their oats’ before marriage, but for women it is still undesired. Aside from deviants in Islamic society, the standard still is chastity till marriage. That is why Muslims marry young and avoid temptations.

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[Orooj]

It is not mental torture as you put it. It has to do with faith. If you beleive in something stongly it will help you to abstain from it. There are many suggestions in the Hadiths (traditions of the Holy Prohphet Mohammend) and the Quran on how to abstain. ie: fasting, getting married young, etc.

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[noha]

sex before marriage is a very big sin in islam ,it’s called a ‘big’sin there are 7 big sins,these sins aren’t forgiven unless your really regretting that sin,ask for forgivness wholheartedly and make a resolution never to do it again ,other small sins are forgiven with routin asking for forgivness,doing good deeds and so on. so its apparant that sex before marriage is too big a sin ,very few muslims take that lightly unless they’re not really true practicing and not really close to GOD. i live in a muslim country,EGYPT and other than certain not-close-to-GOD groups noone commits adultury and it isn’t accepted neither islamicly nor traditionally as an arab country

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[Irfan]

I am a Muslim male of 14, so i’ll try answering these questions. 1. Self-control. I keep myself focused on high school and cross country (my sport.) I don’t need to have sex now cause God doesn’t want me to, and I accept that. I also think about the negative consequences that can arise, such as having to bear the burden of a child, STD’s, etc. 2. I would definitely say that it has. Society always seems to promote the idea that having sex before marriage is acceptable. On the other hand, I know some non-Muslims who practice abstinence (mostly because of their religion or the practical reasons why.)

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