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I have a friend who is half of an interracial married couple. They have two children. I could never ask her, but I’ve wondered how she felt when her children were born and didn’t look like her. She is blond and blue-eyed, and her husband is African American. Her children are beautiful, but wouldn’t it be strange at first?
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Name : Lynn-Marie-W, Gender : F, City : Minnetonka, State : MN, Country : United States,I AM A PRODUCT OF AN INTER RACIAL MARRIAGE AND I ALSO HAVE CHILDREN. WHEN YOU DECIDE TO MARRY OUT SIDE OF YOU RACE I WOULD THINK THAT RACE WAS NOT AN ISSUE IN YOUR MIND (COLOR BLIND LOVE). WHEN YOU DECIDE TO HAVE CHILDREN IT IS USUALLY BASED ON LOVE AND NOT WHAT COLOR THEY ARE GOING TO BE…YOU WILL LOVE THAT CHILD NO MATTER HOW THEIR HAIR OR SKIN MAY COME OUT.IT WOULDN’T FEEL STRANGE BECAUSE YOU HAVE A SPOUSE OF THAT RACE AND YOU ARE USE TO IT. LOVE IN A MARRIGE AND W/ CHILDREN ARE NOT BASED OFF OF THIS CONFUSED WORLD THAT WE LIVE IN..I AM SURE THAT SHE DOESN’T EVEN NOTICE….
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Name : NADIRA, City : FRESNO, State : CA, Country : United States,I am a white woman involved with a black man for 2-and-a-half years. We will be married and have children of our own one day. I do not believe I will feel let-down in anyway when my children are born because in many cases the children are a combination of both parents. My children will probably claim many of the same traits as my husband, but just like many people are trying to say….the outer appearance of one shouldn’t remain of the greatest importance. Just like any other parent in this world, I will simply be happy to see the birth of happy, healthy babies!
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Name : Melissa, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : no preference, Age : 21, City : Terre Haute, State : IN, Country : United States, Occupation : full-time student, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,As a follow-up question to the original, I am curious about Caucasian women who have raised interracial children by African-American/black men. Has the race question negatively affected your relationships with your children? In San Francisco, race seems defining for many African Americans. My curiosity was fueled recently by a problem faced by an African-American female friend who reported that her three children, all in their early 20s, are very angry at her and her (also black) husband for not ‘raising them more black.’ I wonder, were I to have children in the future with my boyfriend, who is black, whether this would be a barrier or an issue. I know that parental influence is key, but societal influences also create challenges, and I am curious how you met them.
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Name : Michele M., Gender : F, Religion : Catholic, Age : 31, City : San Francisco, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : EEO Programs Manager, Education level : Over 4 Years of College,I am the mother of 2 multiracial sons. They look like me as well as thier father. My oldest son has my eye shape, my nose, and my body type. My younger son has my nose and eye shape as well. I think they are beautiful children. As all children can be a mixture of both parents traits, so are mine. 🙂
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Name : T-G27524, City : Springfield, State : IL, Country : United States,Hi, this question really does not relate to me, but as a child to a father who is black, white and chinese, and whos wife,[my mother], is asian, hawaiin, and hispanic, I love who I am. I asked my parents on how they thought of me when Iwas born considering the fact that I was mix. All they said was that, it had never come into their mind when they saw what they have made, the race or how I would look would not matter, they said its beautiful, I look like a combiantion of all my parents and grandparents combined. Its beautiful. You look at a childs eyes, all you is the truth, beauty and purity.
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Name : Rainbow, City : Philadelphia, State : PA, Country : United States,I am a child of an interracial marriage and most people don’t think that my mother is my mother although we look alike. Most people assume that she is my sister. Also, my mother used to be concerned about how people would treat me when they found out she is white. Also, my mother told me that when I was born, she thought the nurses brought her the wrong baby. She thought I would be darker and look more like my father instead of her. Be open and support your friend and her children. There will come a time when they are going to need your unconditional love and support. Children can be very mean.
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Name : K. Smith, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Afican-American, Native-American, and Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 21, City : Monroe, State : LA, Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,FIRST OF ALL YOU SHOULDNT BE INTERACILAY DATING ANYWAY. White women only date black men because of stereotypes, and black men date white women becuase they say out of thier own mouths that they are easy as hell, anything you tell them to do they will do it, white women are stupid yall cant tell one black man from another you may marry a black man but ya child is still a niggah half man half monkey lol
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Name : black-pride, City : Philadelphia, State : PA, Country : United States,Hi there. I used to work with a lady who was bi-racial (white and Black Caribbean) – she was of a dark complexion but was clearly mixed (very little in terms of black features). She had twins – one of which who looked Hispanic and the other who had corkscrew blond locks, blue-eyes and pale skin and could’ve passed for caucasian when her mother wasn’t around. Other than that she was the dead stamp of her corkscrew dark brown locked, brown eyed and dark brown skinned mother. Please don’t underestimate the power of genes!
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Name : Lashae-Anderson, City : London, State : NA, Country : United Kingdom,
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