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Why do Indians let their kids do what they please and not try to control them? I onced asked a guy from India why he just let his child scream and kick and slam doors while living in an apartment complex and said he had read books that said you should let your child be free to do what they please and that it’s not OK to try to disipline. Do Indians really think it’s OK not to discipline when a child is misbehaving?
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Name : Rhea28963, Gender : Female, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 22, City : Albany, State : NY, Country : United States, Education level : Technical School, Social class : Middle class,Are you talking here about the same inconsiderate Indian family in your building that you mentioned in your other post? I assume that you are, because you give no other source for your knowlege of Indians as parents. You said in that one that everyone in that family is loud and inconsiderate, and all of their guests, adults and kids, are too. Well, think about it. You don’t like being around these people because of their obnoxious ways. Why would Indians who are quiet and believe that children should be well-behaved feel any different than you do? Your loud and rude neighbors have loud and rude friends because they’re loud and rude, not because loudness and rudeness are more characteristic of Indians. I’ll bet that if your neighbors have American guests, those people are also rude. And I really don’t think that you can generalize about any group as parents. I wonder how much you get out in public or what you focus on when you’re there if you don’t notice that there are a lot of poorly behaved children around. I have a public service job in a workplace that is frequented by a broad range of people who vary across whatever spectrum you choose to look at–age, race, religion, ethnic background, income. And in the course of a day, I run across a lot of children behaving badly, and a lot of parents responding ineffectively or not at all. And if I drew conclusions about groups of people based on misbehaving children, you know who I would say are parents who don’t discipline? White parents, Black parents, Indian parents, Non-Indian Asian parents, gay parents, straight parents, teenage parents, older parents, parents with tattoos, parents who are professionals, blue-collar parents, Eastern European parents, born-again Christian parents, and any other kind of parents. And of course, there are parents in all those groups whose children do behave well in public and are corrected when they don’t.
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Name : Lynne, Gender : F, City : Gainesville, State : FL, Country : United States,INDIANS DO PUNISH THEIR KIDS I KNEW A FRIEND HER DAD NOT ONLY BEAT HER BUT HER MOTHER AND SISTER THEY WERE TREATED LIKE TRASH
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Name : Sorgul, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : KURDISH, Religion : Muslim, Age : 20, City : ATL, State : GA, Country : United States, Occupation : STUDENT, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,The Indian/Pakistani parents I have known are just as prone to disciplining their children as anyone else. Here are some possible reasons the guy in your apartment complex behaved as he did: 1) It’s only within the last four or five years that Yuppies have gotten over the idea that they must be their children’s ‘pal’ rather than their ‘parent’; and that saying ‘no’ or punishing them for bad behavior will NOT irreversibly damage their delicate little self-esteemie-weemies and turn them into the next John Wayne Gacy. This Indian guy in your complex may have been a Yuppie. 2) He may have been a recent immigrant, and trying to ‘fit in’ by raising his son the way he perceived that ‘all’ Americans raise their kids, based on the absurd misinformation he read in those late 80’s early ’90’s ‘You Must Be Your Baby’s Buddy’ ‘parenting’ books. 3) He may have heard about that Chinese couple in Chicago who were nearly deported for getting caught appropriately punishing their lying, thieving 11-year-old daughter, and been afraid to so much as say ‘no’ to the kid for fear of being charged with child abuse.
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Name : Ann L. Lowenstein, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Animist, Age : 37, City : K.C., State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : Administrative Assistant, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Have you looked around lately? The majority of parents today act like this with their kids. Black, white, yellow, red, green, purple, blue, whatever… it seems to be the trend over the last 10-15 years to not discipline your kids. It’s not just Indians, it’s society as a whole. And it’s just as ridiculous for everyone else to do it as it is for Indians. I worked as a camp counselor and this was the reaction most parents had whenever we had to inform them that we had to write their children up, that you shouldn’t discipline children — every reason from it’ll injure their self-esteem to stunt their creativity. It annoys the hell out of me, too, but it’s not a race issue. It’s a society-full-of-crappy-parents issue.
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Name : Cathy, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 22, City : Jacksonville, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : financial service representative, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Lower middle class,I have the same question to pose, however I have countless families that have brought me to ask this question. I am in retail and see families spend a very long time in our store. The kids are climbing all over everything, yelling across the store, touching computers and phone, etc. The parents never tell the kids to stop. Never. Yes, every so often families of other races have no discipline for their children but it is with every Indian family that has come in our store. This is something I just can’t figure out and I’d love to hear from an Indian.
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Name : MeghanL, Gender : Female, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Disability : Blind, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 31, City : Cedar Rapids, State : IA, Country : United States, Occupation : Sales, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
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