[D-T]

I’ve lived in a house for three years with several roommates (all male). The rest of us (all straight) think our other roommate is gay. We have had a lot of people ask us if he was, including girls he was dating. What do I do. Do I ask him, or let it go?
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Name : D-T, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Age : 29, City : San Diego, State : CA, Country : United States, 

[Kathy26669]

From the information you included in your question, it doesn’t seem there is a need to confront him. Get really clear with yourself about why you would need to do this. Maybe he is really straight, but has conservative sexual beliefs and is just as afraid to discuss that with you. He might have other sexuality issues. My issues as I grew up tied me in knots for several years as an adult. I did not have a lot of dates, but it had little to do with being gay. It had more to do with shame associated with sex and being vulnerable. Or maybe he is just really really private in his dating. Regardless, I don’t see the reason for confronting him.

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Name : Kathy26669, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 33, City : Philadelphia, State : PA, Country : United States, 

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