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I have several male friends who come from cultures where homosexuality was frowned upon. To satisfy their families, they did the traditional thing: they got married and had children. Then they decided they could no longer live a lie and came out of the closet to their families. This devastated their spouses. Does anyone have any information about homosexuals who want to please their families by doing the traditional thing but then come out of the closet?
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Name : Sylvia, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Hawaiian, Religion : Jehovahs Witness, Age : 39, City : Honolulu, State : HI, Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,I know a lot about this subject… I am part of an email list for lesbians married to men. Women who are primarily or only attracted to women, which is why we label ourselves lesbians, but who are married to men for various reasons. Some spouses handle it well, others do not. Some marriages stay together, like mine, others do not. The usual expectation is that ‘all’ of them will end, but not all of us would like to leave our marriages. I actually care a great deal for my husband. I don’t know that I’d do it again tomorrow if he went away, but for this one male, I am happy.
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Name : Kerry, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Wiccan, Age : 31, City : Ventura, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Stage Worker, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,My ex-step-father’s dad was gay. He did just this, married a woman, had 3 sons and then decided to come out. This devistated his family, it was the most selfish thing he could have ever done. All 3 sons had major issues with this. It’s one thing to have the issues within yourself, but to bring another person into your mess and then to bring children into it is the most selfish thing a man could do, and those people deserve no respect and no sympathy. It’s their children who are going to do the real suffering.
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Name : Stephanie27799, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 21, City : Phoenix, State : AZ, Country : United States, Education level : Technical School, Social class : Middle class,You posted this a long time ago. If you are still interested, I have info for you.
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Name : AP24986, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 24, City : Prince Georges County, State : MD, Country : United States, Occupation : Teacher, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Yeah, they want to please their family but on the other hand, be their selves. email me at oteliecwg@aol.com
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Name : Christ-to-da-Mist32222, City : detroit, State : MI, Country : United States,I was raised in a deeply religious culture where we were expected to get married and have children. I’ve always had an attraction for men, but was told that it was just a phase and that I’d grow out of it. My intimate relationships have been more because of the connection with the other person rather than the gender. I’ve been married for around 20 years and am very attracted to my spouse as a friend, companion and lover. But intimacy seems to follow close friendships with men as well. I don’t identify myself as gay, bi or straight – just human.
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Name : Adam, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Mormon, Age : 40, City : Honolulu, State : HI, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper class,I know several gay men who have had wives because it was what was deemed socially acceptable at the time. These same people had kids from the marriage as well. It’s a shame that these things happen, but society puts great pressure on people to be ‘normal’, though it is more accepting of late. All of these individuals were caucasian men living in North America, so it’s not restricted to foreign cultures.
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Name : Gregory Grondin, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 27, City : Saint John, State : NA, Country : Canada, Occupation : Software Developer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
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