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Why do women of the Hispanic culture have to be married before they are in their 30s?
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Name : KC26929, City : Indianola, State : MS, Country : United States,Go back 50 years in the US, why did white women feen the need to be married before 30, why do married copies that don’t have children by thier 30s ask why? Culture norm in most cases. With the influx of Hispanics into the US thier culture gets a constant update so it does not fade as quickly as many other do. Family values are more predominate, with that family values means you need to have a family, that means women AND men need to get marries and need to have children. But on a whole most cultures still encourage marriage at semi young age (ie before 30 😉 ).
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Name : Kynn, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Methodist, Age : 28, City : Lubbock, State : TX, Country : United States, Occupation : nurse/student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Marrying a Hispanic woman while she is still young is considered ideal because she hasn’t been around with too many men yet. Hispanic men do not want a women with a lot of history. It is considered shameful for the husband.
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Name : George-G, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Religion : Catholic, Age : 42, City : Greeley, State : CO, Country : United States, Occupation : Machinist, Education level : Technical School, Social class : Middle class,Well, I don’t know if I entirely agree with the reason I am about to give, but I think it is purely to have kids. You see, Latin America is primarily Roman Catholic, and a ‘Machista’, and therefore a region where the importance of starting families is seen as huge! Hispanic women, especially those being raised by parents from the ‘Motherland,’ are pressured to find a man, get married and breed. Men somewhat get this, too, but being a culture dominated by men, sowing wild oats is seen, perhaps, as more permissable for us.
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Name : Carlos19239, Gender : M, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), City : Chicago, State : IL, Country : United States,I’m not Hispanic but I work with some Hispanic women. What I see is that marriage and family is their top priority. Career is not very important to them. Their attitude is their husband will provide the bulk of their financial needs. They are not very interested in what goes on around them if it’s not related to home and family, from what I have observed.
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Name : Lisa, City : Los Angeles, State : CA, Country : United States,1 – Because there’s a prevailing belief among Hispanics that if a woman is not married by the time she’s 25, she’ll never get married. And 2 – persons from poorer nations get married earlier than developed nations (Latinos get married earlier than Americans, Southern Europeans marry earlier than northern Euros, Southeast Asians marry earlier than Japanese, etc. you get the picture) But number 1 is the strongest factor.
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Name : Luis22478, Gender : M, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Age : 29, City : new york, State : NY, Country : United States, Social class : Middle class,In the United States we don’t ‘have’ to be married before 30. We are modern Americans like everyone else. In general, though, Latinos are very family oriented. So many young Latinos just want to start their own families and carry on family traditions. Besides, I’ve seen plenty of people from other ethnic origins who marry young, too. In Latin America, where customs remain more traditional and there is widespread poverty, many young women marry for socioeconomic reasons. If they marry a nice young man from a ‘good’ family, their financial future and that of their children is set. Plus, Latin Americans don’t necessarily have the privilege of putting off marriage, parenthood, and other social customs until a later age to ‘find themselves.’ That seems to be unique to industrialized countries.
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Name : Deborah-W25783, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Religion : Catholic, Age : 46, City : Denver, State : CO, Country : United States, Occupation : Journalist, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,In the Hispanic culture, a Latina, at the age of 15 will have a quinceañera (A gigantic birthday party with $1,000 cakes, reserved dance halls, punch fountains, 15 male escorts, and much more). This in the Hispanic culture was historically for the parents of a niña to advertise her as available for marriage. It was very important for the ladies to get married so they would be supported and protected for the rest of their lives and would no longer be the responsibility of their parents. I can testify to this because I am a 15 year old, bilingual and very involved in the tejana culture that exists here where I live. Being blonde-haired, blue-eyed, white skinned, bilingual, and my parents having a new Corvette sends infinite messages to a Hispanic couple with a young lady they’re eager to get out from under their roof. (1) Light skin, blue eyes, and blonde hair is very desired in the Hispanic culture because it is what is not common, just like a tan here. (2) Being bilingual is very important because supposedly it shows intelligence and ambition which is ideal for a husband. (3) My parents having a Corvette (which happens to be leased) sends the message that I am wealthy and that if I were in love with a young lady that I would do whatever it took to provide for her and I would be capable. Due to all this, on countless occasions I have been approached by Latina mothers asking me if I am looking for a wife. They say this 50% seriously and 50% humorously. Of course I am not yet interested in getting married but maybe in the future it will help me.
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Name : Kyle-M, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Baptist, Age : 15, City : Spring, State : TX, Country : United States, Occupation : Restaurant, Education level : Less than High School Diploma, Social class : Upper middle class,Shouldn’t the question be why are women in industrialized Western countries beginning to marry so late in their child-bearing years? All cultures, including the Anglo-American, have traditionally had their men and women marry young because those are the optimum child-bearing years. It is only in the last 80 years or so that the most modern and industrialized countries have had the option and the material luxuries to postpone marriage and childbirth.
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Name : Arturo, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Religion : Secular Humanist, Age : 35, City : Corona, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : janitor, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,It is a bit of a misconception to state that women of Hispanic descent ‘have’ to be married before they are 30. Yet, by this age many Hispanic cultures do consider a woman older than that, to put it in American/White terms, an old maid. Many Hispanic cultures, whether Mexican, Puerto Rican, Cuban, etc., are deeply steeped in patriarchy, or the idea that a man is in control. In the eyes of many in this culture a woman without a man has less value.
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Name : Mónica, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Religion : Catholic, Age : 27, City : San Antonio, State : TX, Country : United States, Occupation : PhD Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,It’s not that they *have* to be married. But because of the emphasis on family and family relations, it’s encouraged that both males and females get married while they’re in their 20s. There’s also a lot of pressure from the parents because they want to see their grandchildren before they die (guilt-trip). This despite the fact that they may be in perfect health and in their early 50s. Furthermore, your’e not really taken seriously (as a male) by the other male members of the family until you become a ‘padre de familia’ (Head of a family).
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Name : Jorge, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Religion : Atheist, Age : 42, City : Richland, State : WA, Country : United States, Occupation : Research Scientist, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,And why are Hispanic women pushed more into the home and not more into education?
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Name : Stephanie Smith, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Hawaiian/Spanish/Native American/White, Religion : Christian, Age : 21, City : Twentynine Palms, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Homemaker/Loan Rep, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Women from Latin countries believe in marriage more than women from the West. They don’t have the ‘hang-ups’ we have here. Being married in most Latin countries is an honor…not a choice, per se.
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Name : Diane, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 40+, City : Charlotte, State : NC, Country : United States, Occupation : Hard, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,
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