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Tell her if she wants to do it you would support her, but that you think she’s fine the way she is. if youre not fine with her the way she is, you shouldn’t be dating her. neither of you are going to be happy in the long-run if you make a decision for her about what she should do with her own body.
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Name : emma25384, City : baltimore, State : MD, Country : United States,Fake boobs look great, but they’re a great turnoff to me and a lot of other guys I know. Besides the fact that you’re playing with a bag of silicone, I’d much rather be involved with someone who is confident in who they are, as opposed to someone who felt they had to surgically alter themselves just to make up for their lack of confidence in themselves. And, besides, the boobs soon get lost in the shuffle when the action’s heating up. By the way, how many among us are born with the perfect bod? If a person works out hard and gets ripped up that’s one thing, but to go under the scapel means the person is just the same on the inside as what they’re trying to display on the outside: ‘False.’
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Name : Bill-Wheless23235, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Methodist, Age : 33, City : Louisburg, State : NC, Country : United States, Occupation : Drywall Company Owner, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I have the exact opposite problem. My wife wishes she could reduce her D cup size breasts to a B. (Big breasts give her back problems and make it harder to do the physical activities she likes to do.) I also would prefer her to have smaller breasts, however I have NOT told her this, and I NEVER plan to. When she brings up the subject, I just support her and tell her that I love her no matter what sized breasts she has. (The truth!) And I don’t make it sound like I’m copping out. Instead, I quickly and consistently respond the same way all the time. She doesn’t need me to add to her decision making process on having breast reduction surgery. If she’s going to be happy with surgery, or without, she needs to come to that conclusion on her own.
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Name : Chuck-P, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 28, City : Erie, State : PA, Country : United States,I have been married for 2 years to a really great guy. I too, have small breasts, and my husband has told me he does like them a little bigger than mine. Now, while I was taken aback by his honesty, I also thought it a refreshing change from ‘You’re just perfect, dear!’. His demonstration of honesty in that query leads me to trust him at his word. We have discussed the possibility of breast augmentation. However, he has made it clear he wouldn’t want me to do it if I didn’t want to. And, as he says, he isn’t with me because of my breasts. He loves me the way I am, percieved flaws and all. *please identify me as Tonya K.
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Name : Tonya Kincaide, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Baptist, Age : 32, City : evansville, State : IN, Country : United States, Occupation : automotive repair, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Middle class,Would you like to be told by your girlfriend that your penis is too small? Would you believe her when, directly after she said that, she continued ‘but you don’t need to enlarge it, honey, I love you just the way you are’? And would you undergo surgery to have your penis enlarged when she told you that she actually likes 10′ dicks? Think, man! She has small boobs, and she is a little insecure about that. Maybe some earlier boyfriend or a brother teased her about it. Don’t make it worse!
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Name : Bas, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 34, City : Amsterdam, State : NA, Country : The Netherlands, Occupation : Designer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,It sounds like both of you need to be focusing on what you enjoy about her figure, not what you like better about other women. When she asks you about the size, concentrate on something else like the shape, if they’re firm or soft, what you love about them. Then hopefully that will convince her to stop thinking on one thing. There’s no use changing your body for someone until you’ve made a very serious very long term committment. Especially not with something that is surgical and can be extremly painful and distressing physically and emotionally. You’re not with those larger chested women. You’re with HER and there are a lot of reasons for that. I’m sure breasts are the number one reason you use to pick who you’re going to date, so don’t let it come between you. You also need to think about this, because if you’re thinking ‘Well, I would like her better a little bigger’ then it can shine through and hurt her, and you feel like you’re hiding something. People are made the way they’re made. Even a flippant comment can really hurt her for a very long time. Take this from a girl who was told three years ago that her boyfriend might like her better if she lost weight. It still stings, no matter how true it was.
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Name : Meiran, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 24, City : Roanoke, State : VA, Country : United States, Occupation : Writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Chris, I feel it is important to her that you let her know that she is beautiful just how she is – which it what you appear to be telling her already. If she point blank asks you – ‘but, would you like it if my breasts were larger’, that might be the time to fess up and say, ‘sure, it would be fun, but, I am very happy with how you are right now’.
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Name : CW, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Age : 29, City : Dallas, State : TX, Country : United States,Of course you should tell her to get it, if she wants it and you want it, then do it. Hell, i’d have her push the D-range with around 600cc’s
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Name : Bob23106, City : Bobtown, State : AL, Country : Australia,Just tell her breasts are great the way they are. Have you seen implanted breasts up close and personal? They are terrible. Women may think they are attractive but the truth is they look fake and they DO NOT improve one’s self-confidence or image. You and she will appreciate the smaller breasts especially when you’re in your 50s. Gravity has a way of making large breasts reach the navel real quick. Do you think implants will be attractive then? Ask her.
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Name : Jerry-D, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 60, City : Marco Island, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : retired, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Nicole, I admire your honosty. Perhaps the answer is a to the question lies somewhere in between your’s and the next answer by Mark (who may have just as much a valid answer.) The idea of improving one’s image should include the use of makeup, or wearing high heal shoes. But, if a person wants to change their body… a little more caution should be advised. I have had my nose made smaller through surgery. I recently have had my hair died a different color. These two changes have given me new hope for self image. The person asking may just need a little boost in her own self view. And I don’t say this out of a preference for larger breasted women, I am a devotee of smaller breasts on women. So, all and all, I like the balance struck between your answer and Mark’s answer to this question. Do you think that is fair? Michael.
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Name : Michael-White29563, Age : 55, City : Bedford, State : TX, Country : United States,If she asks whether to get an enlargement, tell her it’s her body, her decision. Whatever she decides, support her. If she decides to enlarge, take her to her doctor appointments, ask questions about health risks, help her recover – be fully involved. If she decides against it, tell her she is perfect the way God made her and you’d love her even if she had to have her breasts removed entirely.
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Name : Amy, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 29, City : Seymour, State : TN, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,Have you ever considered that maybe she’s secretly thinking your penis would be better if you had an enlargement? But you can bet she’d never admit it, because when you love someone you never want to hurt their feelings, you accept them as they are. I’ve heard that women who’ve had implants can’t breastfeed their babies, which is the reason we have breasts. Would you want to deny any future children of yours the immunity and health-giving properties of natural breastmilk, just so you could have a girlfriend with big knockers?
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Name : Carol, Gender : Female, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 24, City : Berkshire, State : NA, Country : United Kingdom, Social class : Middle class,no! i don’t think you should lie to her out of an unsolicited social code. you’re her lover and she’s looking to you for an honest opinion. her having your support may or may not mean she’ll do it, either way the decision is her’s as an individual. the ‘trick’ you’re hearing in her question wasn’t placed there by your girlfriend, but by people like nicole who want to tell other women how to be women. (some ‘sisterhood’. more like paternalism) having said that, i agree with nicole to the extent that cosmetic surgery is often the worst of solutions. support her in her doubts about it as well as her interest.
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Name : jummy30916, City : chicago, State : IL, Country : United States,It depends how you say it. This is her body, and only she can decide what she will do with it. The fact that you’re calling her breasts ‘funbags’ makes it unclear if you actually respect her and her body. You could probably state that you would not mind, but don’t make her decision for her or pressure her into it. If she has complications or changes her mind, there could be a lot of trouble.
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Name : Ann, Gender : F, Age : 22, City : Toronto, State : NA, Country : Canada, Education level : 4 Years of College,If you think that your girlfriend needs surgery so that she can live up to your jerk-off requirements, you have your head up your ass. The fact that this question even seems reasonable is just amazing to me. People’s bodies should be appreciated for what they are, not how closely they conform to the ideal of the day. Ugh.
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Name : David-B, Gender : M, City : Boston, State : MA, Country : United States,
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