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I’ve been with my girl for a little under two years and love her very much. The thing is, she has a slight insecurity about the size of her breasts. She thinks they are too small and wishes they were bigger. Truth be told I would love it if she were to jump up to a full C cup. But I feel tricked whenever she asks me what I think about her. I always tell her I think she’s beautiful and that she doesn’t need to enlarge (which is entirely true)… Would it be wrong for me to say that I would enjoy the bigger funbags?
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Name : Chris C., Gender : M, City : Milwaukee, State : WI, Country : United States,Don’t worry about it. Tell her that as long as you get some good pussy pretty regularly, you’ll like her no matter how big she makes her tits. And if she doesn’t like that you said that, tell her to come over to my house.
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Name : RJ, Gender : M, Age : 27, City : Toronto, State : NA, Country : Canada, Social class : Middle class,The next time this comes up, tell her that you think she should pursue an enlargement because it will clearly enhance her self-confidence. As this is something you both want, you should work toward it and pay for it together. However, I think this course of action is more appropriate once a long-term committment is made, so nobody feels used over this issue if there is a break-up.
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Name : Mark, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 37, City : Durham, State : NC, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Yes! You would be wrong to tell her that. I’m sure it’s what she thinks, but she doesn’t need to alter herself for the benefit of someone else, especially not you. Everyone is allowed to have some insecurities, but people who fix one surgically usually end up trying to fix them all surgically. We think it’s the magical answer, but everything has a consequence, and cosmetic surgery hasn’t been around long enough for us to know all of them. Instead, you need to continue telling her how beautiful she is inside and out. You should focus on making your relationship stronger, and implants can’t do that. If you are more attracted to her body parts than her as a whole, then you need to stop wasting her time and get a blow-up doll. I’m not trying to offend you, I just like to keep it real.
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Name : Nicole, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Baptist, Age : 20, City : Tallahassee, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,Obviously not! Tell her she’s perfect! Tell her there’s absolutely nothing about her body you do not love. If you have nothing uplifting or securing to say no matter how nice you meant it…don’t.
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Name : Lesley22875, Age : 13, City : N/A, State : NA, Country : United States,Perhaps she just needs a little more security. Next time she asks, maybe you should instead try telling her you love her for her heart, and her breasts aren’t what matters. You’d still love her even if she became flat chested, right? Let her know that.
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Name : Matt, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 25, City : Oxford, State : GA, Country : United States, Occupation : Engineer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,You are wonderful.
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Name : Nicole20055, City : Severn, State : MD, Country : United States,Yes..Breast Augmentation is still serious surgery. Maybe she feels insecure because she senses that you WOULD like bigger boobs. Its not worth it.
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Name : D.J., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 44, City : Denver, State : CO, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,well, do you want the ‘bigger funbags’ or think ‘she doesn’t need to enlarge’. You jump back and forth about this, so I think you need to decide how you really feel. If you truly love her boobies the way the are, why would you be longing for a full C? You can’t have it both ways. I don’t know how serious your relationship really is, but you don’t want to give your girlfriend a complex. If you care so much about playing with big boobs that you are feeling discontent in your relationship, then you probably don’t really love this girl. In its initial stages, love completely glosses over any imperfections you might normally see in a person. You seem just as hung up on breast size as your girl is. Despite your fantasies, you don’t want to make her feel inadequate. Just let her know that you think she’s a beautiful godess, and that it’s her body and her decision what to do with it. You are happy as it is (hopefully. If not, get out of the relationship). If she begins to look into it further, support her decision but make sure it is her decision – or else she’ll be bitter and resentful of you. No offense to the guy who wrote ‘discretion needed’ but this should not be pursued as a team effort!! I might agree if you were married for 10 yrs. or in some equally serious relationship, but your relationship is still too young for you to proclaim ‘Do it! We’ll save the money together!’ without her getting seriously offended. In my opinion, men rarely give good advice about how to deal with sensitive issues involving women.
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Name : Laura G., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 23, City : Brooklyn, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : media specialist, Education level : 4 Years of College,I think you should be honest with her but at the same time do not encourage her to get implants. If I were in your position I would tell her that although it could be fun for her to have bigger breasts she is completly beautiful the way she is. Let her know that surgery is a very expensive and risky option that she doesn’t need to take becuase she is perfect the way she is. You said yourself that she doesn’t need to enlarge and you should tell her that. It is very common for women to not like their breast size (I wish mine were smaller) but it is much more healthy for her to learn to except and love her body than to alter it with surgery. There is nothing wrong with you fantasizing about her having bigger breasts, but you should definately try to help her love her body as is before encouraging her to have surgery.
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Name : Myriam-F20220, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 19, City : Iowa City, State : IA, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Middle class,I’ve been with my girl since Feburary 14…the ‘big day’…She is always telling me how she thinks her boobs are too big…she’s carying around a full C cup. Just think you could always be hearing about how mad your girl is about how big they are and give you a hard time to get at them because SHE doesn’t necessarily(sp) like them.
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Name : Chris32213, City : Havertown, State : PA, Country : United States,I noticed in the replies that the female said ‘no, don’t enlarge’ but the male said ‘yes, tell her to enlarge and do it together’ since it would help her self-esteem. As we females have the inside track and actually have to put up with the breasts, let me say this: you men may equate size with self-esteem but most women have matured beyond that. Getting a breast enlargement may not be the answer for your girlfriend. Also take in to account that larger breasts cause back pain, enlargements may work for some people but will make others completely miserable, and the decision should be hers alone. Trying to influence her either way brings about a possibility that she’ll end up doing or not doing something so that she can please you, which you my find very gratifying but may make her miserable in the long run. Instead of saying yes or no, I would recommend that you talk to her about why she feels the way she does and if she’s serious about pursuing the enlargement, get the info and let her go over it and decide if the benefits outweigh the risks for her personal situation. If her insecurities are media-driven then the implants aren’t going to help; there will be another issue once that is fixed. This country is so fixated on youthful feminine beauty that it’s thrown at us, shoved down our throats, and we’re made to feel inferior, not thin enough, not voluptuous enough. Young women have a hard time learning to love themselves b/c of the stereotype that we’re supposed to cram ourselves into in order to be ‘beautiful’. It took quite a while for me to realize that being 5’9′, 150lbs, and a size B cup are just fine and quite beautiful in my own unique way.
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Name : Jocelyn30575, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Taoist, Age : 26, City : Roanoke, State : VA, Country : United States, Occupation : artist, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,If you want bigger breasts, find someone with bigger breasts. She images God. She doesn’t need to change. Take her all the way in for all that she is. Otherwise it is just using her for your jollys. The body images the person. Changing the body, changes the person. Don’t ruin a good thing.
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Name : George, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 38, City : Butler, State : NJ, Country : United States, Occupation : Engineer, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,She is looking to you for reassurance. If you felt insecure about the size of your penis, and when asked, she told you that it would be nicer if it was bigger, wouldn’t that just make you feel 10 kinds of awful during your naked time together?
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Name : j21143, Gender : F, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 34, City : chicago, State : IL, Country : United States, Occupation : Healthcare, Social class : Middle class,Here’s something you may not have considered … if you plan to make a lifetime commitment, then around the time you hit my age you’ll be very happy with her smaller breasts (if they still are smaller by then; childbirth often enlarges them naturally), because they won’t be sagging and wrinkled. But in general I go with Nicole’s answer. Tell her she’s beautiful (if you mean it) and enjoy each other as you are.
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Name : Chris, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 51, City : Windsor, State : CT, Country : United States, Occupation : Construction Estimator, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
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