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Why is it that when guys are around their buddies, they act so differently than when around their girlfriend? It’s like they have something to uphold, some ego. Their personality totally changes when they are with their girlfriend. Why can’t they just be themselves all the time?
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Name : Melissa, Gender : F, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 18, City : Strathmore, State : CA, Country : United States, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,IMO these are different situations calling for different responses – do you act the same at a job interview and at a teaparty ? No, you don’t want to spoil the social setting by being too casual at the one, or too formal at the other. Don’t be intimidated by male group behaviour; all the aggression is usually in a spirit of competition and almost always really for the benefit of the other guys. By the way, which do you consider to be them ‘being themselves’ ?
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Name : M.K., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 31, City : Sydney, State : NA, Country : Australia, Education level : Technical School,Basically, the rules are different. Guys have never been encouraged to show their sensitive and vunerable sides to other guys. Back in the Viking days, that could get us a battle-axe to the head. Things haven’t changed much. If a guy is privately hanging out with another guy whom he is close friends with and confides in deeply, then the sensitive side may emerge. But if he’s having a few beers with Oscar, Manny and Jimbo from the machine shop, well, the poor guy would never hear the end of it if he let something slip. Personally, if I had to choose, I’d prefer hanging out with women for two reasons: #1. they’re women; #2. I feel I can speak about any number of issues without having to give it a macho paint-job.
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Name : Dan27169, Gender : M, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Religion : Pentecostal, Age : 21, City : L.A. area, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Social class : Lower middle class,I don’t think guys know who they are or how they want to act until they are a little older. The male ego is a very fragile thing….fortunately, it becomes less fragile with age!! Wait it out….eventually, they catch up with us!
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Name : Colleen32005, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 35, City : Windsor, State : NA, Country : Canada, Occupation : cust.svc.rep, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper class,Why can’t people be themselves, no matter whom they’re around? Good question, but, in fact, almost a meaningless one. We ARE different in the presence of others. No doubt, your boyfriend is a different person around his mother, around you, and alone. I doubt it’s just when he’s around his buddies that he’s different. No doubt, you’re different around him than when around girlfriends, or parents, or at work, or at school. In fact, others help make us who we are! I think there’s a different subtext to your message, though. Given the above, why is it that, when in the presence of you and someone else, the behavior associated with that other person displaces the behavior associated with you? Or is it always that way? For example, when he’s with you, and buddies appear, does he seem to become a different person? By the same token, when he’s with buddies, and you appear, does he appear to them to become a different person? Is it possible that he’s trying to be a little of both? There’s much more here than meets the eye.
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Name : Tom Powers, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 52, City : Sumter, State : SC, Country : United States, Occupation : Education, Education level : Over 4 Years of College,I am myselt all the time, but I act differently around my parents than I do around my peer group. I’ve also noticed that my mom(forty something) acts differently when she is around her family. I act differently around each seperate person. This doesn’t mean i’m not being myself. I don’t wish to offend anyone usually. so I analyze each person present and decide what level of vulgarity I can spew out without seriously hurtinging someone. This goes the same when im around my girlfriend. I treat her a lot differently than I treat my buddies because the friendship is different. I love her to death, as I love my male friends, but we have different types of relationships (thank god).
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Name : Patrick, Gender : M, Race : Irish, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 18, City : Los Altos, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Upper middle class,
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