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Why do girls let a guy think they like them if they don’t?
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Name : EJ, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Religion : Catholic, Age : 17, City : Middletown, State : CT, Country : United States, Education level : Less than High School Diploma, Social class : Middle class,In my experience, guys almost always misconstrue friendliness for interest. So it has not been that I have ever intentionally ‘let guys think that (I) like them if (I) don’t,’ but moreso them thinking that I like them and being weird when they find out I have no interest in them other than friendship. Any female intentionally attempting to make a guy think she likes him is probably insecure and looking for attention or validation. Has this happened to you? What were the circumstances?
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Name : Jay31347, Gender : F, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,That girl who answered is fooling herself and you. Usually that’s not the case at all. Truth is, we like the flattery and we love the attention. It boosts our ego to know that a guy will jump at the chance to be with us. Lots of times we have other motives, like being let into clubs by bouncers and club owners, getting put on the guest lists by bands, and having male friends who will protect us in club and party situations when we might get too drunk or have led OTHER men on who are not as in control. Plus, let’s face it, there are plenty of dumb and desperate guys who will pay a girl’s way for food, drinks, parties, sometimes even a place to live, all just for the very slightest outside chance that a girl might change her mind and let you in our pants. I know being a tease has paid off for me very well, and it’s paid off for most attractive women I know as well. It gets me out of traffic tickets, gets my teachers to give me higher grades, and makes my life so much easier than women who don’t have my looks. And as long as there are men out there who are dumb and desperate, why change? I’ll give you the same advice I gave a very sweet guy who never had a chance with me but kept making a fool of himself for months on end: quit being such a sucker. The moment a girl treats you badly, teases you, or leads you on and uses you in any way, walk away and don’t look back. Until you do that, we have no reason to respect you until you stand up for yourself and quit being a doormat. Then, believe it or not, you actually WILL have a chance with more of us.
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Name : Sheryll, Gender : F, Race : Asian, Age : 23, City : Mobile, State : AL, Country : United States,That girl who answered is fooling herself and you. Usually that’s not the case at all. Truth is, we like the flattery and love the attention. It boosts our ego to know that a guy will jump at the chance to be with us. Lots of times we have other motives, like being let into clubs by bouncers and club owners, getting put on the guest lists by bands, and having male friends who will protect us in club and party situations when we might get too drunk or have led OTHER men on who are not as in control. Plus, let’s face it, there are plenty of dumb and desperate guys who will pay a girl’s way for food, drinks, parties, sometimes even a place to live, all just for the very slightest outside chance that a girl might change her mind and let you in her pants. I know being a tease has paid off for me very well, and it’s paid off for most attractive women I know. It gets me out of traffic tickets, gets my teachers to give me higher grades, and makes my life so much easier than women who don’t have my looks. And as long as there are men out there who are dumb and desperate, why change? I’ll give you the same advice I gave a very sweet guy who never had a chance with me but kept making a fool of himself for months on end: quit being such a sucker. The moment a girl treats you badly, teases you or leads you on and uses you in any way, walk away and don’t look back. Until you do that, we have no reason to respect you until you stand up for yourself and quit being a doormat. Then, believe it or not, you actually WILL have a chance with more of us.
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Name : Sheryll27985, Gender : F, Race : Asian, Age : 23, City : Mobile, State : AL, Country : United States,Boy, did Sheryll ever hit the nail on the head on THAT one. She has an excellent point. People will take advantage of you as long as you let them. And women are not attracted to men who cannot stand up for themselves. Also, if a person is attractive then why shouldn’t they try to use it to their advantage? This includes both women AND men. I use to get walked all over by women because I am inherently honest and trusting and thought that the women would consider my feelings before their own selfish needs. Wow. Was I ever naive. Now I realize that Sheryll and women like her are acting according to the rules they have laid out for themselves and why shouldn’t they? I am a handsome man (or so I’m told) and I have used that leverage to get the attention I want from women knowing full well that I was not pursuing a relationship of any kind. Did I feel guilty? Not a chance. I told them right up front that I only wanted to be friends, they just chose not to believe me. So Eliezer, if you want a girl to notice you and take you seriously then take control of the situation and if you are getting jerked around then take Sheryll’s advice and walk. Don’t play second fiddle when there’s the entire woodwind section.
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Name : Liam22914, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 35, City : Hamilton, State : NA, Country : Canada, Education level : Over 4 Years of College,Why do men act like they like a women when they don’t? We all do it. Some people do it because they don’t feel good about themselves so they need to know if an attractive man or women think they are also attracitve and if they do then they know they have nothing to worry about.It builds up your selfesteem.
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Name : Kris, Alberta, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 21, City : Edmonton, State : NA, Country : Canada, Occupation : na, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Lower middle class,I would think pretending to like someone when you really don’t is to protect their feelings…in some cases it is for material things though…but not all women are that callous…
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Name : Amanda31484, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 24, City : Bradenton, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Stay at home mom, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Lower middle class,Granted there are some of us women out there who lead guys on intentionally for things. However those of us with real morals and values don’t! Sometimes a guy will mistaken friendlyness for interest and sometimes and girl will unintentionally give all the signs that she is interested when she’s not. As I said she doesn’t do this on purpose. Sometimes a girl really is interested in a guy, but is just unsure that there could be a ‘future’ or that the guy is interested right back so she just does suddle things to be sure. I agree with a previous posting, when you see s tease come around, just run the other way!!! Once she’s conquered you she just may keep your around as a lacky and why would you want to settle for a lacky for when you could be KING next to someone who truly does deserve you.
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Name : Arianna, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Religion : Catholic, Age : 22, City : Donna, State : TX, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,
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