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Is it possible for a person to enjoy sex with somebody of the same gender without being attracted to them in an emotional way, or any other way that would make someone consider themselves gay?
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Name : Hero21317, Gender : F, Religion : Atheist, Age : 16, City : Aberdeen, State : NA, Country : United Kingdom,Do you mean that the enjoyed sex is nothing more than a mechanical act that causes pleasure, and carries no emotional weight? It sounds like you’re saying the other person, coincidentally of the same sex, is simply an object, a tool that is being used for sexual satisfaction. While this is certainly possible, it isn’t healthy. Human beings tend to form emotional attachments even when they don’t intend to, and the unintended consequences of this are that one or both parties will get hurt. Add to this the confusion of societally disapproved gender roles, and it’s just asking for trouble. If there’s truly no emotional attachment, masturbation’s a better choice. Be careful, though, that the emotional detachment isn’t just a way to protect oneself from the difficulty in coming out as a homosexual.
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Name : James D., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 47, City : Summit, State : NJ, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College,Sex is sex. An orgasm is an orgasm. Who’s giving it to you doesn’t matter, as long as it feels good.
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Name : Natalie20085, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 20, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : actress, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Middle class,Ouch, my post really sounded bad when I read it just now. Let me clarify: You know how girls at an all-girl school mess around with each other sometimes? It doesn’t make them lesbians, or even bisexual. They have a sexual urge, and this is ‘curing’ it. They could very simply close their eyes and imagine a boy is doing it. If you DO feel some sort of emotional attachment, then you could possibly be gay or bisexual.
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Name : Natalie20086, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 20, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : actress, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Middle class,I would say that how you identify is something you should decide yourself. Granted, various labels are seen as fixed, definite and mutually exclusive, but in my opinion that reflects more the socio-political situation right now than anything else. The best answer I can give is a quotation I came across recently (though I don’t agree with it totally): ‘Once homophobia declines, we are bound to witness the emergence of a homosexuality that is quite different from the homosexuality we know today. With the strictures on queerness removed, and same-sex relationships normalized and accepted, it is very likely that more people will have gay sex but, paradoxically, less of them will identify as gay. This is because, in the absence of homophobia, the need to assert gayness becomes redundant.’ — Leading British gay activist Peter Tatchell writing at rainbownetwork.com, July 7.
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Name : Niruj M., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : Asian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 27, City : Bangalore, State : NA, Country : India, Occupation : Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,It is up to you what you want to call yourself.I myself are in a perfect relationship with a man and we are getting married in 5 months.I still call myself a bisexual,and actually I’m proud of it.It is what I am and always will be.I know many people who have 100 times more homosexual sex than me but still don’t consider themselves bi-or homosexuals.So you decide.
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Name : Babette, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 22, City : Helsinki, State : NA, Country : Finland, Occupation : Office worker, Education level : High School Diploma,Who are you kidding? Yourself? Not all of us are saints, like you. It feels good when I have sex. With or without an emotional attachment. Back when casual was in, I had it. And it was great! There are millions of others that had it. I worked with a guy who claims that is all he did back in the early 80’s. He loved it. And so did the women he was with. They used him. Heck I have been used myself. So what. Once you find the right mate, then you can start your emotional bonds. Young people get all mushy to quick these days and the end up making life long mistakes. I know that aids has to do with this new found emotional commitment to anyone you are with stuff. Aids is dogging society in more ways than one.
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Name : Moe20288, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 38, City : Portland, State : OR, Country : United States, Occupation : Network Admin, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,Yes, it’s possible. I have done it myself and did not get emotionally attached, but remained friends with the woman I was intimate with. (It kinda grossed me out a little though.)
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Name : Heather, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Pagan, Age : 31, City : Cleveland, State : TN, Country : United States, Occupation : Self-employed - Internet, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
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