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Because you know they aren’t being sexually turned on by it. You don’t have to worry about them raping you, because it’s just not going to happen. That said, I haven’t had that experience with gay men (not that I know many of them) and I don’t think I would appreciate being touched inappropriately by anyone, even if they were gay, but I would be able to brush it off more easily than being touched by a straight man. It’s like being touched by another girl, basically.
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Name : Heather, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Pagan, Age : 31, City : Cleveland, State : TN, Country : United States, Occupation : Self-employed - Internet, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Women do not care when a gay man touches her because she knows that he does not want anything from her.
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Name : Jerry, Gender : M, City : Cherry Hill, State : NJ, Country : Argentina,Some women don’t mind gay men and their ‘fondling’ because we know there’s nothing sexual going through their head. If a gay man grabs my butt in a joking manner, I know it’s just that: joking. If a straight man grabs my butt, even if it is in a joking manner, I don’t know what’s going on in his mind. My advice: if you’re jealous of gay men being able to grope women, just pretend you’re gay and you can get all the action you want! (That’s a joke, by the way, please don’t try that!)
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Name : Susan27469, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 21, City : Novi, State : MI, Country : United States, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,First thing is that gay men tend to respect women more and generally women don’t feel as threatened. My best friend happens to be a gay guy and we touch, hug and kiss in public constantly. It’s a matter of being comfortable with who you’re with and showing them respect.
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Name : Dani-R, Gender : F, City : na, State : ME, Country : United States,My experience is quite the opposite. In my circle of friends (gay and straight women), we hug and kiss each other a great deal. The ladies usually seem to be the ones initiatng the hugs, sometimes a bit sexual, unfortunately. This is out of love and total acceptance of each other between us however. My feeling is that is derives from a feeling of being close-knit among groups that traditionally are not ‘abusers’. The sharing of body warmth in a completly non-sexual way can be quite intimate.
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Name : David25858, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 40, City : Sacramento, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Customer Service, Education level : Technical School, Social class : Middle class,I think women don’t mind getting touched by a man who is gay because it is not threatening, especially if that man is a friend. When a women is touched inappropriately by a man who is straight, it is considered to be offensive because they are trying to take advantage of you in a way.
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Name : Kristen, Gender : F, City : Cedar Rapids, State : IA, Country : United States,Interesting question. I think it is because the woman doesn’t see the gay man as a threat. I think they do have similiar interests and emotions so they can bond, similar to another woman, but they are not competing like another woman would be, which adds more comfort.
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Name : Clayton, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 34, City : Milwaukee, State : WI, Country : United States, Occupation : Criminal Justice, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,I’m very affectionate with my gay male friends, and it’s definitely mostly because it feels comfortable and safe. It’s different from hugging or holding a female friend, though, and I think there’s a little bit of ‘Hmmm, does he or does he not find me attractive?’ And if he does, wow, how attractive must I be to get a gay man wanting to touch me? Bottom line, the affection feels good, and I’m a firm believer that many people are not completely straight or completely gay, and maybe not even bisexual, but can feel slight attractions to both sexes. So your gay male friend may be enjoying the contact a little more than you realize, and maybe in more of an amorous way that you’d guess! I’ve had gay friends admit they find me attractive, and I’ve definitely felt attractions to them as well.
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Name : Beth23166, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 25, City : Greenville, State : SC, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,It isn’t that it’s viewed as sexual, more or less it’s a point in the direction that my body is beautiful. Women also have friends many times who they hug or kiss on the cheek and have no problem cuddling up next to on the couch watching a show. Or even holding hands with a girl in public. It’s not sexual so much as comforting, complimentary, and it brings a smile to your face. It boosts your self assurance.
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Name : Caitlin-OBrien32483, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 19, City : Ankeny, State : IA, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Middle class,The answer is simple, most women who are friends are affectionate or touchy feely with one another. I view my gay men friends in the same way I view my straight women friends.
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Name : Cindy31936, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 32, City : Houston, State : TX, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,For many straight women the process of casual touching and physical response is not sexual. There is no feeling of intimate arousal during casual touching. Straight men for the most part associate sexual gratification with stroking and touching, either casual or other. Therefore, women have been tuned to see that this kind of touching and casual caresses from straight men are connected with the desire of the male to ejaculate. It is possible for straight men to represent the idea of casual caressing or touching with emotional tenderness, but, and this is a big if, only with trust and respect for the women. More than likely this will not be available with a casual dinner date or girlfriend.
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Name : Chet, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Jewish, Age : 49, City : Garner, State : AZ, Country : United States, Occupation : Psychologist, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper class,I have a friend who is gay, and I don’t mind if he touches me. First, I know there is no ulterior motive. Second, he is one of my best friends and I know him very well. If anyone I didn’t know tried to touch me like that (gay or straight) they would get slapped.
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Name : Jessica, Gender : F, Age : 21, City : Flint, State : MI, Country : United States,I have many female friends. I am not gay, but I don’t relate well to men, so most of my friends are women. I agree that it is probably because women feel like touching from a gay man is nonconfrontational and more friendly rather than sexual. I have very open, loving relationships – even with women I am not necessarily attracted to, and they are not offended when I touch them.
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Name : Bernard, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, City : Santa Barbara, State : CA, Country : United States, Social class : Lower class,Then why do gay men touch women in overtly sexual ways?
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Name : Jim-D, Gender : M, Age : 50, City : Colorado Springs, State : CO, Country : United States,It isn’t that it’s viewed as sexual, more or less it’s a point in the direction that my body is beautiful. Women also have friends many times who they hug or kiss on the cheek and have no problem cuddling up next to on the couch watching a show. Or even holding hands with a girl in public. It’s not sexual so much as comforting, complimentary, and it brings a smile to your face. It boosts your self assurance.
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Name : Caitlin-O, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 19, City : Ankeny, State : IA, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Middle class,
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