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Why don’t many women seem to mind being touched by a gay man in ways that would get a straight man slapped?
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Name : Steve M., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 42, City : Chattanooga, State : TN, Country : United States, Occupation : contractor, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,It’s not threatening to be touched like that by a gay man because you know he’s not getting aroused.
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Name : Kristina26247, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Age : 23, City : Washington, State : DC, Country : United States, Occupation : Word Processor, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I am a 40-year-old woman and have had male friends, straight and gay, throughout my life. The reason I believe women don’t mind the fondling from gay men is that it is nonconfrontational, and a way to feel attractive without feeling pressure to ‘put out’. Gay men, generally, are very attentive and affectionate, and women love that. It is so refreshing to have an honest male point of view about things that straight men don’t normally show an interest in, such as fashion and decorating. The openness of such a relationship is quite extraordinary and can be very intense and loving, with none of the usual anxieties that go along with being with men (we can ask “Do I look fat?” or “Am I sounding stupid?”). Gay men tend to be very understanding, sweet, fun and the best friends women could have. The physical aspect comes quite naturally and feels good.
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Name : Dawn, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Disability : Fibromyalgia/PTSD, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 40, City : New Britain, State : CT, Country : United States, Occupation : Disabled, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Upper middle class,I think it’s because women realize the men are not deriving any sexual gratification or getting aroused by the contact. Plus, women in general want to feel attractive, and attention from a gay man helps that, with the added bonus of not wondering what the guy’s motives are.
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Name : Jay, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Wiccan, Age : 29, City : San Diego, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : web design, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,We are not doing it out of lust. Most women can easily tell the difference.
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Name : Timothy S., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : spiritual, Age : 35, City : West Palm Beach, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : property manager, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper class,Because they know that the men are gay, so the touching isn’t really sexually motivated.
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Name : Kari, Gender : F, Race : American Indian, Age : 19, City : Seattle, State : WA, Country : United States,Well, A: if a woman knows a man is gay, then she probably knows him, and he probably knows her well enough to know what would be offensive. B: the sexual motive/threat isn’t present with a gay man, so a gay friend might be able to be less offensive and more flirtatious. I’ve found vowing celibacy works in much the same way.
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Name : John, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Human, Religion : Omnitheist, Age : 24, City : Boynton Beach, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Telecommuications, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower class,I have gay and straight male friends, and within my social circle, I can’t say any of our gay friends touch us inappropriately. Touch and boundaries is based on how well one knows another person. I would not be offended by any male in my circle putting his arm around me, but if it is someone I barely know, I would not welcome such a touch. Same be it a female, gay or straight. Even gay men in the proverbial circle know not to touch another’s thighs, knees, breasts, etc. Same goes for the women. Basically, the women in question more than likely know the gay man is not hitting on them.
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Name : AE, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Jewish, Age : 38, City : na, State : TN, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,That’s so funny you asked, it’s a very good question. I have two gay guy griends and I am really close to them. One of them is out of control with touching me, whether it be a slap on the butt or ‘other things’. At first, I was shocked, but ater being friends for years, it’s just part of him showing his affection. They know their limits, though. I think deep down inside every gay man is really straight. They are fascinated by us girls!
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Name : Tiff, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Religion : Catholic, Age : 22, City : Alta Loma, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Logistics Coordinator, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,Everyone needs to be touched; when straight men touch us females it often seems as though they have other motives. But, when a friend who is gay (and gags at the thought of sex with a female) ‘fondles,’ it is more a form of cuddling, communication, affection.
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Name : Olly, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 25, City : Kelowna, State : NA, Country : Canada, Occupation : student, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,HELLO…gay men are not interested in sex with women…women are not threatened by gay men
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Name : Jamie20904, City : Blue Ridge, State : GA, Country : United States,Cuz hello it’s a gay dude. Girls know that gays like other guys, not girls. The only reason a straight guy would get slapped is cuz the girl knows the straight guy is going for a girl not a guy and he did it to be an asshole and he could possibly be drunk.
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Name : Marisa, Gender : F, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 15, City : St. Charles, State : IL, Country : United States, Education level : Less than High School Diploma, Social class : Middle class,I was at a barbeque where something like this happened. I was standing with some people and out of the corner of my eye I saw a man blatantly fondling a woman’s breasts! I turn and look, and she said ‘It’s Okay for a gay man to touch your chest.’ I see that it seems to be a widespread belief, based on what looks to be a woman’s duty to deny a man at every turn. Can somebody answer me why that is? Why are straight women so threatened by straight men? Why is it ‘Okay’ to be fondled in public only ‘because he doesn’t enjoy it’? No wonder women can’t find a man. —————————— “We are not doing it out of lust. Most women can easily tell the difference.” “It’s not threatening to be touched like that by a gay man because you know he’s not getting aroused.” “Because they know that the men are gay, so the touching isn’t really sexually motivated.” “I think it’s because women realize the men are not deriving any sexual gratification or getting aroused by the contact.” “The reason I believe women don’t mind the fondling from gay men is that it is nonconfrontational, and a way to feel attractive without feeling pressure to ‘put out’.”
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Name : Nick-F24532, Gender : M, City : Seattle, State : WA, Country : United States,When a gay man ‘fondles’ a woman, it is likely to be construed as friendly affection. When a striaght man fondles a woman, it is likely to be construed as a presumptuous pass.
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Name : Maggie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 29, City : Birmingham, State : AL, Country : United States, Occupation : engineer, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
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