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To gay men who have had sex with a female before, I’m assuming it was your first time having sex. Knowing you were a closet gay, how did you feel when you got into bed with that female? Were you scared that you wouldn’t ‘perform’ right? Did it turn out OK? Also, how did you get aroused by a woman if you were gay?
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Name : Rocky-T, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, City : Boulder, State : CO, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I am not a gay man. I am a woman who had sex many times with a man who later realized he was gay. The first thing to understand is that the ‘closet gay’ often does not realize he is gay at the time of the heterosexual encounter. If he does, he may be in denial, because it is a difficult thing to accept in oneself (at least initially). My guy said he enjoyed the sex, and being a virgin, he was nervous because he hadn’t had sex before. So, yes, he was concerned about his ability to perform. Being gay is not always an on or off thing; there are degrees of it, like a light that can be dimmed or brightened. Many men can be aroused by sex, with pretty much any partner. However, my guy was not emotionally, and to some degree, physically, satisfied by heterosexual sex, and eventually had to accept that he was really aroused by men.
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Name : Makia, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Age : 36, City : Chicago, State : IL, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I had my first opposite-sex sex when I was 20. I started having same-sex sex when I was 11. How did I feel? Like I was doing what was expected of me (by parents, friends, society). I was nervous about being able to actually ‘do it’ because I wasn’t really all that interested. I was able to (men are pigs) and ended up getting married to this girl. The mind is a fertile thing – full of imaginary images and memories of fun with male friends – so getting aroused wasn’t an issue. And, I didn’t identify as ‘gay’ at that time, even as a closeted gay. I really didn’t quite grasp the concept at that point in my life. Only after my divorce did I realize what I was and that I had to take a new course in life.
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Name : Mark Bentley, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : UFMCC - Cathedral of Hope, Age : 39, City : Dallas, State : TX, Country : United States, Occupation : Financial analyst, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,
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