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Whites having dreds is OK if that’s what they want to do. But perception-wise, it’s not so good, to be brutally honest. Lock means lock, not braid or twist or pasted together with beeswax or glue. If you can’t naturally lock, stay away from it. For instance, I have naturally nappy hair. It looks really sad to see blacks who make their hair straight with chemicals or hot combs. The hair actually looks dead, but the person thinks it looks good. Is that brainwashing or what? Brainwashed into believing that your natural hair is ugly. Why go through the ritual of hot comb or chemical burning? Because you think nappy is ugly. That’s the brainwashing. Wake up and be free. So what if it costs your job. Don’t you want to know how people really feel about you?
I have experienced this as recently as a year ago, when I was rejected for a $90,000-a-year job because of my locks. Did I get mad? Hell yeah! Did I retaliate? No. I just prayed, and now I am making $110,000 a year. So quit being afraid to be nappy and stop living the straight-hair lie.
So for whites, I say there’s more to locks than just having them. You have to immerse yourself in the culture. Otherwise, don’t do it, because you just would be frontin’, and that ain’t cool.
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Name : jazzmonn, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : African, Anglo, Native American, Latino, Religion : Believe in Creator, Age : 41, City : Dallas, State : TX, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower class,Before you judge, realize that some of us were born with straight hair despite having two non-mixed parents(besides whatever happened in slavery times). I even got the brainwashing speech a couple times. Think how it makes someone feel when you say their hair is ugly and dead thinking that they perm it when they don’t. My hair doesn’t curl unless I bleach it. Do I have to submerse myself in the culture of the blond bimbo to wear my highlights…No! I live with a couple of white people with dreads. It’s just a hairstyle they chose. Unlease you issue and deal.
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Name : James-W20872, Gender : M, Race : Black/African American, City : Baltimore, State : MD, Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Dreadlocks actually dont have very much to do with rastas… hear is the history of dreads… i myself am white and i’ve had some nappy locks on my head for about 6 months… you want them? Get them but it takes a lot of work. Although many people hold a myriad of mistaken and controversial beliefs about dreadlocks, they really weren’t invented by Reggae rock musicians. Dreadlocks evolved from the very earliest of times. The Bible makes reference to dreadlocks and ancient drawings of King Tut also pictured his Highness wearing dreadlocks. It is a commonly acknowledged fact that the earliest Christians also donned dreadlocks. Throughout the centuries many tribal people wore dreadlocks including Australian aborigines, New Guinea tribes people, religious monks and some African tribes. Ironically, dreadlocks were not originally developed as part of a fashionable hair fad. To the people that adopted dreadlocks they had intensively deep meanings that reached into physical, mental and spiritual realms. Credit http://www.knottyboy.com for the history of dreads
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Name : Steve, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Buddhist, Age : 16, City : Charlotte, State : NC, Country : United States, Occupation : pothead, Education level : Less than High School Diploma, Social class : Middle class,i dont understand why so many people care about it. why does everyone have to analize everthing. i get all types of random comments all the time. it truly depends on the person and their views on life i guess. i have had black women tell me ‘you go boy.’ i have had some white women say ‘when was the last time you visited a beauty solon?’ this comment was made during the sniper attacks too. both blacks and whites make both positive and negative comments all the time. about 50% are negative tho, and are made by the older generation. yong people dont care. why should you care about a strangers hair.
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Name : eyewrek, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 420, City : washington, State : DC, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College,I’m sorry but some hairstyles look ridiculous on some people, and locs look about as silly on white people as blond hair and blue contacts look on black people. Same with braids and cornrows–white folks need to leave the braids, twists and locs to black folks. In addition, I get sick and tired of white people getting credit for something that is traditionally African (remember Bo Derek’s ’10’ look?) This chick was running around sporting braids at a time when black women were being fired from their jobs for wearing ‘natural’ hair. So no, I do not find white folks sporting African styles to be cute, nor will I apologize for feeling that way.
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Name : RhondaOutlaw, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : Account Representative, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I am a 21 year old white male and I’ve had dreadlocks for about three months now. I have received many complements from people of all races about my hair, and the only person who has given me any grief about my hair was a spoiled rotten little 12 year old kid. oh, and my mother, but that’s a different story. In response to the person who said, ‘The white people I have seen with dreadlocks have really nasty hair, and it seems (and smells) like they never wash it.’ There are people with dreads white/black/asian…… who don’t wash their hair, it’s not just the white people. I am white and I wash my hair every 2-3 days and sometimes more. Now for the whole Rasta issue. They were not the first culture to wear dreadlocks. There are records that show that people from Asia and Europe wore their hair in dreadlocks long before Rastafarianism even originated. Even some cavemen wore their hair in dreads. It’s just stupid to get mad at someone for having dreads, because you feel that it’s disrespecting your culture. It would be like me getting mad at someone of another race because they got their hair straightened. I wouldn’t go around saying, ‘oh, they are trying to be white,’ and I wouldn’t say that they are ‘trying a little too hard,’ as someone stated in a previous response. Why does everything have to be about race? I didn’t grow dreads because I wanted to be black. I have dreads as a way of saying I am not afraid of what people think of me and my looks. If someone doesn’t like me because of the way I look then why would I want to associate with that person? I wouldn’t. My friends see me for who I am inside and I treat other people with the same respect.
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Name : Chris, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Presbyterian, Age : 21, City : Corpus Christi, State : TX, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,i am white and have curly hair that locks if i just leave it a lone. a lot of my black friends think this is weird, but whatever. i have started letting it dread up, but my mom hates it, so i have always ended up brushing them out before they could lock properly, but one day i will probably just give in and let it do its thing. i think you should worry less about if you will offend black people, because its really none of their bussiness. they never asked you if their hair offends you. you should worry about how your family and friends will react. they really count. also, you will be under public scrutiny, people will give you looks, etc. you may also have trouble getting a job. just some things to consider.
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Name : kate26602, City : silver spring, State : MD, Country : United States,I think it would be a tad rediculous if someone was to be offended over someone else’s hair style. How can you own or have right to a hair style anyway? Also dread locks were around before the rastafarian movement. The natives of the caribbean islands and surrounding areas sometimes sported dread locks. evidence of this is in caricatures of kokopeli a well known native american figure. there is evidence that he was indeed a real person and you can see he has dread locks.
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Name : Kari, Gender : F, Race : American Indian, Age : 19, City : Seattle, State : WA, Country : United States,i have seen this question and felt compelled to have my say! i don’t think that black people get anoyed about white people having dreads! they shouldn’t anyway! it’s not a black thing, the dreadlock was a word that meant ‘ a god fearing person ‘ which was largely linked to Rastafari but the natty locks go back much longer than that! king Tut had them amd the celt warriors had them! the indian holy men have them and also the greek tales of samson with his seven golden locks has a certain grounding!!!! it’s a spiritual statement to many who leave their hair to lock in the knowledge of shedding ego and apperence that is normally so widley addorred in our current days! dreads are a map of devlopement of a persons life! just like rings on a tree. no one owns dreads !!! they are universal and beautiful! xx love
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Name : simm, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : mixed, Religion : Buddhist, Age : 25, City : london, State : MN, Country : United Kingdom, Occupation : fireman, Education level : Less than High School Diploma, Social class : Lower middle class,Being African-Carribean born and bred in England I really couldn’t give a damn about how people wear their own hair. One thought you should bear in mind however, each hairstyle you wear brings with it certain connatations and locks are synonymous with African culture and people seeing you will already have judged you to be so-minded. African-American’s see people every day who pick and choose from their culture and some may be agrieved upon seeing you. If it floats your boat though…
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Name : Onyx, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 35, City : Derby, State : OH, Country : United Kingdom, Occupation : student, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,i am a white female and i have naturally kinky curly hair. i love dreads because of the look and i have done the work of informing myself about the history of dreadlocks. I am secure in the fact that the only people that would hate me for my hair choice are the ones that don’t really want unity and are looking for a reason to be offended. when i chose my hair style i did it for me and wouldn’t imagine offending anyone on purpose.
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Name : Rachael, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 16, City : hilliard, State : OH, Country : United States, Education level : Less than High School Diploma, Social class : Lower middle class,okay, SOOOO if left alone (as in without the societal fuss of comercialized minds) hair naturaly dreadlocks! it does it naturaly! dogs with long hair naturaly dread, and no doubt the first humans (who i dont think were especialy white or black) had them. our whole society is so obsesed with uprooting the tree that is the natural order of this planet, that when chalenged to clasify (which a presentation of any kind will be clasifyed) anything that naturaly occurs, it is swept aside into some freakish subculture, convincing us capitalistic humans even more that these things are unnatural and should be destroyed. ive had dreads a couple times, first for asthetics.. and then recently i decided to stop combing my hair because i paralel this type of ‘maintanance’ with rubbing chemicals all over my body (shampoo, perfume, lotion, soap, wearing the latest fasions)… sooooo, i hope that anyone elses opinion of what you should and should not do (including mine) doesnt shape your decision. yay! happy dreading….
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Name : mindmanifested, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 19, City : vermillion, State : SD, Country : United States, Occupation : transient, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower class,I’m a black female.i don’t have a problem with you wearing dreads
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Name : chas, City : sacramento, State : CA, Country : United States,I wouldn’t get offended because I saw a white person wearing dreads. I don’t enjoy seeing dreads that aren’t maintained well (black or white), but to each his own. But like someone said earlier, white dreads just tend to look matted and dirty.
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Name : Dee, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Baptist, Age : 19, City : Dallas, State : TX, Country : United States, Occupation : full time student, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I think that Dreadlocks, on any race, can look trashy or they can look nice. If you have the really curly hair it just makes it easier to acheive that look. I am a hair dresser and I have all nationalites come into my salon and ask about extensions, and dreadlocks. If you have silky straight hair and want dreadlocks the easiest and fastest way to get them is to do a dread perm. You don’t have to not wash your hair to get them, which is a common misconseption, just don’t brush it and twist instead. I agree with you on the idea that it’s a hairstyle not a lifestyle when it comes to any hairstyle. That’s likes saying that all men with long hair are hippies, and guys with shaved heads are skinheads. That is stupid. What you do in life is make yourself happy first, try not to hurt anyone in the process and live life the the fullest.
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Name : Tasha Rodriguez, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Religion : Christian, Age : 29, City : Pocatello, State : ID, Country : United States, Occupation : owner/stylist, Education level : Technical School, Social class : Upper middle class,
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