[D-Bednar]

My wife and I are having communication problems in our marriage and have considered a trial separation. Has anyone had any success using this technique? What are some of the dangers involved?
Original Code GE57. Click here to see responses from the original archives. Click “to respond” below to reply.

User Detail :  

Name : D-Bednar, Gender : M, Age : 27, City : Kansas City, State : MO, Country : United States, 

[Joan30564]

From my experience and that of many couples who are friends of mine, trial separation seems to lead inevitably to divorce. It’s just a middle step. The main reason is that once you are separate from each other, you start to behave like single people again, and others see you as a single person. So dating begins, and each person rationalizes ‘This is not cheating, because after all, we’re separated.’ And the couple drifts further and further apart.

What is it about being separated that would make things better between you or make you feel closer to each other? Nothing! If you really want the marriage to work, stay together and get couples counseling with someone who has training in resolving communication problems. Remember the part of your vows about ‘for better or for worse.’ But if you don’t want to commit to that kind of work to save your marriage, just get a divorce and skip the step in between.

User Detail :  

Name : Joan30564, Gender : F, Race : White/Caucasian, City : San Francisco, State : CA, Country : United States, 

[Author]

Posts