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I’ve found that when I’m with my friends, masturbation is a common subject, and none of us feels uncomfortable about it. When the subject came up with a female friend, however, she said it was disgusting, and when I questioned her about the acceptance of it among girls, she said that anyone admitting to it was made an outcast – and that almost none of them do it, obviously including her. But she then said that they find it acceptable among boys. So I’m wondering: Do girls do it as much as boys? And why is it such an ackward subject?
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Name : Phil, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, City : Kent, State : NA, Country : United Kingdom,All my ex-girlfriends have admitted to masturbating. We did a survey in my sexual behavior class, and it showed that the majority of females masturbate or have masturbated, but they by no means do it with the frequency that men do.
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Name : Shifty, City : Mobile, State : AL, Country : United States,I saw some statistics recently that said that 62% of women masturbate and 92% of men (the percentage of women is higher, incidently, than it was a few decades ago, suggesting that women are increasingly trying masturbation). I know plenty of girls who masturbate (including myself), and I’ve also met men who felt it was disgusting. While masturbation still seems to be more accepted among men, it is becoming increasingly accepted among women. I think the negative attitudes of some people toward masturbation have less to do with their gender than with their personal feelings on the subject.
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Name : Bernie, Gender : F, City : Williamsburg, State : VA, Country : United States, Occupation : College Student,In all of my experiences in talking to female friends, we all do it. I don’t think of it as offensive at all. It’s time we accept the fact that men and women do it, and if you aren’t, you are missing out. There is a sense of comfort in knowing your body and that you can please yourself. The only thing that I find strange is that some people think it is more perverted to ‘play with yourself’ than they do to allow some stranger to climb on top of them!
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Name : Kaye, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 23, City : Ft. Worth, State : TX, Country : United States, Occupation : Mom, Education level : Technical School, Social class : Middle class,My female friends and I have no problem admitting to masturbating. Women who say they don’t are either lying because they feel ashamed or embarrassed, or else they’re telling the truth and haven’t done it for religious or moral reasons.
Women masturbate, as it’s completely natural to do so, but I do believe it’s not as frequent as men. I think for women, the timing, place and situation have to be right. Also, I think it might be physically easier for men to do. Maybe the urges are different, I don’t know.
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Name : A.R., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Humanist, Age : 30, City : Astoria, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : Actor, Education level : Over 4 Years of College,People do not talk about this subject because it is usually considered private and has been considered taboo in most cultures. I am very fond of masturbation, as well as sex. If I had never masturbated, I would not know what extreme pleasure I could have. I enjoy sex but cannot achieve the same level of orgasm through sex as I can through masturbation. I believe I masturbate as much as men, and I believe it is a benefit. There’s nothing wrong with it, and people who think so have probably grown up in very strict religious households. They are only repeating what they have heard preached to them for many years. Practice makes perfect, and masturbation can teach you how to make sex more enjoyable for you and your partner. When you are comfortable with yourself, you will be comfortable with a partner.
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Name : Justine, City : Plano, State : TX, Country : United States,they do it just as much, and sometimes more. you just won’t get them to admit it.
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Name : lisa, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 22, City : fresno, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : college student, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I can’t speak for all of us, but I know I do and all the women I know (that don’t have sexual hang ups) do. But I don’t think women masturbate nearly as much as men (I know I don’t!) I don’t know if it’s a side effect of taking birth control pills or a satisfying partner or not being able to really get into masturbating in the shower, but I could never keep up with how often my husband masturbates (up to three times a day) I just don’t have that kind of energy.
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Name : Chandele, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Pagan, Age : 28, City : Fort Collins, State : CO, Country : United States, Occupation : graduate student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Yes! and to let u know, it’s not bad and it doesn’t make u an outcast! i am a chick and trust me, it duzn’t make u an outcast… my friends and i share tips and talk about it all the time. girls and guys do it, just in different ways.
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Name : Blu, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, City : Seattle, State : WA, Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Upper middle class,One statistic I heard was that 80% of women do, and that only 20% of us admit it. I’m pretty selective about who I admit it to in person, but.. yeah. me likey. it’s definitely a taboo thing. When I am talking to someone–especially a male friend–I need to wonder about what he’s going to think. Will he be disgusted? Will he start asking me too personal questions about it? How is it going to change my relationship with him?
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Name : Laura26058, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : eclectic, Age : 18, City : Burlington, State : VT, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,Girls definitely masturbate. Not as often as guys, but they do it. I can’t generalize and say all girls do it, but I’m sure many do. My girlfriends and I never talked about it. The guys would ask us, and none of us would admit it. They all said that we must, but we wouldn’t speak up – not even with each other (the other girls). After we entered college and the guys started asking, a few of us started to fess up, and then it was like a snowball effect. Masturbation is just a normal part of development. There is nothing to feel ashamed or embarrassed about. I just think it has never been socially acceptable for girls to talk about masturbating, so we never did.
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Name : Victoria, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Episcopalian, Age : 22, City : NA, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,i think i masturbate more than my partner! i would agree with people who say that women who say they don’t masturbate are either lying, or brainwashed into thinking that it is unhealthy/sinful. i have always been honest with my friends even though i know some of them would never admit they do. by being a female and not putting a prejudice on it during discussion with other females, i have had many ‘admit’ to masturbation. the funny thing is i know a guy who goes to strip clubs and watches porn on a regular basis and claims not to masturbate (note: he has no partner)!
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Name : Mary21961, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Orthodox Christian, Age : 19, City : Austin, State : TX, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Actually, we do find it acceptable for guys to do it [I think it’s a turn on], and among my friends, masturbation isn’t really an issue, because, fact, we all know we do it. My friend went out and bought a vibrator when we were really young [13], and ever since, we’re perfectly open about when we were horny, even our sexual quirks… Maybe we’re just abnormally open, though?
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Name : Liz, Gender : F, Race : White/Caucasian, City : New Orleans, State : LA, Country : United States,Just a quick note from the medical side. While the mental impulses that drive us to masturbate are the same in men and women – horny is horny – men do have a hydraulic impetus as well. Men can become horny simply because their fluid levels are topped off, and the result will be either a manual release or an eventual wet dream. This is what accounts (at least in part) for the greater frequency with which men masturbate.
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Name : Charles32257, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 24, City : Albuquerque, State : NM, Country : United States, Occupation : Architect, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,Females are of course more likely to keep quiet on this subject, but like others have said, MANY do it. I have no idea why it’s less acceptable for females to talk about it with each other…maybe they are embarrased to have the mental picture that it gives off. I never actually never understood how men can discuss it with each other so easily. Maybe it’s like girls discussing periods; somehow that is usually accepted, no problem.
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Name : Callie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 19, City : Los Angeles, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,
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