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My husband and I went to visit a good friend who is gay. He was friendly, but the other gay men in the house seemed hostile toward me (I do not think homosexuality is wrong). I thought I was imagining things until I read in an article that there are two types of gay men: those who love women (though not physically) and those who dislike them. Is this true?
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Name : Martha, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 40's, City : Enid, State : OK, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I’m a gay man, 46 years old. Never in my life have I encountered a gay man who did not like women. It just has never happened to me. In fact, many gay men identify better with women than men – but I would not generalize and say that applies to all gay men. So Martha (beautiful name by the way), WE LOVE YOU!
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Name : Glen H., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 46, City : Ottawa, Ontario, State : NA, Country : Canada, Occupation : Government, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Middle class,Honestly, I’m not exactly sure how to answer this question (for myself, that is.) I am ambivalent about women. I don’t have any female friends and don’t really feel I have very much in common with women. I oftentimes feel like I don’t understand women. And, I’ve very rarely met women who I feel understand gay men. All too often (at least in my experience), I have felt as if I was some type of gay ‘pet’ for women; they always seemed so amused by gayness. Often, some women would assume that there was a ‘sisterly’ bond between us because we both liked men when in fact, we had very little in common. I’ve also simply always had an affinity for men in all respects, not just with regard to sexual attraction. I guess my answer is, I don’t hate you, but I will acknowledge that I don’t understand you.
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Name : Berto, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Religion : Agnostic, Age : 32, City : Sacramento, State : CA, Country : United States, Social class : Middle class,Martha, Most of the Gay men that I know have a woman for their best friend. (I know I do!) I unfortuatly do know one or two men who have some strange kind of distain for women that I find strange. Several of us have mentioned it to them, and they never have any explanation. I don’t think that Gay men as a group have anything against women though. I think you will find they are more than willing to enjoy the company of friendly folks, men or women, gay or straight.
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Name : Mike-W, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 40, City : Austin, State : TX, Country : United States, Education level : 2 Years of College,Just a guess here that maybe they are jealous of you or what you have? When you think about it, you have it much easier than they do. Because you can get what you want and not have to worry about people starring at you etc.
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Name : Cruz31914, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), City : Manhattan, State : KS, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College,I am a gay man, and I love women, not in a sexual way, but in a loving way, and nor have I ever met one (a homosexual) that has hated women! Maybe he was just having a bad day, or something in that order! Also I know that sometimes gay men get jealous of thier partners women friends, becuase sometimes they are closer to them then they are to thier partners. I dont think that it has anything to do with you!
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Name : Rhett, Gender : M, Age : 18, City : Burnsville, State : MN, Country : United States,I haven’t ever come across a gay guy who hated women. Who else are we supposed to run to when our boyfriends are being pissy or stupid? Every guy I’ve ever dated has had his panel of women friends to rate, evaluate and, if need be, berate their newest significant other. I wouldn’t trade my two best girl friends for anything in the world.
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Name : B23451, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Religion : Catholic, Age : 20, City : Walnut Creek, State : CA, Country : United States,On the contrary. I find it a lot easier to talk with women considering that there isn’t that sexual tension with women. Coming from a younger generation, it’s easier to come out to talk to a girl because they seem more sensitive to issues… opposed to straight men who may see a homosexual man as a threat to their masculinity. I wouldn’t say I LOVE women, but they are can be just as good friends as other men.
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Name : J.C., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : Asian, Religion : Christian, Age : 21, City : Los Angeles, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,the left wing, seeking to capitalize on the prevalence of homophobia within the working class (itsself a biassed assumption) — put forth the doctrine that homosexuality is inimicable to marxist socialism and would be eliminated in a post-revolutionary world. the thesis is that homosexuality is a form of hyper-masculinity that excludes and rejects any meaningfull position for a woman which is at odds with the idea of gender equality. not sure if this is dead on the topic…
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Name : justin26838, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, City : chicago, State : IL, Country : United States, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,I’ve been told that gays hate women because they want to be a woman. You are their competition. Especially Hispanic gays. A Hispanic gay male told me that they prefer married men for lovers. I don’t know about all gay men, but some gay friends of mine told me this.
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Name : PaleRider19847, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Not answered, Disability : Not answered, Race : Not answered, Religion : Methodist, City : Newyork, State : NY, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I often find that when I encounter a gay man usually in a retail setting, I get a sense of rudeness, even anger. I do not believe in judging other lifestyles. But yet I feel judged by this behavior.
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Name : john, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Asian, Religion : Christian, Age : 30, City : seattle, State : WA, Country : United States, Occupation : Military, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I would venture to say that some gay men tend to have a rather caricaturized view of women, which can border on the mysoginistic. Perhaps it’s rooted in envy, or distrust of ‘straight’ culture overall. Which is ironic (to say the least), given the ‘gay culture’ striving for acceptance and equality.
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Name : Ian21350, City : Washington, State : DC, Country : United States,Most people stereotype Gays on thier personal opinion and not on fact. I feel that the people you discribe problly did not have issues with women at all but mabye hade problems in the past with women being hostile towards them. I would not take it personally but let it be a growing point for you so that you may better understand the problems of a diffrent orientation. Learn from all your experiences and charish your new outlooks to the best of your extent.
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Name : MATT, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Baptist, Age : 18, City : Pheonix, State : AZ, Country : United States, Occupation : Unemployed, Education level : Less than High School Diploma, Social class : Lower middle class,Much though I think it stupid, I have met some gay men, usually young and freshly out of the closet, who will act as though they can’t stand women. They’ll use all sorts of derogatory names and will exhibit extreme discomfort in the presense of women. To me it all seems forced, an act. It seems too much like grade school, and I’ve even heard the phrase ‘girl cooties’ used. It’s a real sign of immaturity in my book, no matter what age the participant. Personally, I love my women friends as much as my men friends. And in certain circumstances I much prefer the company of women (doctors, hairdressers, and some other professional services). I don’t know why, but for some things I’m much more comfortable talking with women than I would be with men. Thinking about it, I probably have an equal number of female friends as I do male friends.
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Name : John, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Buddhist, Age : 36, City : San Diego, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : IT Manager, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,classifying people tends to lead to problems. your friend’s roommates were probably just assholes, and there’s no need to assume other homosexuals will behave one way or the other around you. personally, i don’t have any problem with women, but i find a lot of the things they like to do boring so i have more male friends.
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Name : mitchell vega, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Unitarian, Age : 15, City : bellingham, State : WA, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : Less than High School Diploma, Social class : Middle class,
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