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As a gay man, I’ve noticed I can spot another gay man by the way we look at each other. It’s a longer, fixed gaze that implies intimacy in a way straight men wouldn’t show. Is there any research/validation on this concept? Does anyone agree with me?
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Name : Stephen B., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Methodist, Age : 27, City : Atlanta, State : GA, Country : United States, Occupation : advertising agency, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I agree 100 percent. One of the first things I learned after coming out was to hold eye contact instead of looking away. Most straight men don’t keep eye contact – I didn’t before I acknowledged my true self. I’ve learned that eye contact can be a means of identification/acknowledgement, but not always a signal of desire.
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Name : Mark Bentley, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : UFMCC - Cathedral of Hope, Age : 39, City : Dallas, State : TX, Country : United States, Occupation : Financial analyst, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,I don’t know about research, but in my experience a shared lengthy gaze is a combination of the tacit joke that ‘no one else knows we’re gay’ and the excitement of seeing someone attractive looking back. Lesbians do it, too. It sure makes the commute more exciting…
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Name : Megan-L21936, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 32, City : Boston, State : MA, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,So true. My first boyfriend picked up that I was gay by the eye contact alone. I was unaware that I did such a thing at the time. I wasn’t even out yet, but was planning on coming out that week for the first time. It happened that day instead.
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Name : George, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States,I’ve had a similar experience. Not long ago, I became very close friends with a guy, and it all started with fixed stares from across crowded rooms. I knew he wanted to meet, and when we finally got the opportunity, he enthusiastically pursued friendship with me. We share a degree of physical intimacy, the kind parents give their children. I lie in his arms, he caresses my hair and back, etc. But he claims to be straight, and is very demonstrative about that in public. We share a tacit agreement to enjoy physical closeness in privacy. But I’m afraid to ask him if he’s interested in something more. So while the sparks definitely flew when we first caught each others’ eye, I don’t know if it’s enough to determine someone’s intentions. For now, it’s a great feeling to know that another man whom I find attractive enjoys a kind of intimacy I could never have imagined before.
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Name : Want to know more, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 35, City : Seattle, State : WA, Country : United States, Occupation : Instructor, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
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