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I am an African woman working in an international organization. I have dated Africans and whites, but why do I feel attracted to Caucasians? It bothers me, because of our history of colonialism and also being perceived as a ‘prostitute’ of sorts.
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Name : Wanjiru, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : African, Religion : Christian, Age : 28, City : Nairobi, State : NA, Country : Kenya, Occupation : Social Worker, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I think the major problem is that you’re letting this bother you. You’re attracted to Caucasian men, and there’s nothing wrong with that. These men may have people in their lineage who were guilty of heinous acts in your region, but obviously the men you would be dating would not have had any part in these actions. I say don’t judge people based on their ancestors and just be happy with who you are and who you like.
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Name : Jane, Gender : F, Race : Asian, Religion : Christian, City : Newark, State : DE, Country : United States,I totally understand where you’re coming from about being more interested in white men. I date all races but I’m more interested in white men. It just seems that the white males I come in contact with are more like me. It may have nothing to do with race, but more with what you have in common.
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Name : Michelle20574, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : Black/African American, Age : 21, City : Jacksonville, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I think that this is a question you can only answer on your own, through deep, honest introspection, but here are some points for you to ponder, as I have more than once: 1) Stockholm Syndrome. This is the name of an actual psychological condition in which captives come to identify with their captors. Another term you may be familiar with is ‘internalized oppression’. On a subconcious level, we may surrender to a certain extent to the views and preferences of the dominant culture. We both live in societies where, to one degree or another, we are bombarded with messages that white skin and features are preferable to our own. 2) Human beings have an enormous capacity to feel, beyond historical and social context. Love and sexual attraction are universal and irrational, which is what makes them trump most other motivations when given the latitude to do so. Therefore, since all people have aspects that make them attractive, it’s not too strange that you affirm those aspects in white people.
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Name : Jennifer30873, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 31, City : Saint Paul, State : MN, Country : United States, Occupation : Non-Profit, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I’m sure you’re attracted to White men because many of us are handsome devils, pun intended. You cannot control your preference for looks, from race to hair to eyes to size. I believe it’s something natural like a preference for chocolate ice cream. As for the historical connotation, I’ve actually had to deal with that with women before. Needless to say, it’s a very difficult factor of history for many to look past. If it freaks you out, I would reccomend you don’t partake. It could mess with your self-esteem. But if it helps, I can only say that the vast majority of White men you will run into in your life are not colonists or imperialists. Infact, most would condemn such actions in the past harshly. Many you might run into actually would be concerned with people of color’s plight today.
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Name : Seamus28245, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 22, City : Charlestown, State : MA, Country : United States, Occupation : Construction, Education level : Technical School, Social class : Lower class,I belive you should be attracted to all kinds of people. Times change and so do generations, you are just beginning to expierence changes in culture and race relations. I belive you should indulge in your fellings and run with them, dont let pre-concived notions shade your view to possible love.
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Name : J. Smith, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 14, City : Buffalo, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : student-high school, Social class : Middle class,maybe it bothers you because youve been tought to dislike whites because of either your peers or family upbringing. if you like white men it shouldnt bother you unless another persons opinion is more important to you.
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Name : Ozzie, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Bahai Faith, Age : 22, City : toronto, State : NA, Country : Canada, Occupation : student, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,You gotta let that prostitute thing go. I feel bad for you. It is unhealthy thinking. People have the right to be attracted to whomever they want.
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Name : Moe20293, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Of many races but live as a black man, Religion : Christian, Age : 38, City : Portland, State : OR, Country : United States, Occupation : Network Admin, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,I feel the same way sometimes, my sista. My experiences with black men have given me the opportunity to be more open to interracial dating. I wish I had more positive experiences with black men as opposed to negative ones but that’s just how the wheel spins for me. The person above me is right, you shouldn’t feel guilty for your natural attraction to white men cause I harbor that same attraction and as the days go by, ask yourself, am I living my life for my happiness or someone else’s. Then you’ll see the God in you and you beautiful pursuit of diversity.
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Name : Ashlee, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Independent Spirituality, Age : 20, City : Philadelphia, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Student Worker, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,She’s absolutely right…White men DO view Black women, African and African American as sub-human sex machines, who’ll do it anywhere, anytime, with anyone. Which is precisely why I do not interact with White men on a social level…they’re just a bit too lecherous for me. Oh, and Black men treat Black women in the same disrespectful manner, so as far as I’m concerned, ‘brothas’ aren’t any better than the White men…in fact, they’re worse for treating their own kind so poorly.
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Name : RhondaOutlaw, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : Account Representative, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
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