[Sus]

I teach high school psychology and was asked a question I need help on: My 18-year-old student feels her 21-year-old brother is gay, yet he hasn’t come out. She wants to reassure him of unconditional love, yet doesn’t know if she should ask if he’s gay. He’s been on gay chat lines, gone off for a weekend with a man… Should she say something or wait for him to tell her?
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Name : Sus, City : Simi Valley, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Psychology teacher, 

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Please keep in mind that if what we so cavalierly call ‘coming out’ were happening to straight kids, it would be called healing oneself from a most pernicious form of abuse. It is admirable that your student wants to reassure her brother of her unconditional love, but to offer that love without acknowledging one’s guilt and need for forgiveness for participating in that abuse is just more of the status quo, hatred, bigotry and violence. Queers don’t really need to be told they are loved ‘in spite of what you are’ as much as need to have the hatred and violence acknowledged, the lies taken back and some assurance given that you won’t participate in the hatred again or tolerate it in your presence. If you don’t want to risk causing more pain and suffering and alienation, you need to have a clear understanding of who is guilty and in need of forgiveness.

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Name : Thug, City : Kapaau, State : HI, Country : United States, 

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