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I work with people of a wide range of ages at a small retail shop in a mall. Yet one of the managers who is in their mid sixties seems to have this urge to argue any chance he can about anything. He was in the military, and it seems as if he’s applying those military tactics in his employment. He also has this tendency to come to the mall on his day off, or on his lunch breaks, walk on the second floor and watch us, and make sure we’re working and not goofing off. I understand the visits to see how things are, announced or unnanounced, but the spying, that is really creepy. No one is willing to approach him and ask him why he does what he does. Why does this man spy and creep around as if he doesn’t trust us? Could it be his age? Is he still trying to prove something to someone?
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Name : Jerome, Gender : M, Race : Asian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 25, City : San Francisco, State : CA, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College,I don’t know if this manager’s arguing has anything to do with his age as I don’t know what he was like when you was younger. This might just be part of his personality. As for military influence, one of the basic parts of military operation is following the chain of command. When your superior gives you and order, you follow that order – no discussion, no arguements. With respect to the manager spying on employees, that is pretty common with these types of businesses. Although you may be an honest employee, some of your coworkers may not be. I know it’s annoying to be spied upon, esspecially when you are doing your job well, but that is one of the things that you have to deal with when working in retail shops such as these. I have run into lots of managers who were like that. So you basically either get used to it or find another line of work.
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Name : Lucy22411, Gender : F, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Age : 26, City : San Jose, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Engineer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Are you sure you’re not talking about my old supervisor? He was exactly the same. Ex-military, homophobic, sadistic, you name it. When one of my colleagues asked him for a reference, he gave one with all negative comments. Nothing positive at all. He supervised about 8 of us and we organised a team meeting where we confronted him and his paranoia went through the roof. It was a very strange atmosphere. He got very angry with a colleague of mine for taking an extended morning tea one day (20 minutes) at a time when people were working massive overtime… I put it down to the military background, not the age, although he was about 60.
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Name : Priscilla30278, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 24, City : Sydney, State : NA, Country : Australia, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I am in the military and am also under 30. I really don’t think his spying on the employees has to do with his age. I feel it has to do with experience. Many people, while working, do not do their jobs, and they goof off a lot. It sounds like he might have seen someone not doing what they were supposed to be doing. I see it in a lot of young people. They try to get by only doing the bare minimum. Some, not all. Also, if this is affecting the job atomosphere, don’t be so afraid to just ask him is there a problem. By him being older, he may just be lonely and need someone to talk to. He may not have much to do at home so he centers the mall around his life. Also, don’t blame military tactics as an adverse behavior. All military employees do not start arguments or even try to rule over others. In the military there are rules and guidelines that employees must go by. If they are not followed, one is disciplined. The same applies to the civilian world. There are rules. If you don’t follow them, you are discipled.
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Name : Andrena, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Muslim, Age : 26, City : Augusta, State : GA, Country : United States, Occupation : Nurse, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I think it has a lot more to do with being ex-military than his age. If you haven’t been in the service, it’s hard to understand just how controlled every little detail is. Ever heard of a rig line on your clothing? It’s where the line of your belt, your pants zipper and where your shirt is buttoned are all expected to line up exactly. Things like surprise inspections and using a white glove to see if there’s dust on the top of a door are also common. It can take years before miltary habits wear off. I would still stand at parade rest for almost a year after I left the Army, and I only served one enlistment. Some of these lifers never give up their old habits. Try this: Both older people and military men love talking about their experiences. Have someone ask him in a friendly way to talk about them and patiently listen. At some point, jokingly remind him he’s not in the service anymore.
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Name : ACC25060, City : W. Lafayette, State : IN, Country : United States,This is for A.C.C. in W. Lafayette, In. It’s not a ‘rig’ line, it’s a ‘gig’ line.
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Name : USAF-Retired, City : Newport News, State : VA, Country : United States, Occupation : Hr Coordinator, Education level : 4 Years of College,I think the reasons behind this guy’s behaviour have more to do with personality rather than environmental conditioning in the military. I spent many years in the army and encountered numerous individuals who just would not have fitted in anywhere else. They weren’t a product of the army, but the army did give them what they couldn’t get, perhaps, elsewhere; status, authority, uniform, power, respect of subordinates etc. Sooner or later, the army has to return them to society and they hit the ground with a thump. My advice is to just pick them up gently and point them in the right direction. They are inherently inadequate and need support, in some form or other.
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Name : David25893, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 50, City : London, State : NA, Country : United Kingdom, Occupation : Teacher, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,‘Gig’ line, not rig line. Sounds to me like this guy has issues. I bet he would enjoy one of those up the skirt videos. This person is displaying dangerous behavior and a definite desire to participate in forced voyeur scenarios. Rapists, molesters and kidnappers often precede their serious behavior with stuff like this. The context of his actions implies that he has thought about the possible legal ramifications of what he is doing in that he chooses a more or less public place to observe from. He does this in his free time because he enjoys it.
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Name : manaman, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 28, City : seattle, State : WA, Country : United States, Occupation : software test engineer, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Middle class,Ever think that maybe he’s lonely ore bored at home and that work is a place where there are people and he feel’s comfortable? He may just be spending his days enjoying people watching.
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Name : Danny Harbison, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Asatru, Age : 40, City : Atlanta, State : GA, Country : United States, Occupation : Teacher, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
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