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I had numerous sexual encounters when I was a kid. I thought nothing of it until the brouhaha over sexual abuse started in the late ’70s. I was afraid to say that I had had sex as a kid and liked it after so many people said it was the most awful thing that could happen to a kid. Am I in a very small minority? Has anyone else experienced sex or sex play when fairly young and found it to be no big deal?
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Name : Paul-K, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Episcopalian, Age : 51, City : Orlando, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : corporate executive, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper class,What type of sexual encounters are you talking about? Playing doctor with other kids, intercourse with an adult or something in between? And how young is fairly young?
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Name : Jacqueline-C21035, Gender : F, Age : 26, City : San Jose, State : CA, Country : United States, Social class : Middle class,I too had sex as a child, never with an adult but with children who were approximately my age. We played doctor as very young children (beginning at 4 or 5 or so), but things became more ‘serious’ (real sex) around 11 or 12. And no, I don’t think it did any harm. Once I was in high school and began dating, the sex stopped (so much for ‘raging hormones’). It seems ironic that I had a very active sex life prepubescently, which was then put on hold until I was in college.
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Name : Paul30497, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 53, City : San Antonio, State : TX, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,There’s something patently humiliating and terrifying about being an 11-year-old tomboy and having a trusted family friend wrap you up in a big bear hug. That bear hug then leads to a full, wet kiss, a wandering finger circling your not-even-there breasts, fondling and stroking you. This happens a few times over the course of months before you speak up and get him banished from the family. You’re too scared and ashamed and embarrassed to prosecute, and your well-meaning parents let it go, as you wish. That’s nothing compared to what happens to some children, but it’s what happened to me. I had the great fortune of having my sexuality thrown in my lap at an age when I still thought boys were ‘grody.’ I was terrified of all men I wasn’t related to for many years; then I decided I wasn’t worth anything and slept around a while. Finally, I talked about it with friends and family, and quit being a victim. It’s in my past now and doesn’t affect my life or sexuality at all. Not anymore.
If you enjoyed ‘playing doctor’ with other children, that’s normal developmental behavior. If, however, you’re talking about enjoying being molested by an adult, and enjoying it … wow. If that’s how you’ve chosen to deal with it, fine; just don’t go thinking it’d be a great idea to share your ‘joy’ with another young person. That would make you a pedophile.
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Name : Christine32091, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 32, City : Nashville, State : TN, Country : United States, Occupation : Attorney, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,I grew up near Orlando in the early ’60s. We were out in the boondocks and our peer group was about 6 kids (4 boys and 2 girls). We got curious about sex at about 10 or 11. We had absolutely no information from our parents, and not much supervision. We did just about every permutation you could imagine, and none of us seemed to do anything but have fun. Of course, our parents never had a clue. Even today we are still fairly close, but not sexual.
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Name : John, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, City : Orlando, State : FL, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,I had childhood sex, too, and felt fine about it. I saw it as natural and part of that time and those friendships, and the need to express what was going on in my body with people like myself, i.e. other children, my friends. When the child abuse issue really came into the public mind, I suddenly felt guilty and wondered if I’d abused anyone. We were all between 10 and 12.
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Name : Jenny30932, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 28, City : Edinburgh, State : NA, Country : United Kingdom, Occupation : tutor, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,In nature, animals start copulating pretty much as soon as they are able to reproduce. Society has placed ‘boundaries’ on sex through the years. At what age should we start experimenting with sex? As a pre-teen/early teen, our group of boys and girls did just about everything including penetration. As a young teen I was lucky enough to have a physical relationship with one of the girls in our groups mom. She was incredibly sexy and open minded about sex. I cherish those times, and do not feel any guit or sorrow about the events. Everyone in our group is normal, none of us are rapists or pedophiles.. We all have families and kids.
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Name : Ken26426, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 40, City : Peoria, State : IL, Country : United States, Occupation : sales, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Please visit my site I think you will find it useful. http://www.jennnawlins.proboards40.com/index.cgi
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Name : Jenn, Gender : F, Age : 30, City : new orleans, State : LA, Country : United States,
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