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Why do some people who have children feel that couples who choose to be child-free are ‘selfish’ and ought to reproduce?
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Name : E. Spenser, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 40, City : Durango, State : CO, Country : United States, Occupation : Educator, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Maybe it’s a case of misery loves company. Why is it that as soon as someone gets married they try to get every single person they know married? I don’t have any kids, and I have been told I am selfish for not giving my parents grandchildren and that it is my duty to have children. Selfish is when people have kids and then don’t spend the time to actually raise them.
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Name : Lucy22624, Gender : F, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Age : 26, City : San Jose, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Engineer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,As a single, child-less male, I’ve also been accused of being selfish by my peers who are married with children. However, when I prod back, many of these same people have said that one reason to have children was so that the children could look after them as the parents got older. Where I grew up, there was many cases of the youngest child (typically female) staying at home and looking after the senile parents until they died, sacrificing her chance to live, date, travel, get married, etc. When I pointed out that I thought this reason for having children was selfish, things got heated! 🙂 Some people will agree with you, some will disagree with you. Do what you are comfortable with.
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Name : John, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, City : San Francisco, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Software Engineer, Education level : Over 4 Years of College,While it is the ‘norm’ to get married and have children (I’ve heard it is one way to overcome our mortality), there are many vocations and goals to which one can devote oneself that are unselfish. Unfortunately, some people have difficulty keeping their nose out of other people’s business. Even if one is misunderstood, singles and childless couples have the potential to serve humanity working in soup kitchens, literacy programs, friendships and in countless numbers of ways, not having to worry about where junior is.
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Name : Ronald-V29680, Gender : M, City : Edmonton, Alberta, State : NA, Country : Canada,Why does everyone expect all who are married to give birth? Why is the message that unless we are like rabbits who reproduce like mad, we are less? Before you get any ideas that I have no children, think again. I have two. But my little sister chose to have none. Does this make her and her hubby something less than they are? What would you rather have, a child who is welcomed or a child who is denied, abused and not loved? If you desire kids, great. If you don’t, there should be an attitude of “OK, so ya don’t. It doesn’t mean you are lacking. It means you are smart in what you want in life.” And the worst thing you can do is have a child because you are lonely and want to live your life through them. Like that’s going to fix your past?
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Name : Lindsay22716, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Disability : Deaf, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Episcopalian, Age : 50, City : San Antonio, State : TX, Country : United States, Occupation : Self-Employed, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
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