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Child pornography is wrong, no matter what the circumstances. Children are not mature enough to consent to sex; therefore, any type of sex with children is done against their will and is abusive. People who get off on child pornography need to seek professional help immediately because they have some serious issues to deal with. Anybody who derives pleasure from the abuse of others has serious problems. Many things in our society need to be re-examined from time to time to keep up with the changing world around us, but child pornography is not one of them. Any way you look at it, child pornography is just plain wrong. As a society, we have the responsibility to look out for and protect those who may not be able to do so for themselves.
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Name : Jacqueline-C20989, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Pagan, Age : 25, City : San Jose, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Engineer, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I realize that child pornography is a very sensitive subject for many people, especially for parents, but in spite of the numerous laws against it there still seems to be an underground where it proliferates. Why do some people like it and others don’t? If enough people start to like it, does that mean that our perception of it should be re-evaluated? In some countries the age limit for erotic material differs, so how should that affect our perception of it? Are they always wrong and we always right? The real question is, where does the true majority of opinions on this subject lie? And will we ever question ourselves, or will the religious zealots always win?
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Name : Chrissy, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 25, City : Los Angeles, State : CA, Country : United States, Social class : Middle class,First, I was amazed how your thoughful question was negated by your comment about the religious zealots, a comment that seems to indicate you think photographing sexual acts with young children is merely a target of fanatical religious nuts. Sorry, but that is not the case. Take the recent case of the man who videotaped his rape of a 15-month-old baby, an act that included sodomy, among other things. It was not even his child, not that it makes a difference. Are you telling me it takes a religious zealot to feel outrage over this action?
A second point: Unlike adult pornography, which at least has some semblance of consent, child pornography is largely non-consentual. Some might choose to think that much of child pornography involves teens close to the age of consent, and is therefore on the edge of social acceptability. Do your homework. That is not the case. Some of the worst child porn involves children under 12, which is much younger than the age of consent. The modus operandi of most child pornographers and pedophiles is closely related to adult stalkers, something most of us would see as a clear threat.
And to answer your question about why some people like it: sorry, you’ll have to ask them. Maybe someone into child porn will answer the question. It’s a little like asking a person why a stranger likes country music.
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Name : John K., Gender : M, Age : 27, City : Cranford, State : NJ, Country : United States, Occupation : Chemical Engineer, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Many cultures around the world accept the fact that young people have become of a sexually mature age in the early teens, and it’s very common for marriages to take place at that age. The union of a male and female is an accepted thing. In our Western culture, I think it is the religious zealots who have us so stand-offish on this subject. And it doesn’t help matters that their are some unscrupulous adults who do take advantage of our young people. But the fact that an adult of either gender might find a younger person attractive is only normal and natural. It’s unfortunate that our society doesn’t allow intimate contact between two consenting persons. When I go pick up my child at high school, I notice the young females – they are already fully developed. So I don’t know why our society looks down on it, except to maybe protect them from predators.
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Name : David25850, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 49, City : Seattle, State : WA, Country : United States, Occupation : shipping clerk, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,As a parent, you’re right, I’m appalled by and object to child pornography. I would hardly call myself a religious zealot, but I certainly don’t mind that some folks have morals and that they attempt to live by them. When did having morals become a bad thing? Religion aside, psychologically, it is not only abusive and destructive to have a child participate in sexual acts, but it is exploitative. A child is not emotionally mature enought to make an informed decision about participating in this kind of behavior. And those adults who support this activity by producing the material or viewing it are exploitive and contributors to the abuse of other human beings.
Sex alone is not a bad thing. Sex between consenting adults who choose to record and sell sex is a personal choice; morally, it is debatable for some. Children are to be nurtured, protected and loved. I cannot make that kind of connection with children having sex. And lastly, having been sexually abused, I can tell you that the scars of sexual activity early in a child’s/adolescent’s life is damaging.
There are no redeeming qualities for a child participating in an activity that should be handled by mature, healthy adults. Sex is more than an act. The sooner we approach sex with a sense of respect, love, commitment and spirituality, the better off our society will be. Pardon me if I’m being preachy, but this subject lends itself to a personal moral/belief discussion.
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Name : Zawadi, Gender : F, Race : Black/African American, Age : 34, City : Farmington Hills, State : MI, Country : United States, Occupation : publishing, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,These ‘other’ cultures that you are talking about have absolutely nothing to do with intimate contact between two consenting persons. There are very few cultures around the world where women are not treated as the property of men. This is why the young female in western cultures is protected in the manner that you are attributing to religious zealots. Of course putting a boundary between what is a child and what is an adult is hard because it is different for everyone, but I do believe that young teens should have protection of some kind from older men – who very very rarely want anything other than sex or servitude from them.
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Name : Beth, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 24, City : Edinburgh, State : NA, Country : United Kingdom, Occupation : Post Graduate Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Why are some of us gay and some straight, or prefer black partners to white? The question of personal likes and dislikes are what make us all unique and interesting. Remember that there was a time when a white man who loved a black woman was considered a pervert, and was forbidden to marry her. The question of wrong versus right can only be answered by the parties involved, and while some may argue that a minor can’t make an adequate judgment, I counter that there’s no magical difference between an 18-year-old and a 17-year-364-day-year-old.
Some people my age are less socially/sexually mature than some teenagers. While the sexual experience itself may be physically harmful to the child, I believe most of the psychological trauma caused to the child comes from the “wrong-sayers.” Someday, either the laws will change, or they’ll just won’t be enforced.
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Name : Jeff31161, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 31, City : San Francisco, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Software Quality Engineer, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,The age of consent for sex in this country is 16, yet the age of consent to pose for explicit material is 18. Are we trying to send a message that it is OK to have sex when you are younger but not for people to think about sex with you until you are older? To say nothing of the fact that several of my peers (not all or a majority) lost their virginity at the ripe old ages of 14 and 15 understanding perfectly well what they were doing and taking precautions against pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases better than many people ten years their senior. Teens understand more than adults give us credit for and less than we think we do. If one of my friends wanted to pose nude in Playboy, she would comprehend perfectly what she was doing.
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Name : Alex J., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Jewish, Age : 17, City : Elkins Park, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : High School student, Education level : Less than High School Diploma, Social class : Middle class,Once in researching a story on pedophiles, I read several publications by a group that advocates sex with children, NAMBLA (the National Association of Man-Boy Love Advocates, I think). They believe society oppresses them, and children, by not allowing them to pursue ‘love’ relationships with one another. They argue that kids are more sexually aware than adults want to believe, and it’s wrong to deny them the opportunity to explore their sexuality. My response: 1. Children develop their sexuality gradually and at their own pace (beginning with self-exploration, then ‘playing doctor’ and other sex play with kids their age, etc.) Adults, though, introduce children to sex acts that the child would probably not have discovered yet at that stage of his or her development. This forces children into the realm of adult sexuality before they are ready for it. 2. Pedophiles are attracted to youth – period. When the kid gets older, the adult almost always moves on to another, younger conquest. (In NAMBLA magazines, they included letters from readers who described going through a series of ‘love affairs’ with several children and who preferred children of a very specific age range). For the adult, this is the expected outcome of the relationship. For the child, rejection like this can be devastating. 3. Childhood is the most impressionable and far-reaching stage of life. So, having a sexual relationship with an adult is something that will most likely go on to impact several aspects of the child’s life, including self-esteem and ability to develop and maintain relationships. Adults in adult-child sexual relationships are not nearly this affected by it, whereas children will be affected for life. 4. It is true that children often consent to sex with adults. But there are many reasons for this. Some feel pressured or intimidated; others do it to get approval. NAMBLA suggested that its members develop friendships with kids and take them to amusement parks, buy them toys, etc. Many kids – especially underprivileged kids – consent to sex in order to get things, whether it be attention and approval or toys and trips to Disneyland. 5. In an adult-child relationship, there is ALWAYS an imbalance of power skewered against the child. The adult has rights, privileges, financial freedom, mobility, etc. whereas the child is dependent on adults for those things. Therefore, sex with children is exploitative. Trying to justify it as anything else is delusional.
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Name : Eileen, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 29, City : New Orleans, State : LA, Country : United States, Occupation : Writer/editor, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,Nobody gets to choose their sexual preferences. From what I hear, pedophiles (and I’m talking about a preference for young children, not semi-adults) don’t choose to be attracted to kids in that way, and many/most feel ashamed or disgusted with themselves for it. It seems to be innate, like being gay/straight, or having a ‘thing’ for blondes, or high heels. Nobody has ever been ‘converted’ from a sexual preference, it’s too central to our being. Why is it like this? Your guess is as good as mine, nobody knows for sure.
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Name : PW30315, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 33, City : Sydney, State : NA, Country : Australia, Occupation : I.T., Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,David, you honestly think a young 16 year old girl is going to find a (her friends father) what ever age you are, male attractive? What are you thinking you have nothing in common, music, clothes, interests of any type. It is something you need to take your filthy mind off!!!!! They are our children and that is why we have laws to protect the inocent young minds. They are too young to even really be thinking off sex they are just starting to experience these feelings and are confused and vunrable. How would you like to know someone might be thinking off your child that way????? What is this sick world coming too??
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Name : tana, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 25, City : edmonton, State : NA, Country : Canada, Occupation : Reception, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
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