[S-Mahoney]

When married fathers cheat on their wives, do they consider that they are cheating on their children also? Do they think their children hurt as much as their wives, regardless of age?
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[Ama]

Yes, it hurts your kids as much as the wife. Sometimes more. A child, even a teenage child cannot work these issues out as well as the wife. They feel that they were as lied to as their mom’s were, and that the time dad spent with his mistress was not only time he should’ve spent with mom, but also with them. A girl will have a very hard time trusting men in the future, and have very low self esteem once dad has cheated. A boy can lose respect for his father, and then begin to feel he has no positive male role models. He will at times feel that he is a bad person, or going to be a bad husband himself one day. These effects can last a lifetime, and destroy their families one day as well. If a man cheats on his wife, he needs to take the pain his kids are going through just as seriously as he does his wife’s pain. Family counseling is a must, not just marriage counseling.

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[answergirl23739]

it isnt just men who cheat. wives do as well. my mother cheated on my father and destroyed our family. fortunantly now i am healed as is the rest of my family and we are all getting along. but it was the most difficult time of my 25 years of life.

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[april23751]

My father cheated on my mother and I felt horrible betrayed by him. They divorced when I was about 14 and it took me a good 5 years to forgive, and at times I am not even sure if I have completely.

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Name : april23751, Gender : F, Age : 28, City : fowlerville, State : MI, Country : United States, Occupation : nurse, 

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