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In response to the idea that nice guys finish last, I would have to say it depends on who you ask. I myself am about to marry a ‘nice guy’, and when I was still dating I did not give any of my time to men who treated women anything but like a lady, especially not like whores. I have seen this happen, though among girlfriends of mine, so I know it happens. Basically, you need to ask yourself what kind of woman you want. Would you want a girl who doesn’t repect herself, much less you and desires or requires this type of treatment? Or, would you prefer a girl wants a man to treat her with repect and dignity, and will give you the same. I think a lot of this treatment comes from insecurity and youthful indescresion. Girls may not know what they want, or may be slow learners when it comes to the ‘bad boys’. I would say that if you are a nice guy looking for a nice girl, be nice. In the end, if you aren’t acting like the person you really are, the relationship won’t last anyway.
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Name : CV, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 21, City : Gainesville, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,I agree with this wholeheartedly. If one changes what one is to be with a women, or for any reason whatsoever, eventually one will grow to dislike what one has become, a *fake*, and will begin to hate the reason of one’s becoming a *fake*. Be what you truly are, it is truly not worth it to be with a woman who is not attracted to your real self. I once settled into a complent relationship which was eating me out from the inside. Fortunately, in one of the lowest points of my life, a wondrous occurence took place–I met an incredible person, so perfect for me, one that I could not even imagine I would meet in my life, a friend and a partner, and an equal.
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Name : Gleb, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 18, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : Student,It is true that for some reason, many females are attracted to ‘bad boys’. I think it is b/c of the mystery involved. However, believe me about this: you will be much better off if you return to your nice guy routine. Women may make the mistake of picking bad guys, but sooner or later they realize what they have done and they’re out the door, and youre alone. Be a nice guy, and you’ll end up much happier in the long run. 🙂
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Name : Deana, City : Miami, State : FL, Country : United States,From a purely biological perspective, it is in a woman’s best interest to choose an agressive person as they tend to dominate in a society. By capturing those genes to merge with her own a woman increases her chances of propagating into the next generation. However, this is at least a two variable optimization problem in that, there is a counter influence which penalizes a woman who chooses a partner who is so agressive that they abandon the woman and her children to their own devices. While the children are liable to have the kind of genes that allow them to florish, they may not receive the necessary support that will give them enough of a start in the subsequent generation. They may find themselves relegated to a ‘Criminal’ underclass which eventually goes extinct. Ideally, from a biological perspective, a woman’s best chances for survival come from a man who dominates within his domain, but shows at least enough concern for his offspring that they survive and obtain position within the next generation. This does’nt mean that such a man must be particularly caring toward the woman, nor faithful for that matter so long as he provides well enough for the mother of his children to enable her to nurture her offspring. This may leave the woman feeling unfullfilled, but her children have the greatest chance for success within the social strata that we call society. These factors however do appear to be changing and new strange attractors may prevail which change this biological wisdom. However, genetics is a fairly slow adaptive algorithm and women may find them selves victims of those biological tendencies even when they are not rewarded in the current social structures anymore.
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Name : Gerry-Hamm, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States,
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