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C’mon ladies, admit it: You like bad boys who don’t live by rules and treat you wrong. I don’t get why, though. What is sexy about living outside the law and hurting other people, including those most close to you?
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Name : Mickey M., Gender : M, Religion : Catholic, Age : 18, City : Brighton Beach, Brooklyn, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : Longshoreman, Education level : Less than High School Diploma, Social class : Upper middle class,Not all women like bad boys, and I’ll never understand why some do. My boyfriend treats me like a queen, and I love him. I have never been into people who treat me badly, and never will be. I don’t know what kind of women you tend to meet; certainly I don’t know anyone young or old who enjoyed, at any level, being in a relationship in which they were treated badly. And no, breaking the law isn’t at all a turn-on. Don’t be like my boyfriend’s best friend – two weeks ago he came up with the theory that ‘you treat your girlfriend like s**t and she loves it’ He put it into practice {cheated on her} and now it looks like he’s going to lose her – after two years of being together. Oh well, scratch that theory.
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Name : Netta, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 18, City : Armidale, State : NA, Country : Australia, Occupation : Student, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Middle class,I think it’s a question of perception. If a guy treats everyone with respect, class and dignity, the girl may not distinguish much of a difference between her and everyone else with his behavior. but, if a guy treats everyone like trash, except the girl, then there is an obvious difference and she feels ‘special’. I do not understand the abusive relationships, and won’t try to explain those.
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Name : Chris32201, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, City : Dallas, State : TX, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper class,I have often wondered the same thing. I believe there is no simple answer; however, it seems there are some obvious ovservations. I’m sure some women are attracted to the sheer excitement and adventure these ‘bad boys’ provide. ‘Opposites attract,’ as the saying goes. Others probably don’t know any better. Maybe they grew up in a troubled home and have sadly grown accustomed to being surrounded by drama and issues. Other girls may be trying to get their family’s attention or, quite frankly, p*** them off for some reason. The good news is this: Not all girls are anxious to hang out with a loser. There are plenty of women looking for a good man.
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Name : Joe J., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 30, City : Porterville, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I think that it is partially due to the idea that ‘We want what we can’t have.’ A nice guy who treats a girl too good might not allow for any challenge. Sometimes a bad boy is just enough for a good girl to work on.
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Name : Jessica, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 20, City : Jacksonville, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : student/waitress, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,The vast majority of women have low self-esteem. That’s why we’re always wearing makeup and trying to lose weight. Certain women would stay with a man that treated them badly because they don’t want to be alone.
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Name : Elena25295, Gender : F, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 26, City : Los Angeles, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Secretary, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I admit it, I love bad boys. There’s just something really sexy about a man giving in to his overload of testosterone and breaking stuff. I think it might also have something to do with the fact that even though he doesn’t care about laws or being polite, he will put out the effort to treat his girl right. Seeing the softer side of a bad boy creates a very intimate connection.
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Name : Sarah, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 21, City : Salem, State : OR, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,I’m sorry if you have found this true. I’ve had people ask me would you rather a good-guy or a bad-guy? I always say a good-guy with a little bit of bad, rather than a bad-guy with some good. A bit of bad I think shows aggressison (sp?) and the ability to protect and defend you. one doesn’t think this consciencely (sp?), but instictively. A bad guy goes to jail no matter how nice he is.
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Name : DN, Gender : F, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 17, City : Orlando, State : FL, Country : United States, Social class : Upper middle class,I have noticed the same thing, both in myself and in my friends. I am in my mid-30’s now and married to a great guy. But while I was in my 20’s, I was hopelessly attracted to selfish men who had completely unreasonable ideas about what a relationship meant (everything revolved around their needs; mine were ignored). I have seen the same trend in many women, particularly in their late 20’s and early 30’s. These are women who are very attractive, smart, with good jobs, and from loving families. My theory is that these women are really ambivalent about being in a relationship — they feel they want one desperately, but constantly pick guys who are afraid of commitment and who are too selfish to ever have a real relationship. Most women who are raised to be independent are truly afraid of being ‘swallowed up’ by a relationship; but society pressures them to find a man, so they find themselves attracted to men who will never really end up working. Just a theory.
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Name : Marcia22192, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 35, City : San Francisco, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Sales, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,I would bet it has something to do with societal expectations of men; the ‘real’ man stereotype is quite an asshole, yet that’s what men and women are raised to believe is the manliest and therefore sexiest way for men to be. This way we have women running around getting confused between what they want/need (excluding women with serious psychological trauma, of course) and what they’ve been taught is what everyone wants/should want. The same thing goes for guys who date women who are incompatible with them because the woman is ‘a step up’ appearance-wise; what we want and what we are supposed to want are easy to confuse.
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Name : lavone26102, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 24, City : eugene, State : OR, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,
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