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Why do white men immediately lower their eyes when a black woman they were just looking at (usually in the street) makes eye contact with them?
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Name : Denise C., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 37, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States,This question probably shouldn’t be as specific as it is. Unexpected eye contact with anyone, regardless of race or gender, can feel uncomfortable, and the natural reaction is often to look away. If you were a white male or anyone else, you would probably be able to substitute that gender/ethnicity for ‘black woman’ in your question.
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Name : Adam25143, Gender : M, City : Providence, State : RI, Country : United States,The good news, Denise, is that what you are experiencing is not race-related. The simple fact is that men hate to be caught checking out an attractive female. I do it myself and have to laugh at me for it. It’s silly, I know, and is probably a learned behavior from high school when we didn’t want the girls to know we might be attracted to them or think they are cute. If you are experiencing this a lot, relax, it means you’re a ‘looker’. That’s a good thing. 🙂
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Name : Pete S., Gender : M, Age : 51, City : Orlando, State : FL, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College,Myself (white appearance-white, Latino and just ‘a drop’ black), I often look at black women, but from past experience most of the ones with any class won’t have anything to do with dating white guys, so, you look away. That and the difficulties of interracial relationships. I guess it is a case of ‘it would be nice, but forget about it.’ Kind of like a person on a diet looking through a deli window and thinking, ‘Darn those cookies look good, but, I am on a diet.’
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Name : Ed, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 40, City : Pontiac, State : MI, Country : United States, Occupation : Legal, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,I’ve noticed something similar myself, but more of a general behavior. It seems like people in New York City (where I note you are from) tend to avoid eye contact when in transit. I work in a section of Queens, and it is the same way. And it’s fairly true across all racial/cultural divisions as well. Only people of similar race/culture seem to want to have eye contact. I think it might have something to do with the culture around here. I don’t think it is something specific to black women/white men.
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Name : John K., Gender : M, Age : 27, City : Cranford, State : NJ, Country : United States, Occupation : Chemical Engineer, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I have always found black women attractive. In my hometown of Spokane, I have seen only a few black women. But last summer I got to go back East. The first place I went was Chicago. I remember thinking, “Wow, I did not know there were this many black women.” When I was downtown, I met some lovely black women, and they showed me all over the town. I am still friends with them. I noticed a lot of black women in Chicago are really nice. Then I went to New York. I remember thinking the same thing: “Look at all these black women.” When I was in the mall, I saw some black women and thought they were making eye contact with me, so I started to approach them. I heard their voices get loud, and one talked to this black male and pointed my way. He approached me. He asked why I was looking at his sis in a racist way. I told him I thought she was attractive. He started laughing and said “my bad” and walked off. I noticed in New York when I made eye contact with black females, I got a hostile look from them. In general, a lot of my friends who are white males are afraid to approach black women, but they do find them attractive. Maybe black women have a grudge? Or maybe white males think that if they mess up in a relationship with a black female, they’ll have to answer to her big bro or pops?
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Name : Chris L., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : white latino, Religion : Christian, Age : 25, City : spokane, State : WA, Country : United States, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower class,Going off one’s diet is sometimes a very satisfying experience! I thank you for shedding light on my query!
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Name : Denise C., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 37, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States,I chuckled at the response of maybe they might have to deal with ‘big bro’ or ‘pops’. This should not just be a white male concern but a concern for any man who is ogling any woman of any race that they deem offensive. Grudge??? I don’t understand. More along the lines of disrespect. I can’t explain the rules but I know that there is a certain way you approach people when you want to get to know someone and another look that equates to ‘sex’. I think a good rule to remember is that STARING is rude.
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Name : Monica, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Baptist, Age : 35, City : Chicago, State : IL, Country : United States, Occupation : Insurance, Education level : 2 Years of College,
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