[Zawadi24080]

I am dating a man from the Ivory Coast. He is very bright, polite and interesting. When I’ve shared my excitement with others, most of them have warned me that African men are controlling, sexist, macho. Their comments shocked me. I’ve heard some stereotypes before, but I did not realize how seriously people buy into them. Besides what I’ve said about my friend, these individuals do not know him. Why would they judge him so harshly? Have others experienced similar reactions when relaying happiness about a new romance with Africans or other foreigners? By the way, my suitor is a citizen, so my friends aren’t worried about him trying to get a wife for citizenship.
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Name : Zawadi24080, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Age : 34, City : Detroit, State : MI, Country : United States, 

[Sherolyn]

You must be sure to discuss important issues, such as family and children before this relationship gets too serious. Some, not all, African cultures do support that macho attitude among the men. You have to inquire about his cultural beliefs, rather than assuming that his values are the same as yours, just because he’s a good guy. I have a friend now who had triplets with her African husband. Later, after he cheated on her and she decided to leave him, he tried to kidnap the children on several occasions and take them back to Africa. Of course this kind of thing happens all the time in many cultures. But, where this man is from, children are considered the property of the husband. Therefore, it is very important to discuss these issues and observe the way his family operates. Sometimes, people who seem great under good circumstances are anything but when things go bad. Just something to think about, but I hope your man really is as good as you say. You know him better than your friends, but just know that they do have your best interest at heart. Good luck!

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Name : Sherolyn, Gender : F, Race : Black/African American, Age : 21, City : Tallahassee, State : FL, Country : United States, 

[K. Smith]

If you truly love him, date him; however, be careful because many African men practice polygamy. My husband’s cousin married an African and when he took her to Africa to meet his family, she also met his six wives.

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Name : K. Smith, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Afican-American, Native-American, and Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 21, City : Monroe, State : LA, Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class, 

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