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In our society, being thin is considered attractive, whereas being fat is not. So when your sister calls you a pine needle, it is not considered as much of an insult as when you call her fat. This does not mean it is OK for her to insult you or that it doesn’t hurt when she does, but it might explain why you get in trouble and she doesn’t. I think the best thing for you to do is sit down with your sister and parents – when you are not fighting – and talk about it. Tell them how it makes you feel when your sister calls you a pine needle, and when you get in trouble for throwing insuLts and she doesn’t. If you approach the situation calmly and rationally, you will probably get some good results. It’s natural to fight with your sister, but keep in mind that she is probably the person most likely to stick by you throughout your life.
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Name : Lucy-H22455, Gender : F, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Age : 25, City : San Jose, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Engineer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Every time my sister and I have a fight, she calls me a pine needle because I am skinny. It hurts my feelings when she says that, so I call her fat. I get in trouble for that, but no one yells at her. So how can I get her to stop saying I’m as skinny as a pine needle?
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Name : Kay, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : no religion, Age : 13, City : Bridgewater, State : MA, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : Less than High School Diploma,I have battled my weight issue most of my life. And yes, I envied thin people. I worked with a woman who was the skinniest thing walking. She wasn’t that smart, she definitely wasn’t that attractive, yet I wanted to be able to do what she did – eat with abandon. So I used to make comments about her thinness being something I wanted. She came up to me one day and said something I have not forgotten. Very nicely she said: ‘You know how you feel when someone mentions your weight? I feel the same about mine. I am very self-conscious about how I look because I am so thin.’ I hadn’t thought she would be, because to me, being thin was the be-all-and-end-all of life. But she put it in perspective for me, and I never again remarked on her weight. And that is how it should be, I think. It’s rude to comment on anyone’s weight – fat or thin.
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Name : Lisa22810, Gender : F, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 39, City : Fairfax, State : VA, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College,I think you have a fair argument there. Just one thing I would change: don’t call her fat, call her ‘pine cone’ or ‘pine tree.’ It is then exactly the same as her calling you ‘pine needle.’ Even if the parents don’t like it, they’ll have to acknowledge it’s no different from what she has said to you.
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Name : BB23287, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 26, City : Edinburgh, State : NA, Country : United Kingdom, Occupation : PhD, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
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